The challenges some women go through in marriage many times scares many from getting married. Sometimes you are tempted to ask how the sweet romance translated into a war zone where abuse, torture, wickedness, slavery, selfishness and fighting reigns.
I will feel so guilty if I don't share this painful truth with you so that you don't fall into the same pit that consumed some ladies and crushed some in their marriage.

This article is never to condemn all men or to defend the women, but I write with all sincerity of heart to help intending couple to prepare themselves adequately and avoid any pitfalls that may crush their marriage.

Please Do Not Marry a Man Who doesn't Have a Personal relationship with God.

You cannot be expecting the best from God and settle for a man who doesn't know him, fear him, obey his word and desire to make heaven. This has absolutely nothing to do with denominations or place of worship, it has everything to do with a man who earnestly desire to please God and allow God to reign in his life.
Having riches, working in the best companies, looking tall, chocolate and handsome doesn't make him a husband material, instead it makes him an attractive man. But if you want to marry a man who will respect you, appreciate you, pamper you, pray for you, be selfless to you and help you become a better lady, then you need a man who is close to God, because it's only a man who has a personal relationship with God that will take good care of you just as God does all the time.

Please Do not Marry a Man Whose Vision you Do not Understand or Agree with.
Every man carry a vision, and the vision of a man determines how his life will turn out, it determines his choice of friends, determines his choices in life, his decisions, convictions and expectations in marriage.
If you wish to be a motivational speaker and you settle for a business man, it will be extremely difficult for your husband to permit you to function in such capacity, especially when he feels that you may be a threat to him.
Before you ask a man what he does for a living, please find out what he's living for, because what he's living for comes before what he does for a living. Understand where he's heading before you marry him so that you won't struggle to fit into his ministry and vision for his life.

Do Not Marry Who You Know Doesn't Support Your Vision or a Man Who you Can't Fit into His Vision.
Men are not the only ones with vision, we also have visionary ladies and ladies who have a divine purpose for her life. Gone are the days where a lady is bought from her parents and kept in his kitchen to cook for the man, have sex with him, take care of his children and take care of the house.
In fact before any lady should think of marriage, she needs to discover herself, her passion and her skills so that when a man comes with his romantic songs, she will let him know what her personality stands for.
In a situation where you have a man who doesn't believe in your vision or willing to support you in your passion, and you know within your heart that you cannot sacrifice your passion or vision for his own passion or vision for himself and for the marriage, please, please and plead do not get married to him, and if you decide to ignore this and marry him, please remain obedient and submissive to his authority and complain not.

Don't Marry an Irresponsible Man.
Marriage is not for lazy bones, it's not for men whose job is to have erection and have sex with a woman. Marriage is not for men who have so many excuses to give, it's not for men who cannot provide for themselves and their basic needs of clothing shelter and food. It is for a man who understands the responsibility that comes with marriage, it's for a man who understands his duty as a husband and the provider of his home.
If you decide to marry him out of love, please don't complain about your pains with him.
There are some men that got married to a lady without even having a single room where he will stay with his wife, some couples are been taken care of by the parents, and some men are so selfish and wicked that they won't provide anything for the poor woman and her children but will go about drinking with friends.
I am talking tough not because I heard about it but because I have seen many women who are struggling to take care of her children. Even if you got pregnant for him by accident, please do not dump yourself with him because it may be extremely difficult for you when you have more than you can cater for.
Please avoid those who depend on gambling to survive, or those who give so many excuses why they can't try anything legitimately to provide for their home. A bricklayer who earns little sum of money and a whole lot better than a gambler who earns six million in two years time. Please be wise and be real, don't let anyone fool you with love, you need money to pay your dues and provide for the family and if he's not responsible, kindly bid him goodbye.

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Hmmm. Nice write up really. The bible said it is he that findeth a wife, not she that findeth a husband. all this attributes you listed here are all fine, but it is suppose to be how she fits into the man's life and how she supports him.
All this one you people are preaching about gender equality and all are the reason why there are so many divorce in today's marriages (in my own humble opinion though).

There is no perfect man and there are no perfect attributes to consider as well. Every man has a good and a bad attributes or side. Just choose the one you are comfortable with and enjoy it while it last. Enjoy the whole package.

Dagaya:
Hmmm. Nice write up really. The bible said it is he that findeth a wife, not she that findeth a husband. all this attributes you listed here are all fine, but it is suppose to be how she fits into the man's life and how she supports him.
All this one you people are preaching about gender equality and all are the reason why there are so many divorce in today's marriages (in my own humble opinion though).

There is no perfect man and there are no perfect attributes to consider as well. Every man has a good and a bad attributes or side. Just choose the one you are comfortable with and enjoy it while it last. Enjoy the whole package.

Kindly visit www.amaraofficial.com to read categories of ladies men shouldn't marry.

The purpose of the article is not for gender equality, rather it's to help ladies spot some critical issues in a relationship, work on them before deciding whether to settle with him or not. Relationship is the only empty cheque we have to to checkmate some issues and challenges in a relationship. Once you're married, you will learn to manage and endure these challenges.

Victorakats:


Kindly visit www.amaraofficial.com to read categories of ladies men shouldn't marry.

The purpose of the article is not for gender equality, rather it's to help ladies spot some critical issues in a relationship, work on them before deciding whether to settle with him or not. Relationship is the only empty cheque we have to to checkmate some issues and challenges in a relationship. Once you're married, you will learn to manage and endure these challenges.

Hmmm, now that you put it this way, then its ok. I generallyhave a problem with rules or guidelines or attributes relating to love and relationships. Am one of those few who believes there is no rule or guidelines in matters relating to love.

jashar:
don't marry an emotionally manipulative man.

Covered under abusive and perfect man!

Emotional manipulation is really a terrible flaw that if not addressed can snowball into depression.

Dagaya:



Hmmm, now that you put it this way, then its ok. I generallyhave a problem with rules or guidelines or attributes relating to love and relationships. Am one of those few who believes there is no rule or guidelines in matters relating to love.

This is not a rule but a suggestion for intending couples hence the word shouldn't... The reader has the right and the authority to decide what's best for him or her.
Having a privilege to counsel thousands of people, I was able to discern some of the trends in marriage and that lead to this article.
Didn't copy this from anywhere nor read it from any book, purely based on issues of couples.
You can't tell a lady to marry a man who depends on gambling to feed his family or marry a man who cannot afford to rent a room for himself or feed himself.
They're not rocket science, they're happening in some marriages and for a single lady, she has the option to marry such a man or to say no and work out ways to get things straight before settling down.
Thank you.

Not by article or mouth...its grace

GiMngo:
Not by article or mouth...its grace

Opinion Noted!

So who do you want us to marry?

stephanie19:
So who do you want us to marry?

It's your choice, this is meant to be a guide or a suggestion that will help you make a better decision.
However if you are cool with your man, please ignore this and get married to him.

"Don't let anyone fool you with love , you need money to pay your dues" Gbammmm !!!!!! All correct !!!!

Came:
"Don't let anyone fool you with love , you need money to pay your dues" Gbammmm !!!!!! All correct !!!!