Who is an introvert infact?

I have carved out my definition for it. Introverts are quiet people with a penchant for minimally stimulating environment. They have issues with association and indeed feel recharged by themselves preferring less external stimulation.

They prefer to derive joy that is intrinsic, they hardly associate and revel in their loneliness, preferring it to association with others.

Extroverts on the other hand are the ‘ghen ghen’ type. Those who are fueled and energized by being around others. These type of guys prefer external stimulation.

In today’s world, we live in an environment that is biased towards the extroverts. people are assumed to be rewarded based on their level of sociability and ability to appear gregarious, noisy, energetic and cheerful.

One of the most difficult thing ever is finding love as an introvert. it seems like an uphill task since dating someone requires that you meet them and then start ‘catching’ feelings, shey?

You may realize that how can you meet someone when you are naturally a quiet personality and then mingling isn’t your forte. Here are some remarkable ways of finding love as an introvert.

1. Use the internet.

Introverts are great writers really, therefore, communicating on social media platforms shouldn’t be a problem.

If you have issues with relating with people vocally, then chatting makes it better. Mingle online and hope for a real date sometime.

Leverage the strength you have to connect with someone you have a liking for. I have met a lot of introverts online and they write and relate extremely well.

This is a good tool for online communication and social engagement. Be careful with your online details though, do not give too much information or offer too much personal details.

Start from online, gravitate to trying to speak on phone and hopefully, hope that you get to meet on date. By then you would have become more comfortable and then offline dating becomes easy and less daunting.

2. Recruit Friends and Family

As an introvert, the thought of approaching people at events and hot spots might make you cringe. To avoid such nightmares, recruit your closest family and friends. Inform them of your need to meet new people, maybe even to date (winks).

They sure know you better than anyone else, and as such are in the position to link you up with the kind of person that fits your personality and demeanor.

3. Try to engage in Social activities

This is another important area in finding love. There are lots of social engagement with the platform for you to meet dating prospects.

Gyms (for those who love to work out), Creative writing classes, volunteer work, sport activities are social activities that could bring you closer to your other half.

The more you meet different personality, the more open and flexible you will be with regards to speaking to them and eventually mingling.

Even going to Shoprite, or other groceries store around might not be a bad idea! You could do some window shopping, try go see a movie.

Just about anything that would make you engage in any social activity. Believe me, it works!

4. Be Open

Simply being open to men talking to you will make a huge difference. I mean, it won’t make any sense when you are introverted, on the look out for dates and then you keep the ‘Resting bitch face’. you need to let your guards down, once in a while. You are a deep thoughted and very reflective babe. So it is easy for you to realize those that don’t share same ideals as yours. You can easily separate the grain from the chaff.

Use your charm, body language is key. In social gathering and events, if there are people you want to mingle with and you are kind of shy. make them look your way, Signs and green lights albeit in a smart way can be critical to what is next. Donot turn every date down, it is only a date and it’s meant to evaluate your choices and discover your personality. Accept it!

5. Finally, be yourself

The laws of attraction states that the best way to attract someone is to be yourself. Acknowledge your introversion and be proud of who you are.

Do not go desperate, work on your confidence level. Trust me,that there is someone out there for you.

Yours in Love

Deedee






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weldone

Summary abeg

Really? You think it's that easy, huh?

AlienStar:
Really? You think it's that easy, huh?

It takes a step Sis!...

Do you think It's that difficult?

Kakamorufu:
weldone

Thank You Sir

I'm soooo extrovert I guess...

TrapQueen77:
I'm soooo extrovert I guess...

AlienStar:
Really? You think it's that easy, huh?

Not as hard as you think, I am an introvert to the core and I can attest to what the op listed above though my gf does find it hard to understand most times btw I am in a long distance relationship

Opistorincos:


Not as hard as you think, I am an introvert to the core and I can attest to what the op listed above though my gf does find it hard to understand most times btw I am in a long distance relationship

God bless you Bros!!

Tell Her........

deturla:


God bless you Bros!!

Tell Her........

Lalasticlala coman c beta thread ere o

The write up is on point. I think we can even start from here.

tsilva:
The write up is on point. I think we can even start from here.

Thank You.....Oyaa let's start!

It's not that easy

that's so me.. NSG thanks for this..

What about male introvert biko... Help

I don't find all this tips useful as it's disadvantages outweighs the advantages.
1)Lotta guys you meet on Internet are either fake, immature or lack respect for the opposite sex
2)Recruiting friends?Is making friends a job?Where will an introvert get the courage to talk to someone to get friend for him/her?Introverts don't talk at all,we keep to ourselves a lot
3)What if I am not interested in gymnastic activities or there is no writing or reading club around me?Remember it's common in cities like Lagos than towns like Oyo,Osun etc.
4)Introverts don't like to be taken for granted and we don't like to bother other people with our troubles reason why we can't be open
5)Admitting you are an introvert is being yourself.
#FrustratedIntrovert#

Florblu:
I don't find all this tips useful as it's disadvantages outweighs the advantages.
1)Lotta guys you meet on Internet are either fake, immature or lack respect for the opposite sex
2)Recruiting friends?Is making friends a job?Where will an introvert get the courage to talk to someone to get friend for him/her?Introverts don't talk at all,we keep to ourselves a lot
3)What if I am not interested in gymnastic activities or there is no writing or reading club around me?Remember it's common in cities like Lagos than towns like Oyo,Osun etc.
4)Introverts don't like to be taken for granted and we don't like to bother other people with our troubles reason why we can't be open
5)Admitting you are an introvert is being yourself.
#FrustratedIntrovert#

Do me a PM...Let's talk!....This one is long oh!!

deturla:


Do me a PM...Let's talk!....This one is long oh!!

Will it make any difference?
Let's learn together here,your teachings might help others

Florblu:
I don't find all this tips useful as it's disadvantages outweighs the advantages.
1)Lotta guys you meet on Internet are either fake, immature or lack respect for the opposite sex
2)Recruiting friends?Is making friends a job?Where will an introvert get the courage to talk to someone to get friend for him/her?Introverts don't talk at all,we keep to ourselves a lot
3)What if I am not interested in gymnastic activities or there is no writing or reading club around me?Remember it's common in cities like Lagos than towns like Oyo,Osun etc.
4)Introverts don't like to be taken for granted and we don't like to bother other people with our troubles reason why we can't be open
5)Admitting you are an introvert is being yourself.
#FrustratedIntrovert#

on point.....you be confirm introvert.....no mind all this people here,easier said than done.....don't be frustrated though,things will work out fine,with time

Florblu:
I don't find all this tips useful as it's disadvantages outweighs the advantages.
1)Lotta guys you meet on Internet are either fake, immature or lack respect for the opposite sex
2)Recruiting friends?Is making friends a job?Where will an introvert get the courage to talk to someone to get friend for him/her?Introverts don't talk at all,we keep to ourselves a lot
3)What if I am not interested in gymnastic activities or there is no writing or reading club around me?Remember it's common in cities like Lagos than towns like Oyo,Osun etc.
4)Introverts don't like to be taken for granted and we don't like to bother other people with our troubles reason why we can't be open
5)Admitting you are an introvert is being yourself.
#FrustratedIntrovert#

Frustrated introvert?

Florblu:
I don't find all this tips useful as it's disadvantages outweighs the advantages.

my dear op has a point, I am an introvert,during my childhood days I barely have friends tho ppl always wanna be my friend but I can't kip up with their noisy and busy type of life so I usually decline, but I kw I had to work on myself even if nt all aspect I have to try and look for a way to mingle with ppl no matter what so when I got admitted into the higher institution, I tried my best and make some changes tho nt easy but with time I was able to make Some friends anyhe lols, but u did. I remember when I cme home after my first semester then mum was complaining abt my talking too much and asking what happened to me lolzzz.

mikigen:
my dear op has a point, I am an introvert,during my childhood days I barely have friends tho ppl always wanna be my friend but I can't kip up with their noisy and busy type of life so I usually decline, but I kw I had to work on myself even if nt all aspect I have to try and look for a way to mingle with ppl no matter what so when I got admitted into the higher institution, I tried my best and make some changes tho nt easy but with time I was able to make Some friends anyhe lols, but u did. I remember when I cme home after my first semester then mum was complaining abt my talking too much and asking what happened to me lolzzz.

We are different
lotta people switch character easily

Im so introverted i keep to myself even on social media. But Family did a great job of exposure in my life.

Introverts are sometimes mistaken to be soft and gullible.

Be yourself.

chrisseun:
Im so introverted i keep to myself even on social media. But Family did a great job of exposure in my life.

Introverts are sometimes mistaken to be soft and gullible.

Hmmmn..... Thank God for family!!