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Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 9:00am On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness:Most of us are women, and understand what it means to birth and nurture a child. Even with a doting husband and father's support it's still not a walk in the park This man and his family VOLUNTARILY abandoned Chioma 23 years ago to bear the burned alone. And now, just because they think they have arrived, they are here to dangle incentives and 'compensate' her . . . . it's beyond insulting! |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 9:02am On Aug 17, 2016 |
kaziblake:Sorry ma oh, but why is it making you angry? Are u chioma? Can we hear her part if the story? It seems more like a telenovela story to me. Boy falls in love with girl, gets girl pregnant. Rich parents are horrified that thier heir impregnated the driver's daughter, one of lowly status. Rich parents seperate thier son from the poor girl and send him abroad to secure his future. The son was never aware the girl was pregnant. Years later the truth comes out. Son is shocked at parents behaviour and sets out to look for his lost love. It honestly may not be the boy's fault. [size=5pt]And yez, i watch telenovella. Sue me. [/size] 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 9:06am On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Errrm . . . but that's not OP's story. According to him, his brother was very well aware of the child before leaving the country. And he wasn't as helpless as your telenovella portrays . . . he was already a graduate back then so it's not like he was some dependent teenager. |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by cococandy(f): 9:31am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Spirit1: Who said he shouldn't? Did I? Anyway if you guys can't understand the outrage at the young man's post let me explain it. Rilokey I doubt anyone is jealous of his US location or whatever. The thing is people (and rightly so) are fed up with absentee fathers. No matter what their excuse may be. In some cases he may not even be guilty (I.e he never knew he had a kid until today) still he gets to suffer from some of the already built up angst generally directed at absentee fathers. Much less this one who has known about the existence of the child for 21years and only chose now to seek him out. You expect people to jump up to help him without anyone pointing out that he's wronged this child? Isn't that the hope of many dead beat dads (not saying this one is). You often hear callous heartless comments like "when the child grows he will come looking for his father". Especially here on this forum. Maybe that was their belief but it didn't work out and then they decided to seek him out themselves. But that's just an assumption. Either way, that many men can comfortably exist knowing that the child they brought into this world doesn't have a father in his life or is suffering with poor single mom is enough to make people angry. This isn't a simple case of lying or cheating or stealing and then have remorse later. No one is without sin including me but abandoning your child is way up there. Do you remember him once a year and say to yourself "well let the mom handle that." Or do you totally close that part of your mind that knows he exists? I can't live a day without knowing that my child is alright. Maybe that's just me. Sorry if we disappointed you by not giving him a pat on the back and telling him everything will be alright. . Even if he didn't totally deserve every condemnation he got on this thread, he (and you) should know that it's to be expected. We can't go around acting like it's okay for men to keep abandoning their kids. Many many are doing that. Leaving the ladies to suffer the consequences alone. Plus The derision and mockery from people (even on this forum) against single mothers as if they got themselves pregnant. The judgment people pass on them as if they are second-hand human beings just because of a natural consequence of having sex. "Can you marry a single mother" is often asked and then men who have had sex before will sit on their high and mighty thrones of judgment to state how they are too good for 'after one' women. No. It's not okay. You guys can't keep doing that and expect the whole world to smile at you when you decide to come enjoy the results of the mother's labor decades later. I'm sorry if seeing a man who abandoned his kid upsets me. It's a normal feeling because I'm an advocate of fairness. No I'm not going kiss him on the forehead and say "now everything is alright." He fvcked up and should be told that. And no I don't have information about Chioma. Anyone who has should please help the OP. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 9:35am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Spirit1: Guy no worry, your bro will find the boy. Try other avenues like radio or television. I dont think you'll get much help here. Too many bitter people. Abeg make nobody quote me o. Those bashing the op continue. I supose u get some kind of cheap therapy out of making others feel as miserable as possible. Even if the op's brother was wrong in what he did TWENTY THREE YEARS AGO, he is trying his best possible to make amends. Many of you that believe in karma dont even know how it works. You too will desperately need help some day for a wrong u did in the past. Like u guys say..... Karma loading. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by cococandy(f): 9:46am On Aug 17, 2016 |
I wish all you do-gooders would be so compassionate like this when judging single mothers. But we all know that's not the case. Hypocrites. Of course we are bitter. At least on this issue I know I am. So for those touting the word about, I don't consider it an insult. I'm bitter. What's not to be bitter about? Dead beat dads and their apologists everywhere. Children suffering for it and their moms being blamed for it. Then runaway dad appears when the child is grown and anyone who's not patting him on the back for showing up late to the party is the bitter bad person?. Heck yea. Queen yoyo bitters right here. BTW The longer the time, the worse the offense. This is not about something he did 23 yrs ago but something he kept doing after finding out the result of his actions. If we are to say it's okay now because it happened 23yrs ago, that means a father who abandoned his child 40years ago is better than the one who left and came back 2yrs later huh? Yea it's not so bad since its been so long he abandoned the child. 4 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 9:46am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Yaksson: I quoted u, do your worst Well said bro. |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 9:48am On Aug 17, 2016 |
RiloKiley:Epic!!! 10000likes! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 9:52am On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness:I have been trying to compose my contribution to this thread since yesterday in the best way possible. You just did justice to it. I dnt understand this "bring him down" attitude by most nairalanders. We shout and scream jungle justice is bad when we see them on front page, not knowing we practice our own "e-jungle justice" here on nairaland. Unfortunately its a psychological issue that will take alot of posts like yours to effect any change. May God help us all . 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by cococandy(f): 9:58am On Aug 17, 2016 |
The ultimate encouragement runaway dads have is that they know when the time comes for them to face the consequences of ruining their kid/s' and the mom/s' lives, emotional blackmailers will spring up in their defense and make the victims or those who feel sorry for them look like the bad people. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 10:38am On Aug 17, 2016 |
cococandy: Did you notice how most of the people supporting him are men? And yet they claim 'all men are not the same' . . . . Obviously 100% of the guys on this thread will do exactly what OP's brother did . . . where does that leave the women . . single mothers of loose morals. But then I also blame the women involved . . they are the ones having children for loser who thinks they don't have to face their mistakes until when it's convenient enough to do so. . . . when contraceptives are everywhere. Even some married men are not left out of it. Many men would gladly abandon their wives and children for their concubines. Nigerian men generally believe that when the children grow up, they will come searching for them, so they don't have to hang around to be a father. That's why you see a lot of single mothers and divorced women raising kids alone . . Did they conceive the kids on their own? The outrage from the men on this thread is honestly upsetting. See them acting like we are the evil ones here . . . . Shebi all of them have daughters or will do someday . . . I pray Chioma's fate befall their daughters . . . Amen. At least the man who is responsible will come back in about 20-something years to compensate them and their daughters, so all is not lost. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 10:41am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Askseek: Hmmm. This is worth thinking about spirit1. Just saying. |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by cococandy(f): 10:46am On Aug 17, 2016 |
And they are trying to make it into people who jealous bla bla bla issue. Pfft. Jealous of what? Because they aren't women and will never understand the hurt these women go through. The discrimination of being in a judgmental society like ours where being a woman is already an offense to begin with. How much more when you're one who's 'loose' enough to get pregnant outside wedlock. And they think we are the bad ones. I know the posters on this thread. I'll be waiting for them next time they lift their itchy fingers to type something against single mothers. Ujoan: 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 10:52am On Aug 17, 2016 |
baby124: Not necessary babe. Not necessary at all. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 10:57am On Aug 17, 2016 |
RiloKiley: You must be new here. Welcome to. Nairaland |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 11:10am On Aug 17, 2016 |
kaziblake: 2 Likes
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Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by kaziblake(f): 11:28am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Ujoan:They are better off without the so called dead beat dad |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by kaziblake(f): 11:28am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Ujoan: |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by kaziblake(f): 11:33am On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness:I'm not lying |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 11:39am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Hahaha See them squawking about like pained vultures who have been denied thier next meal. You forgot how karma works right? After wishing someone evil u r now scared that same evil will happen to u, and quickly trying to justify yourselves Karma will definitely get you! No be me talk am, its just the way it is. As for me, i wish all parties well 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 11:45am On Aug 17, 2016 |
kaziblake: Anyone can say they know chioma. The woman that lives below me is a single mother. Her name is chioma esther something. Chocolate coloured, a little on the light side but not so much. Has a 20something year old kid. She's currently a nurse. Will ask her about her history and see if there is a correlation. I didnt want to say anything earlier so as not to raise the op's hopes unnecessarily. So you see, it might be my chioma, or it might be yours. Until there is definite proof, u cant claim to know the girl the op is speaking of. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Askseek(f): 11:59am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Ujoan: Hence the abandonment of his child or children as far as one knows. He did not need permission, just used that as an excuse just like op's brother could have searched 23 years ago once he knew Chioma was pregnant and had a son but chose not to. They both found reason not to. The best thing is not necessarily to bring himself into this young mans life. He needs to consider that doing that may upend that peace or whatever achievement he is so content with right now. It's not just about him. It's about his family also who can end up paying a huge price for his earlier failures. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 12:01pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Do you not know what the quote button is used for? Why can't you be specific in addressing issues instead of barking around like a mad DOG I can't seem to find where anyone was wished evil, or where anyone was trying to justify any wish they made I wonder if you are referring to my prayer for your daughters to pass through what Chioma passed through; then it shouldn't be 'evil' to you nah . . . after all what OP did was the right thing, which is why I wished same for y'all. I expect to be THANKED! Throwing irrelevant comments about to generate likes is really cowardly . . . we are all saying the same thing. LET EVERY MAN REAP WHAT HE SOWS!!! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 12:08pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
Ujoan: Why are you quoting me Did i quote you? Did i even mention your so called prayer? Stop behaving like a b!tch on heat and shut up! Address those that addressed you. Its the second time you are mentioning coward on this thread and the other guy let it slide so u think u can do the same with me. If you werent such a coward yourself why didnt you quote the person u meant in your prayers? Lily livered chicken! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 12:11pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Yes you are a coward by intentionally avoiding to quote anyone. You think you can just throw general insults about and go free because you were didn't quote anybody? I intentionally decided to call you to order because your snide comments are demeaning to say the least. Why can't you be the man you claim to be and address people directly? And I didn't need to mentions everybody in particular because I said ALL OF U . . . but now I'm using you as a point of contact to all the insensitive men on this thread If ti pains you too much go and jam rock. Mumu 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 12:16pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness: That's how one of you went to quote a comment I made in an unrelated thread to try and attack me . . . . Unfortunately I'm not one of those weak and insecure people that can be easily intimidated by e-attacks. I can do this all day Mister . . . can you 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 12:18pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
Ujoan:And you are a cantankerous mewling of a woman who has no sense of moral empathy. Did i talk to you? When u were talking about men and their daughters in general did u mention anybody? Hypocrite! Class rep! Who are you to call anyone to order? You who have been judging the op from page one and attacking all who felt sympathy for him in a bod to feel uselessly powerful? Go sit your unruly self down, madam judge. You are so stuck up with your self righteousness u stink to high heaven, just that others are probably scared to put you in your place. Mrs attention seeker I will continue to make generalised statements. Knock your head on the wall! 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 12:21pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness: I've used you as a point of contact nah . . . at least now I've mentioned someone. Empathy?? Thats'w what you expect? No, you are not getting any . . . not from me Like I said from my fist comment, I'm carrying out my civic duty by calling you to order . . . And you don't have to degenerate to lies to prove your point. I didn't attack anyone who showed him sympathy . . . just those tryint to justify his attitude. Do you not understand simple English. I've got my eyes on you now so even if you don't quote, I will quote you 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 12:23pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
Playtime |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by 5minsmadness: 12:24pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
Ujoan: Is that what this is about? You were too cowardly to quote a guy that attacked you on another thread and so decided to take it out on me? HYPOCRITE! find someone else to test you bullying skills on. Or continue with me. I couldnt care either way. You can do this all day cos sadly for u, you don't have a job. I on the other hand am busy helping people in my establishment. But turnout is low today so i'll be charitable and give u the attention you so desperately seek. Overaged cow 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Nobody: 12:27pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
5minsmadness: The only person showing cowardice here is you . . . and I already addressed the guy directly and CALLED HIM TO ORDER. Now you are crying bully? Who first started throwing insults around and calling people vultures I guess you never thought you will meet your match. YES I AM A BULLY . . . and very proud I'm able to BULLY a man. And yes, I'm OLD . . . age is a thing to embrace and be proud of. I am a PROUD OLD WIFE and MOTHER! Go and die . . . . 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Locate My Brother's SON. by Fkforyou(m): 12:30pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
Ujoan: Shut up, he is right. You are nothing but a bitter goat. I pray the OP finds the boy and post the photos here showing how happy he is, so that you can die of shame. You just carry the matter personal. Once again, I pray he finds the boy....Now Go and Die. 5 Likes 1 Share |
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