ikp120:


Some women don't know what marriage is. In a marriage, the man is the boss while the woman is the baby. Naturally speaking that is how it is. That's why men pay before they marry her. It is simple common sense

NobleG1:


You can't tell me you didn't know he cheated on you several times during your courtship and you still married him. Such a man will never stop cheating. And his father having concubines doesn't help the situation. Your as*shole husband is actively following his cheating father's footstep.

You made a big mistake in marrying him because he doesn't love you. Anyone who loves his or her partner doesn't cheat, that's a fact. Some Nigerian women just want to marry without making sure they met the right person. How a partner behaves during courtship is a reflection of what to expect after marriage!

This is my advice: Having a baby doesn't mean you can't work. Hire a maid and start searching for a job as soon as possible. You can contact your former employer to find out if they can give you back your job.

When you get a job, sit your f*ucking cheating husband down and warn him that you WILL divorce him if he cheats on you again. If cheats again, make sure you have evidence of it. You can make screenshots of his chats with women on his phone or monitor his phone to know when he arranges to meet one of his side chics, then you secretly go to the date venue and capture everything on camera. When you get the evidence, go see a lawyer. If your husband is rich, Court will award you and your baby some of the wealth.

It's better to end a failed marriage than to be in one. Good luck!

Jobia:
I see his kind of men everyday on this forum.

If it were me i would leave the idìot. Imagine telling you to your face that he will 'get it' outside, after you sacrificed your job for the marriage. Mtchw.

Hope you have something to sustain you though..

PaperLace:
Men marry women hoping they don't change_ but they do.
Women marry men hoping they'll change_ but they don't.

Aunty, you saw the signs.
I can tolerate rubbish o, but open any useless mouth and tell me to my face you'll go outside...what effrontery?
You let him achieve his aim (i.e) kill your self esteem and make you depressed.
*Make yourself happy... dress well, go job hunting... make friends (responsible, motivated friends).
*Talk to your family, family is everything. They'll never leave you 'lonely'.
*Talk to him, like a civil human being.
*Protect yourself...since he inserts in random pussies.
*Worse case scenario, separate temporarily with him if he doesn't change. Find your feet and move on_ some men are just sperm donors, they know nothing about commitment.

Jobia:
I see his kind of men everyday on this forum.

If it were me i would leave the idìot. Imagine telling you to your face that he will 'get it' outside, after you sacrificed your job for the marriage. Mtchw.

Hope you have something to sustain you though..

SlaughterGang:
RUBBISH, you should be overjoyed, your husband is practicing Safe sex.

SAMBARRY:
in Nigeria

Speak only of what you know

In Sweden

jodreamer:
Dear Op,
You see, when God created the marriage institution everything was good but devil ain't happy about this. And this is why he is waging war against marriages so as to destroy God's plan of raising Godly seeds.
But beloved, I want you to know that God desire is that you to have a happy marriage. Do not report him to man, do not compete with him trying to look sexy to work for it won't change his nature (From what you said, he can get want he wants without spending much). All you have to do is to go down on your knees and pray to God the creator of marriage institute. Ask him to make your husband the man he designed him to be at the beginning of creation.
I am praying that you will rejoice again in your marriage.
Stay bless beloved Op.

forlahkhe:
Thank u sooo much for d encouragement(big hug) and i doff ma hat for every1 dt gave me a listening ear on ds plantform; now i believe a problem shared is half solved. I av nt relent in my job search too, its just dt i now av to consider my baby first in anything i do. She closes sch by 1:30pm and i dont have any1 that wl help me pick her frm sch. No job wld make me close b4 1:30pm......Anyway, alatishe ni nmo atise ara e.

geovidal:
I am kinda passive when it comes to making comments here on nairaland but ur post seems to attract me. However, talking from similar experience , I ve observed that most ladies nowadays seems to forget the fact that they ve to be submissive and portray good character /attitude to their husband even though you re partners but not equal. I want to believe that ur husband will not be happy to be doing such things without any flaws emanating from u. My question is what causes most of ur misunderstanding in the first place? If u can address the causes,do Wat pleases him, and feed him regularly in food n sex, then u will definitely have ur husband back.

delishpot:


Typical naija response it's always the woman's fault. If the man missbehaves, they advice women to pray, and keep faith, if the woman missbehaves(in their opinion) they justify the mans wayward actions .
In naija, no man is ever bad or difficult, it's always the wife. She must have done something to him. No naija husband ever does wrong without the wife causing it

ItsQuinn:
Divorce him straight! ....you're not benefiting anything from him, even your child is not benefiting anything from his/her father, what's the point of staying together then? The mistake you made was to marry him in the first place, next time get to know who you are marrying and the family's background before marrying. Now it's time to correct that mistake with a divorce

My sister, go look for a good job to support yourself and your baby. Stay blessed

Henon:

Marrying you would be the worst mistake in any man's life. Chai! Look at your comment...nawa o!

Zceesneh:
my mother will die

muller101:
is that ur final answer?

Jobia:
well, good for you.

Zceesneh:
my mother na ashawo

Jobia:
to be honest with you, i'm not surprised

jbekins:


Just listen to yourself. Can you imagine what you are telling your fellow woman just because u re still single or maybe single mother, but you forgot that this is a thing of for better for worse. When u made that vowed b4 God stands in many ways so I can't just gv a sis such funny and bigot mentality advise. Pls our sis just need prayers now and gv everything to almight to take control over her marriage. Then always be good as usual but try and speak sense into him if he listen good and fine but if he failed continue ur usual way of life. Make out time for urself always with baby, try ur best to dress well and make ur hair always, I gv u only one month he will come to u and confess.

Zceesneh:
my mother and entire family are foolish slùts

SAMBARRY:
you have said it all but why did you wear lipstick for my cute chubby honeypie?I will give you blow for belle o. Abeg clean the lipstick for her lips.pedos are every where they cannot differentiate a baby from an adult

Jobia:
i cannot help your condition.

Zceesneh:
bye to my slùt family