I don't know why I always fall for guys beyond my reach. I've had two boyfriends all my life, both cute. First loved me to the tee but his English is not of this world. I had to break up with him because I was embarrassed to show him off. It wouldn't have been fair to him. Though in recent years, I realized that he has joined bad gang. At a point, he suggested that I be his side chick I eventually broke all comms with him when out of the blue he asked me to send him airtime. I was like, "does this guy think I'm still stupidly in love with him? Oshisco!
The second was an asshole. Also had grammatical problems (am I cursed or something?) though not as bad as the first. He broke up with me out of pettiness and when he tried to crawl his way back, I put him in his place. I don't do all that ex s.hit.
I've had serious crush on just three other guys. Two ended up being my best friends. One knew I had a crush on him but sister-zoned me. Even when I tried to distance myself from him especially when he started dating a mutual friend, he didn't let me. The other one is my longest close friend. I came to know from a mutual friend that the feeling was mutual but that was a long time ago. We both never talk about it. The last one went to school in another country. I have a feeling he knew because he unfriended me on Facebook.
I've not had any other real crush until recently. I had a brief crush on this close male friend but we were both in relationships then. He used to hint that he wasn't interested in a relationship with any other girl then. He also had too many female friends for my comfort even though he tried to make me feel special. I had to borrow myself brain and kill the feelings. Not long after, his girlfriend broke up with him, mine also broke up with me (for unrelated reasons). He then started changing his narrative that he wants to stop fighting how he feels about me. Unfortunately, my feelings had died down by then so I just told him I couldn't date him because of religious differences.
Little did I know that I would be eating my words in the near future. Now I've fallen for another guy, same religion as my friend. Cute to the bone. In fact, he's everything I've dreamt of in a man. Soft-spoken, silently naughty, smiles a lot, common interests, in a profession I'd love hubby to be in, etc but different religion. I thought that was the worst thing that could happen until I started following him on his social media pages. Mehn, was I in for a rude awakening? My people, his pictures are mostly of cute guys in very fishy poses. He is followed by a lot of gay people and their rapport is always something else. The last straw was when he posted a pic of himself almost groping himself half-naked. As an observant person, I just felt that pose wasn't for girls (he's not your typical fuc.kboy), he was trying to get the attention of a certain group of people that I'm no part of.
Now what I want to know is if I should kill the feelings I have for him or am I overreacting? He hasn't made any advances other than being extremely friendly & chatty. Recently, he did something for me that I know he's never done for anyone before. In fact, I had to remind him and he just laughed it off. The way he looks at me sometimes there are times I feel he laughs way too much at my jokes cos they're not always funny.
Nairalanders, am I reading too much meaning into all these signs? I know gay guys tend to be free with girls. He is not feminine at all tho.
You can see that I've had a limited number of crushes because when I fall I fall really hard. Some last 2-3 years. My shortest was the one before this current one and I believe this current one contributed to me killing those feelings. Should I be open to love if it comes or should I face front?

i pray for your brain

How old are you

Who do you expect to read this your fabricated stupid epistle? Me or other nairalanders?....is something wrong with your head? Do you want to get hit by 20 trucks @ a time. Rubbish

dirtyslap:
Who do you expect to read this your fabricated stupid epistle? Me or other nairalanders?....is something wrong with your head? Do you want to get hit by 20 trucks @ a time. Rubbish

It's not fabricated. And I reject your curses.

Davash222:
How old are you

Let's just say I'm not under pressure to get married but I'm done with school.

Izen:


Let's just say I'm not under pressure to get married but I'm done with school.

Primary school

dirtyslap:
Who do you expect to read this your fabricated stupid epistle? Me or other nairalanders?....is something wrong with your head? Do you want to get hit by 20 trucks @ a time. Rubbish

Abeg help me ask her oh!!


This is just to much abegi

i didnt read that shit..

i know this guy u are crushing on must have some zero's in his account....


crush kor jam ni

Okay, you know what guys..... You don't have to give me any advice. Let's all pretend like we don't have our emotional sides. I'm asking a genuine question here that affects me because I don't want to fall in love and get hurt in the process. Is it bad to ask? And no, I'm not jobless. My life is perfectly okay. I'm just falling in love and hoping it's not with the wrong guy. If you have ever experienced something like this and want to help, thank you. I'd really appreciate it. But as for those of you insulting me, I really don't know what you're trying to achieve. Is it to make your selves feel better about your maturity or what? It's not by force to comment.

freeman95:
i know this guy u are crushing on must have some zero's in his account....



crush kor jam ni

Please don't let your low self esteem about your negative bank balance rub off on me, it's not my fault you're broke. You clearly read where I listed the qualities I love about him and chose to ignore. The funny thing is that we're colleagues. Not everything is about money. I've spent on male friends before and it's really no biggie to me.

Izen:


Please don't let your low self esteem about your negative bank balance rub off on me, it's not my fault you're broke. You clearly read where I listed the qualities I love about him and chose to ignore. The funny thing is that we're colleagues. Not everything is about money. I've spent on male friends before and it's really no biggie to me.

shut up who has low self esteem??

me or you??

crushing on someone who u think is gay

stupid girl

Izen:
Okay, you know what guys..... You don't have to give me any advice. Let's all pretend like we don't have our emotional sides. I'm asking a genuine question here that affects me because I don't want to fall in love and get hurt in the process. Is it bad to ask? And no, I'm not jobless. My life is perfectly okay. I'm just falling in love and hoping it's not with the wrong guy. If you have ever experienced something like this and want to help, thank you. I'd really appreciate it. But as for those of you insulting me, I really don't know what you're trying to achieve. Is it to make your selves feel better about your maturity or what? It's not by force to comment.

just do whatever u want girl




noone gives a POO about u

let me b straight with you. after i read ur story midway, i stopped nd checked ur profile picture but i was so dissappointed when i couldn'nt find any.
peace

so I read this story finish
babe my advise for u is to Rape the guy.
if he's gay u will know from that

Izen:
Okay, you know what guys..... You don't have to give me any advice. Let's all pretend like we don't have our emotional sides. I'm asking a genuine question here that affects me because I don't want to fall in love and get hurt in the process. Is it bad to ask? And no, I'm not jobless. My life is perfectly okay. I'm just falling in love and hoping it's not with the wrong guy. If you have ever experienced something like this and want to help, thank you. I'd really appreciate it. But as for those of you insulting me, I really don't know what you're trying to achieve. Is it to make your selves feel better about your maturity or what? It's not by force to comment.

Why crying foul like a toothless puppy huh??...are you new on here??...this is nairaland and romance section of all sections...weather your post makes sense or not people will still bash you...always have this at the front of your mind....


Unto your issue, i 'll advice you give it more time...stylishly lure him into gay porn or something and see his reactions...i'm sure he has friends you can subtly and nicodemously find out if he's gay from his friends/colleagues...ok, have a nice day.

Your writeup is too voluminous and will discourage people at a glance... That aside, I think you're demanding too much. Try to lessen your grasp on the worry that a guy cannot speak like Hon. Patrick.

Lmao,the Posters Above Got No Chill..Op, Dude Could Be Gay Or Just A Friendly Chap..My Money Is On Gay Though..No Normal Guy Has Pics Of Men In 'fishy Pose' On His Profile.

firstking01:
Why crying foul like a toothless puppy huh??...are you new on here??...this is nairaland and romance section of all sections...weather your post makes sense or not people will still bash you...always have this at the front of your mind....


Unto your issue, i 'll advice you give it more time...stylishly lure him into gay porn or something and see his reactions...i'm sure he has friends you can subtly and nicodemously find out if he's gay from his friends/colleagues...ok, have a nice day.

You're right tho. I'll ignore them.
I'm scared to ask around o. What if I start a rumor and it ends up being a false alarm? It'll damage him. What if he finds out and gets hurt in the process? I've hinted watching this series (oitnb) to him before but he didn't make any comment.

funny tale and the only few things i could pick are crush, cute, gay grammatical blunder and friend zone

Op Bia, Does Watching Oitnb Make You Gay?...Lmao Gtfo

tosyne2much:
Your writeup is too voluminous and will discourage people at a glance... That aside, I think you're demanding too much. Try to lessen your grasp on the worry that a guy cannot speak like Hon. Patrick.

Oh sorry for the long text. I don't want someone like hon pat lol. I'm just looking for someone who can hold a normal conversation without throwing bombs here and there. I come from a family of educationists and I'm generally surrounded by this category of people. So please understand. Everyone would automatically expect me to do better in terms of grammar.

Abso1uteZero:
Op Bia, Does Watching Oitnb Make You Gay?...Lmao Gtfo

No o. I watch it too. I just wanted to see his reaction.

Young03:
so I read this story finish

babe my advise for u is to Rape the guy.

if he's gay u will know from that

Ha! Rape is a no no for me.

Izen:


No o. I watch it too. I just wanted to see his reaction.

Haha...But Come O, Which Reaction Were You Planning To See Cause Ayam Not Understanding.

Izen:


You're right tho. I'll ignore them.
I'm scared to ask around o. What if I start a rumor and it ends up being a false alarm? It'll damage him. What if he finds out and gets hurt in the process? I've hinted watching this series (oitnb) to him before but he didn't make any comment.

I said "stylishly and nicodemously"...that means he mustn't know your intentions...act asif you hate gays, frame a story about gays and how you find the act disgusting...ask him his views about it and see his choice of words and reactions...get closed to his friends, find out about his past relationships...just be wise in all that you do and dnt make your intentions obvious to him...if he has dated a girl before why did he break up, from here you can get to know if he's into gayism or not...

Btw, is he the only guy on earth??...you seem to me like you easily fall in love...i can uphold your love if you dnt mind...nor mind me na joke o...but try what i 've told you, it works dnt forget to search on www.nairaland/firstking01 and thank me

Izen:


Oh sorry for the long text. I don't want someone like hon pat lol. I'm just looking for someone who can hold a normal conversation without throwing bombs here and there. I come from a family of educationists and I'm generally surrounded by this category of people. So please understand. Everyone would automatically expect me to do better in terms of grammar.

Now I understand you

tosyne2much:
Your writeup is too voluminous and will discourage people at a glance... That aside, I think you're demanding too much. Try to lessen your grasp on the worry that a guy cannot speak like Hon. Patrick.

You dey here

Abso1uteZero:
Haha...But Come O, Which Reaction Were You Planning To See Cause Ayam Not Understanding.

I wanted to see if he'd be super excited or just meh but he didn't even react. I didn't press further because we were in the midst of other friends.

Izen:


I wanted to see if he'd be super excited or just meh but he didn't even react. I didn't press further because we were in the midst of other friends.

Hmmn...Im Straight But If You Asked Me About Ointb I Would Be Interested Cause I Love The Series[vause Is Hot Af]..So, I Dont Think This Would Be A Good Yardstick To Check If Someones Gay Lmao