lezz:
Quite frankly it has it's benefits and rewards.

But nothing replaces African traditional marriage. No matter how pared down or flamboyant.

We are a communal lot and our marriage system is part of our ingrained beingness.

DemiGoddess:


Can't believe I'm here after nearly 4 months.
It feels like I'm new, strange monikers and all...

lezz:
Strange monikers? Old folks in new drapery, I tell you.

But you'll get used to them.

darkenedrebel:


Am I the only one seeing the double standard here? It is a huge sacrilege for a thing as insignificant and as minor as ''bride price' to be screened out, but it's laudable to renounce the gods of your ancestors for the religion of a foreigner(Christianity).


Any one that tells me he/she is a custodian of African culture and thinks bride price is not a nuisance must either be worshipping Sango or Amadiora before I can take him/her serious.

Such hypocrisy!

God knows I would not make it mandatory for my son-in-law(s) to pay bride price, that's if I have daughters anyway.

DemiGoddess:


Hope so...

Yes it is.....I'll whisper their suspended sobriquet to you in the evening.

DemiGoddess:



It's another Madrid win, new silverware.

You're a Madridista? I am a Barcelonian

I shill show you the beauty of style and finesse not just in football but in penning.

lezz:


Yes it is.....I'll whisper their suspended sobriquet to you in the evening.
You're a Madridista? I am a Barcelonian

I shill show you the beauty of style and finesse not just in football but in penning.

byvan03:


Thank you!

Adaeze003:


The ancestors be so nakedly wise they sold their relatives for dry gin...

Adaeze003:



The ancestors be so nakedly wise they killed twins.

Adaeze003:




The ancestors be so nakedly wise they got cheated with their own scales.

Adaeze003:


The ancestors be so nakedly wise they killed people to bury one person.

Adaeze003:



Everything they did was and is perfect... they after all walked beside their wooden gods... the only set of wise people to grace the earth... who are we in the face of dead men??

darkenedrebel:


Am I the only one seeing the double standard here? It is a huge sacrilege for a thing as insignificant and as minor as ''bride price' to be screened out, but it's laudable to renounce the gods of your ancestors for the religion of a foreigner(Christianity).


Any one that tells me he/she is a custodian of African culture and thinks bride price is not a nuisance must either be worshipping Sango or Amadiora before I can take him/her serious.

Such hypocrisy!

God knows I would not make it mandatory for my son-in-law(s) to pay bride price, that's if I have daughters anyway.

Adaeze003:
The ancestors be so nakedly wise they sold their relatives for dry gin...

The ancestors be so nakedly wise they killed twins.

The ancestors be so nakedly wise they got cheated with their own scales.

The ancestors be so nakedly wise they killed people to bury one person.

Everything they did was and is perfect... they after all walked beside their wooden gods... the only set of wise people to grace the earth... who are we in the face of dead men??

SalomonKane:
Yes I know this, and it's because the West comprise of many diverse cultures.

Nice to meet you Foxy Cleopatra. I'm sure you know Austin Powers is near by dealing with Fat Bastard.

lezz:
The truth is the first victim of war! Do not give in to European journals of Africa's state of affairs during colonialism and slavery; Do not be a willing post-colonial slave of Western propaganda. Africans sold mainly slaves to Europeans as slaves. Slaves of rival communities and tribes from the spoils of war.

Besides, Africans enslaved up to 1.5 million white Europeans in the 14th-16th century in the Barbary slave trade


Only a smattering amount of our ancestors in Calabar did that! Our ancestors in Western Nigeria and beyond worshipped them! Besides did not majority of Europeans burn scientist and opinionated people alive at an institutional level? See ya life?
And the West are so damn ingenious they invented the internet and social media and Yahoo boys are reaping them out in millions of Euros for decades now? Use your head.



You mean like the Pharos? Did not European kings do worse? Were not European kings who ordered and sanctioned the genocide of peoples in Native America, New Zealand, the aborigines of Australia, Congo, Ethiopia? Or the premeditated starvation to death of their own people in Ireland?


Your preconceived submissions are a sharp pointer to one who's a willing victim of mental and psychological defeatism.

Africans are a communal lot who never abandoned thier old parents or relations. Unlike the West where the government are forced to set up old people's home to look after aged folks whose sons and daughters are in the cities enjoying the Kaleidoscope of city vanity.

Folks die and are buried with strangers at funeral rites....damn!

Why don't you paint yourself with native chalk to be white....It's cheaper than the path you tread.

bukatyne:




Isn't it strange guys think they know what is best for ladies?...

Yeye spambot banned me jor...

Was trying to post an article on that my thread.

cococandy:
They pick and choose when to be 'custodians of tradition'

Funny

byvan03:



Sorry dear, they always believe they know everything. They have no idea but they think they do.

lezz:
The truth is the first victim of war! Do not give in to European journals of Africa's state of affairs during colonialism and slavery; Do not be a willing post-colonial slave of Western propaganda. Africans sold mainly slaves to Europeans as slaves. Slaves of rival communities and tribes from the spoils of war.

Besides, Africans enslaved up to 1.5 million white Europeans in the 14th-16th century in the Barbary slave trade


Only a smattering amount of our ancestors in Calabar did that! Our ancestors in Western Nigeria and beyond worshipped them! Besides did not majority of Europeans burn scientist and opinionated people alive at an institutional level? See ya life?
And the West are so damn ingenious they invented the internet and social media and Yahoo boys are reaping them out in millions of Euros for decades now? Use your head.



You mean like the Pharos? Did not European kings do worse? Were not European kings who ordered and sanctioned the genocide of peoples in Native America, New Zealand, the aborigines of Australia, Congo, Ethiopia? Or the premeditated starvation to death of their own people in Ireland?


Your preconceived submissions are a sharp pointer to one who's a willing victim of mental and psychological defeatism.

Africans are a communal lot who never abandoned thier old parents or relations. Unlike the West where the government are forced to set up old people's home to look after aged folks whose sons and daughters are in the cities enjoying the Kaleidoscope of city vanity.

Folks die and are buried with strangers at funeral rites....damn!

Why don't you paint yourself with native chalk to be white....It's cheaper than the path you tread.

joseph1832:
And I suppose you're the Architect of Knowledge?

Adaeze003:
The ancestors be so nakedly wise they sold their relatives for dry gin...

The ancestors be so nakedly wise they killed twins.

The ancestors be so nakedly wise they got cheated with their own scales.

The ancestors be so nakedly wise they killed people to bury one person.

Everything they did was and is perfect... they after all walked beside their wooden gods... the only set of wise people to grace the earth... who are we in the face of dead men??

postmann:


I must say a resounding welcome to joseph1 832

Mindfulness:


It was pure wisdom.

byvan03:



Sorry dear, they always believe they know everything . They have no idea but they think they do.

postmann:


Here you are at last!!!

Your savoury altruism in the last miss NL contest lingers. (I can't believe I just sounded like lezz!)

I'm still humbled and grateful.

Back to topic;

The scriptural citation above shouldn't be taken out of contest. It was given in the understanding that a woman leaves her father and mother by the act of marriage and goes into a new family unlike a man. So GOD was emphasising on the man detaching from his mother and father so he can become one with his wife.

It's like the scripture that said, man love your wife and woman respect your husband. Taken out of context, many interpret it to mean it's not obligatory for women to love their husbands and not also obligatory for men to respect their wives. When in essence, scripture was putting more emphasis on whom who is more prone to default.

Does a man cleave to his wife in her father's house? Or are his children given by her traced through his wife's descent? Of course not! So, there are no basis for a woman paying the bride price.

Yes, the bride's family play Its role in the ceremony too. That's not strange.

We understand the word "price" chiefly from a monetary point because, well, English is an adopted language to us. But like I told byvan03, in the bribe price context, see it (price) as a requirement.

A good example was King Saul requiring a 100 foreskin of the Philistians from David as the bride price requirement for his daughter, Michal.

joseph1832:
I hope you know the West once walked the path our ancestors? The West too partook in human sacrifice to appease their stone gods? I hope you know this?

Adaeze003:


Did you see me make comparisons to the westerners? Did I say they were/are better?

bukatyne:


You are welcome and gratitude is a nice attribute

I still believe 'payment' whatsoever especially monetary should be scrapped.

It has lost its relevance.