safarigirl:
Hello Romancelanders,

So, I once had this conversation with a friend on her relationships, and she seemed to have so many stories of exes that I had to ask her how many guys she's dated.

Now, by dating, I mean someone who has lasted at least a month, anything outside that time period is just preliminaries.

I've always held the opinion that a girl shouldn't date more than 3-5 guys before marriage, but funny enough, I've met females that can't last a month without having someone in their lives. I usually peg that as a psychological problem.



But, here's my question, what is the average amount of relationships a young lady can get into pre-marriage without looking like a wreck?

safarigirl:


Ten guys before marriage is not you being liberated, it's you seeking validation from men or having daddy issues so you need a man in your life.


My dear, you're not more feminist than I am, but the sad truth most feminists fail to realise it that both genders have different genetic make-up. Hence, the rule of "see them as equals" will never apply. What Paul can do with zero attachments, Paula can't do in same manner.

I started this because women are much more guided in their choice of partners, they are analytical, not spontaneous. They NATURALLY do not just jump into bed or relationships with anyone because they feel like it, that's what men do.


Women do not see relationships as some free-for-all candy store you can just walk into and pick the flavour of your choice, no, they think of feelings and emotions and if you think your heart can pass through 10 men before you land a husband, then your poor husband will end up being your therapist


Even Chimamanda would wonder about a woman going through men like a pack of cards. It's not normal

Swizdom:


Brilliant! Even the guys that change girls are very, very, very insecure and have great issues with trusting even a virtuous partner.

safarigirl:
Hello Romancelanders,

So, I once had this conversation with a friend on her relationships, and she seemed to have so many stories of exes that I had to ask her how many guys she's dated.

Now, by dating, I mean someone who has lasted at least a month, anything outside that time period is just preliminaries.

I've always held the opinion that a girl shouldn't date more than 3-5 guys before marriage, but funny enough, I've met females that can't last a month without having someone in their lives. I usually peg that as a psychological problem.



But, here's my question, what is the average amount of relationships a young lady can get into pre-marriage without looking like a wreck?

safarigirl:


Ten guys before marriage is not you being liberated, it's you seeking validation from men or having daddy issues so you need a man in your life.


My dear, you're not more feminist than I am, but the sad truth most feminists fail to realise it that both genders have different genetic make-up. Hence, the rule of "see them as equals" will never apply. What Paul can do with zero attachments, Paula can't do in same manner.

I started this because women are much more guided in their choice of partners, they are analytical, not spontaneous. They NATURALLY do not just jump into bed or relationships with anyone because they feel like it, that's what men do.


Women do not see relationships as some free-for-all candy store you can just walk into and pick the flavour of your choice, no, they think of feelings and emotions and if you think your heart can pass through 10 men before you land a husband, then your poor husband will end up being your therapist


Even Chimamanda would wonder about a woman going through men like a pack of cards. It's not normal