No matter your status, we all go through difficult challenges that life has to offer. The Universe is not always on our side and not because it doesn’t want to, it is because of our thought process, on how we perceive life through our own perspective. It is evident that if we deal with dishonest people and have been taken advantage of, we will certainly look at everyone else as probable cheaters and scam artists. It is not because one apple is rotten that all others are. Every situation is different and it is unfair to generalize others behavior based on what you previously experienced.
This Forum allows you to ask any questions you want, any situations you are experiencing or any concerns you are facing with your significant other. No relationship is perfect, and it is important to always work hard to understand the other person and what they are going through at that moment. Everyone have their own battle to fight so when faced with a conflict, it is crucial that you stay calm and collected throughout the arguments. By staying calm, the other enraged party will have no reason to elevate their voice to get themselves heard. The reason why people scream during arguments is because they want their loved one to listen to them when they express their discontent, but if you scream louder, no one can really hear each other so it becomes more of who can scream the loudest.
By understanding the reasons as to why arguments are being triggered, it is important to understand the core of the issue and how to find a quick and efficient solution. It will take both of you to learn how to cope with each other and avoid creating feelings of insecurities towards the other person. Learn from your mistakes and avoid making the same ones over and over again. Nothing good can come out of it.


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1. QUESTION: Does true love work out without money? - Anonymous.

ANSWER: In marriage or dating relationship, money is a key to maintain the relationship. Yes love brings you together but money is needed to maintain the love by providing material things that gives comforts. Love should not be based on money, but money plays a lot in the maintenance of love. Money is very important to keep and maintain true love in a relationship.

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No matter your status, we all go through difficult challenges that life has to offer. The Universe is not always on our side and not because it doesn’t want to, it is because of our thought process, on how we perceive life through our own perspective. It is evident that if we deal with dishonest people and have been taken advantage of, we will certainly look at everyone else as probable cheaters and scam artists. It is not because one apple is rotten that all others are. Every situation is different and it is unfair to generalize others behavior based on what you previously experienced.
This Forum allows you to ask any questions you want, any situations you are experiencing or any concerns you are facing with your significant other. No relationship is perfect, and it is important to always work hard to understand the other person and what they are going through at that moment. Everyone have their own battle to fight so when faced with a conflict, it is crucial that you stay calm and collected throughout the arguments. By staying calm, the other enraged party will have no reason to elevate their voice to get themselves heard. The reason why people scream during arguments is because they want their loved one to listen to them when they express their discontent, but if you scream louder, no one can really hear each other so it becomes more of who can scream the loudest.
By understanding the reasons as to why arguments are being triggered, it is important to understand the core of the issue and how to find a quick and efficient solution. It will take both of you to learn how to cope with each other and avoid creating feelings of insecurities towards the other person. Learn from your mistakes and avoid making the same ones over and over again. Nothing good can come out of it.


Life is not all about marriage, but two are definitely better than one when you are with the right partner.

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Question: In a relationship that the parents are not in support, yet they go ahead and contracted the marriage, what can the couple do to gain their Parents consent?

Answer: Since you both have married against your parents’ wishes you need wisdom to deal with the situation. Don’t confront them to force them to accept you, rather use persuasion prayerfully. Keep been nice to them and pray that God will touch their hearts for them to accept the union.


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Question: What if you find out your guy is dating another girl and he is still pretending. Does it still mean the relationship is still going to work out? – Anonymous.

Answer: It is terrible to find out that the guy you are dating and hoping to marry tomorrow is dating someone else too. I know you will feel terrible and sad as this guy of yours is double dating. You should try not to have sex with him in fear of losing him to the other lady. If you do, you may be disappointed to your own regret. Now, the relationship can still work if he breaks off with the other lady and focus on you. You both have to put in your best in terms of prayer, energy and time to make the relationship work for both of you. But if the relationship cannot be saved as he decides to follow the other lady, let him go. God will bring the right man into your life at the right time.


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Age differences shouldn't be a barrier in a relationship, many people are having issues with this based on individuals mind set but the truth is that age differences is doesn't guarantee a successful relationship / marriage but maturity does it all and not determine by age..

Below are reasons why you should accept him or her regardless of age..

* if he or she behaves matured, intelligent, caring and respectful
* if can you solve issues together by sharing words for advice.
* If he or she dresses well and always appear neat,
* If he or she has the fear of God
* If you are both compatible? (health wise, physical wise and behavioral wise and your likes are similar)
* If He or she is hardworking
* If you don't engage in much arguments
* If he or she respect your wishes
* If he or she is supportive
* If he or she is proud of you and do not hide your relationship from friends and families.
etc to mention a few.. Which you should consider first then give a trial. Dont disregard as a result of age difference..but look at the reasons above. Happy weekend

As mature adults, you should understand that life is not void of storms, and the marital life is not an exception. Vicissitudes of life rock every marriage at one point or the other, but learn to endure with your spouse. God has made you one flesh, so share your challenges and burdens in love..

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Dating Advice For Today...

The right age for starting a relationship is maturity age. You may be eighteen and not matured yet, though you seem big physically but not financially, emotionally, mentally ripe for a relationship. The ideal motive for starting a relationship is marriage. If it is not defined right from the beginning that it is for marriage, it may end in a heart break.

In a relationship, we should not allow friends or other people to cause problems for us. Though we could seek counsel from them, it is not advisable to discuss every little issue of misunderstanding with your friends. Some jealous friends may mis-advice you and could become a potential competitor and may eventually seek the destruction of your relationship. When you have things that disturb you in a relationship seek advice from experienced counselors only. You should hold your relationship accountable to a counselor you both respect and trust; someone who is genuinely interested in your success and can speak to you and ask after the health of your relationship. A third party as a counselor is allowed in a relationship for conflict resolution and issues that disturbs you in the relationship. Not a friend who may misguide you out of jealousy.

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Advice For Today.

If you are ready for marriage and it seems as if you are not connecting with the right person, you may need to look inwards and make some changes in your life. The only permanent thing in life is change. Take a look at your lifestyle ;there may be an area in which you need to effect some changes if you want to attract the right kind of man / woman for you and make the relationship work.. For relationship advice add up what'sapp 08170399634

Dating Advice For Today..

Before you get overwhelmed with love and head for marriage you should make sure that you are both compatible. Compatibility means that you both agrees in several areas of your lives. The degree to which you agree determine the extent to which your marriage will succeed. Love blinds your eyes to several issues that may destroy your marriage in future the excitement of falling in love most times makes you let down your guard, standard and values. Go through the list and examine of the compatibility
»» Religious compatibility
»» Social compatibility
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There is no point keeping an unhealthy relationship. After prayer and counsel and the situation still remain the same, then end the relationship. You must consider backing out in a relationship if you both are not going in the same direction in life

You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy.

Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

It is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions -Where is this shoe made from? (Background) -What's the size (Values) -How much (His/Her interest) -How long will it last (His/Her Character) -Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility) -Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are) for counseling and advice see signature

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Question : how can a lady and a guy show true and not a selfish love to each other in a dating relationship? – Anonymous.

Answer: If you both truly love each other, you will be more interested in giving happiness to each other, and you will be less concerned about whether you are receiving much of it. True love cares for the other more than for self. True love says, “I want to listen to your ideas, and care about your problems. I will be gentle and patient with you.” True love wants to give love to the other, and is less interested in whether it is receiving love. True love is the opposite of self- love. Self-love says, “Love me. Think of my needs.” True love says, “I will care for your needs.” Human beings by nature are selfish. But when one person truly loves another, he or she will think mostly of the other’s happiness and less of his or her own and don’t sleep together before marriage as it negate the principle of true love. You have to keep yourself pure.

*Question : Nowadays all guys feels that if you don’t have sex with them, you don’t love them; so in a relationship is it not right to have sex to prove your love to them? – Anonymous.

Answer: you don’t prove love by having sex with a guy. Sex in a relationship is not right and not a sign of true love. Don’t be deceived by the waves of lust and immorality that make guys to say sex means love. Sleeping with a guy you are dating is not a sign of true love; so you should be well grounded in dating rules and don’t be carried away and lower your defenses to have sex with him. If you do, the possibility that he will dump you thereafter is very strong. He will likely think you are cheap and do the same thing with every other guy too and you are available to any man who is interested. Save sex till after your marriage. Let your guy first be your friend so you can find out if he is truly qualified to become anything more. Let him appreciate your inner beings before he discovers your body after marriage. Movies may cheapen it, trying to make immorality look natural. Sex is the ritual that seals the marriage covenant. You can only seal it after signing the marriage register or a pride price is traditionally and mutually paid on you.

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Question: How can someone break a non working relationship that has lasted for 7 years? – Anonymous.

Honestly speaking, when did you start the relationship? Was it during your secondary school or you were just friends but not in a marriage bound relationship at all and you never knew it. Has this brother formally proposed to you? What is keeping you from getting married? Is money the problem? Can you afford to add another seven years to your dating relationship and become the 21st century Jacob and Rachael? Please call your guy or lady to define the relationship now? You both are not getting young at all, so do it soon.
To end a non working relationship, you must take the initiative because this guy or lady may have no plans of leaving you. Tell her or him what is on your mind. Don’t be scared, intimidated or threatened by him or her; do what you must or continue to live in torture. Don’t wait for him or her to get tired and get lost because it will never happen. The sooner you both face the inevitable, the happier you will be. Part in peace: If you started off as true friends you will still have the friendship intact, even if the relationship goes away. If you need further assistance whatsapp. 08170399634

Question: Should girls date guys with potentials of becoming rich but poor at the moment? -


Answer: Yes, no problem dating a poor guy; he may become a millionaire tomorrow. But let love be the reason for your dating him. You see, every girl want to get married to a rich guy a man that can take care of all her financial needs. Yes, men that can buy her expensive things and treat her like a queen. But unfortunately there are fewer guys with such ability today in the dating dynamics. While there is nothing wrong for girls to date potential rich guys tomorrow, it is important to stress that you don’t date a guy because he is rich or poor, but date him because of love.

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What can you do to a guy that does not call but truly loves you and your parent knows and everybody knows and the girl also loves him but she is not happy because the guy doesn’t call? – Anonymous.

Answer: I could imagine how you feel when throughout a week; your boyfriend did not deem it important to call you. Yet you boasted of his love for you. If he truly loves you he will call often no matter how busy he is at work. You claim that your parents and others in the family know that he loves you, how did they know? If he truly loves you, you will be the first person he will call each day to know how you are faring. If he truly loves you, he will always want to see you happy, he will hate to see you disturbed, depressed or upset. You are supposed to be in his mind always; the object of his daydreams and imagination. So tell him how you feel when he does not call. He should not hang out or call you only when he finds it convenient for him and treat you as you are always the last on his list of priorities. Be smart and make your feelings known to him.

is it a crime to go into a relationship with a single mother?

It is not a crime as a Christian guy to go into a relationship with a single mother. If she has the child either out of wedlock or from a previous marriage, can you love her and her child the way they are without any strings attached? Are you emotionally mature enough to handle the responsibility of being a stepfather to her child? Hope she is not trying to force your relationship with her to work by all means because she needs a father figure for her child. While you can marry a single mother as a Christian single, it is not to be encouraged if you don’t have a child of your own yet. There are cases where the guy marries such a lady and they never had another child, this later affected the man so much that he developed hatred towards the innocent child of the wife. Yet we also have cases of so many happy men that treat such a child as their own biological one without any discrimination whether they have their own children or not. They take such a child as their own. So it all depends on the man

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Question?? If you meet a guy that is always putting his friends first before you, what do you do?



A number of ladies spend their time and effort trying to get the attention and commitment of guys who they are crazy about despite the fact that these men really have no wish or desire to be with them. Because these guys do not love these ladies the way these ladies love them, they have no regard, consideration or respect for them.
When you think you are in love with a guy who doesn’t love you simply because you feel he is the best thing in pants, you put yourself at a disadvantage. You are going out with him because you would like him to be your future husband. You are in love. I am sorry for you. He is going out with you because he is just having a nice time. He doesn’t see any reason why he shouldn’t leave you waiting endlessly for him at the restaurant you both had arranged to meet on a date because his friends called and he had to be with them. He will hang out with you only when he finds it convenient for him and you will always be last on his list of priorities. Of course, once he had enough of you and he feels he meets someone that trips him, he will dump you. So dear lady, be smart. If he puts his friends first before you it is because he has not found you worth the time, so don’t stress yourself and don’t force yourself on any man. Someone who will celebrate you is on the way.

Dating Advice For Today

In a marriage bound relationship it is not a crime. It is the normal thing for a guy to buy good gifts for his lady. Even a lady can buy gifts for her guy. It is a good thing to do. It helps to build the relationship. When two people are in love they give gifts to each other. Such gifts should benefit the other partner; not worthless gift of ice creams please! However no amount of material or monetary gift should make a lady cheap and give herself sexually to a guy. If he demands sex because he gives gift to you, simply return his gift and keep yourself pure.

There are many reasons for marriage failure. Below are the key factors that destroys marriages and will continue to destroy as many as possible. To have fruitful and successful marriage you must consider the following factors.

1. Unfaithfulness by either the husband or the wife or both of them.
2. Breakdown in communication.
3. Lack of submissiveness on the part of the wife
4. Denial of sexual pleasure either by the wife or husband
5. Shabbiness especially on the wife's part
6. Interference of third parties e. g in laws, Friends neighbors
7. Bareness
8. Incompatibility
9. Lack of cooperation
10. Comparison - comparing one's marriage with other people's marriage.
11. Financial instability (insecurity) in the home. It is Important that couples have a solid financial plan of how they make their money and spend it.

For singles who wants to get married, you need to be careful while choosing a life partner. Some people are not marriable that is why you must consider these reasons

1. The unaware addict" (to either food, sex, alcohol, video, games porn, gambling etc.
2. The perceiver deceiver(the big liar)
3. The perceived abuser (in any form of emotional, psychological, physical coercion of sexual abuse, the twister of God's word on the spiritual form etc.
4. The unavailable ' who is less concerned and not connecting in a relationship.
5. The unapologetic narcissist who is obsessed with him/herself.
6. The arrogant one who is so full of him/herself.

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Question? Sir, how can a lady and a guy show true and not a selfish love to each other in a dating relationship? -


Answer: If you both truly love each other, you will be more interested in giving happiness to each other, and you will be less concerned about whether you are receiving much of it. True love cares for the other more than for self. True love says, “I want to listen to your ideas, and care about your problems. I will be gentle and patient with you.” True love wants to give love to the other, and is less interested in whether it is receiving love. True love is the opposite of self- love. Self-love says, “Love me. Think of my needs.” True love says, “I will care for your needs.” Human beings by nature are selfish. But when one person truly loves another, he or she will think mostly of the other’s happiness and less of his or her own and don’t sleep together before marriage as it negate the principle of true love. You have to keep yourself pure. It is not time to kiss and caress each other. Be wise.

Question : Sir, can two believers of the same “AS” genotype marry each other?


Answer: No they will run into problem when one of their children becomes a sickle cell carrier. This future crisis can be avoided. But love makes some lovers blind in the present that their eyes only open when they are in trouble. If they will adopt a child and not have a child of their own then they can marry.