@ genieluv you are right, so true, but the problem is: Nigerian women overdo everything they are into, they don't know how to balance work life, business, money chase, family, marriage and love....they must overdo one to the detriment of another.
For in stance, if u marry a lady and tell her not to work, out of love and care, she will become too lazy at home and turn to a horrible nagging wife barking and yelling at her maids, and even hubby sometimes.
Marry a working class Nigerian lady and supoort/encourage her to be the best in her career/business, and watch her become wild, disrespectful, prideful and pompous to even serve you food as her hubby becomes a big task for her.
Nigerian women need to learn how to balance things in life and not overdo things.
Most Nigerian men love independent ladies and will definitely support and even assist her grow in her chosen career or business but when u get close to most of the so-called independent Nigerian ladies, they are mostly not dateable or marriageable, why
1. Most of them are so prideful, pompous and always feel like because they managed to make or earn some money, therefore all men should bow and worship them. And of course no Nigerian man in his right senses with his financial situation in tact will dare marry such a pompous lady that lack humility!
2. Most Nigerian independent ladies are flirty and wayward with rich men!
Most of them combine their flourishing career, business or trade with discrete high-class prostitution whereby they target only the super-rich men and politicians in corridor of power, and u know, Nigerian men know about this because one way or the other, most Nigerian men also know one or two men that patronize these career women that combine high-class love peddling with their career...and this makes them distasteful to honorable single men looking for committed relationship or marriage, and no man (single or married) in his right senses would want his wife, the mother of his kids to be living such wayward lifestyle.
You talked about most Nigerian men preferring light skinned ladies...u are right no doubt, it's not just about Nigerian men...its about black men, even black/African American men prefer white or light skin ladies.
So once a black man becomes rich, his most preferable type of woman is a fair skin lady with big buttocks and nice bo0bs. Blame nature...and don't listen to any black guy telling u otherwise, sadly.
So my suggestion to Nigerian ladies, if u can't stand the heat of being dark skin, and if u can bear the consequences of bleaching your skin, pls do so or tone it to become a bit brighter.
Stop overdoing things...try and learn to balance things in life: don't allow your job, business or career to make u overlook your marriage or abandon your home/family.
Don't allow your quest to become an independent lady turn you to a prideful, pompous, arrogant, distasteful woman!
Balance everything and everybody will adore u!
True, some Nigerian men are hypocrist but unfortunately, Nigerian women prefer running around with them than with real, sensible Nigerian men!
Wow, 1 million likes for your comment. U nailed it.
I agree sha, some of the fault also comes from we the women, but more fault goes to the men.
Thank God for sincere guys like you who will always tell the truth cos most black men are just very insincere, they say one thing with their mouths and another thing is in their minds.
And pls, no normal Nigerian woman will prefer to roll with a hypocrite over a normal guy, just that one may never be able to tell the difference. Most of them all appear as normal guys until they start displaying their true colours after they pay your bride price and you enter their house and start bearing their children. Then it seems like you the woman whom he was willing to do everything for before now looses value in their eyes and they now talk to you the way they like.
Most African Women are not like that, women may be hard headed while they are still dating you, but once u put a ring on their finger, they automatically loose desire for every other man, they act more responsibly and are more conscious of themselves, they are more willing to be obedient and make their marriage work.
Hardly will u see a succesful African man who does not keep extra marital affairs and is completely faithful to his wife, but i can show u countless numbers of African women who reached the peak of their career but are still very much faithful, loyal and comitted to their husbands.
Somebody here said it on this forum that he visited Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala's home and observed that this woman still kneels down to serve food for her husband. Checkout the most influential Nigerian and African women and see that about 50% of them are still very much faithful and loyal to their spouses.
So you can agree with me that it is only a smaller percentage of African women who are power drunk when they are as succesful or more succesful than their husbands but for the men it is 99.9%.