eyinjuege:


Better an overgrown child than a senseless adult...

warmachine:


What did you think an overgrown child is?...a sensible adult?...there's no difference dear...and that's hu your are?

goshen26:


U r definitely not married or a product of broken home...I'm sorry if I'm too harsh, but that is not the best advice

blesoh:

My dear don't you think, you are not making any sense, BTW am happily married for six years so am advising base on my experience,

OK bye!

repogirl:
why did God give women mouth if they are not to be heard? Then the mouths on women are useless nah.

Guy abeg pack well with you advice abeg. Are you a 15th century man? Women are not objects without feelings abeg. She deserves better from her husband, she deserves his respect. Why did he marry her only to be disrespecting her.... or is she now a slave because she agreed to marry him?

This woman is hurting from the man's attitude and your advice doesn't cut it. Settle what on the bed? Does sex settle anything? Mtcheww!

She has been patient enough with him, now it's time to take the bull by its horns and get to the root of the problem.

WinkWrld:



It's simple, when u get married and have challenges. Embrace the bull. Fight ur husband on the street. You are on ur own. But I must give this lady the best advice. Yes God gave u mouth to talk and eat. Why not eat poo. It's obvious u a small girl. You would be taught all these in marriage class if u eventually do not beat ur man.

Yieldings:
MBTI = Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. It pretty much tells you what your personality type is. There're 16 types, with each person falling under one. It's best to take a test offline first, before playing around with the ones online but I know not everyone has access to the former, so you should do whichever you can get your hands on.

Enneagrams are also personality types but they're more in-depth and they're definitely a bit more personal because they explain your core self, your motivations in life, your pattern of behaviour and why, etc. There're 9 enneagrams. They're like an addition to the MBTI, however the MBTI is more commonly used, e.g. by some employers. Enneagrams are a bit more complicated because there're wings and there're tritypes but like the MBTI there's always one dominant type that explains who you are at the core.

Based on your NL posts, I would say you're an ENTJ.

DarkRebel101:


I probably would never take any of those personality tests ever again.



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I read about ENTJ here: https://www.16personalities.com/entj-personality

It said ENTJs are: brilliant entrepreneurs, natural-born leaders, extroverted, charismatic; have a ruthless level of rationality; love challenges and battle of wits, love those who can stand up intellectual to them, could be arrogant and condescending, etcetera.

Oshe! All this for me?

sinizia:


You've most of those traits though, judging from your NL posts that is.

DarkRebel101:

Well, if Sinizia says so, it must be the truth. Long time, though.

goshen26:


Madam blesoh....Pele ooo, I don't abuse married women, but advising the poor woman like u did will only fast track her marital death

blesoh:

So what else is advisable for her to tame that man, cos she has talk to him it didn't work and please don't give me that 'keep praying' phrase, it hurts really bad, anyway my grand mother said God no de give dangerous animal horn,that man is probably brought up from a broken home.

sinizia:


I'm good, bro. How's life treating you?

I see you've been stepping on toes of some ladies lately.?

DarkRebel101:


I probably would never take any of those personality tests ever again.

DarkRebel101:
I read about ENTJ here: https://www.16personalities.com/entj-personality

It said ENTJs are: brilliant entrepreneurs, natural-born leaders, extroverted, charismatic; have a ruthless level of rationality; love challenges and battle of wits, love those who can stand up intellectually to them, could be arrogant and condescending, etcetera.

Oshe! All this for me?

DarkRebel101:


And because you are equally self-conscious and shy. Yes?

DarkRebel101:

Besides, I meant weirdo as a compliment. I also consider myself cut from the same bolt of polyester fabric of weirdness.
Who likes a regular Joe or a regular Jane anyway?

warmachine:
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Its not every man o....if shout at me. U might be making the worst mistake...I hate confrontations even if you are right...but just keep shut and calm...guilt will just overcloud me

Yieldings:

Yes, very much.

I didn't take offence to your calling me a weirdo.

I guess this is why I never fit in. I would rather be weird than normal, anyway.

I'll soon award you a medal for calling me the most names on nl. j/k

goshen26:

I never advised her to pray too, tho prayer is important. But a "virtuous woman keep her home" shouting back at him won't solve d issue.

Yieldings:

Why not? Which have you taken before?

Yes, it seems to fit you, which was why it was my guess. I was debating between your being an ENTJ or INTJ, but I rested on the former.

blesoh:

It helps to an extend my dear.

goshen26:



Madam blesoh don't let us argue, okay..

favexx:
of cus this advice is all u need @ op to loose ur husband to dat silly house help of urs

repogirl:
And its obvious you know nothing, cos if you did you wouldnt have jumped into silly conclusions. I am very married with Kids, thankyou.

Are marriage classes meant to teach women alone? Aren't men taught to respect their wives and handle things in a mature manner? This one cannot respect his wife, he disgraces her in public, embarrasses her, tears down her self worth in the presence of the help and his brothers and you say she should bottle it up like a zombie without feelings, then settle it on bed.

Rubbish! Sex doesn't settle anything. only communication does and after one has been pushed to the wall severally, the best way to get your point across is to be frank about it. If being frank with him doesnt work then its time to threaten him that his family will hear about how he is maltreating her.

This is emotional abuse which is just as bad as physical abuse and after years of this sort of torture, a woman will not be the same. I know because I am a woman and not all of us can consistently take emotional abuse and remain calm.

Marriage is not always rosy or sweet but both partners have to work at it . BOTH partners have to give something to make it work. Abeg marriage should be enjoyed not endured, that wasnt Gods plan, so why should she live in sadness just because she is married.

Save your useless advice for your daughters, so they can die in silence and unhappiness in their husbands homes where they will be seen and not heard. Its men like you who make women feel weak and helpless.

WinkWrld:



GOD Placed Man above woman to assist and comfort man. You WILL NEVER be a man. Go home and Respect your man. He has 100% right to shout at you especially when you begin to reason like you are a superwoman or a fish. Dont be deceived by ZeeWorld or TeleMundo. It is your right to Use your brain to control your man. No Man will hate on his wife for no just reason. Find out why he is hurt. find out why he is angered. speak with him. KNOW UR MAN. Hitting back at your man never solved the issues.It will aggravate more hurt. When you feel hurt, u can discuss it during pillow talk. Unless you married a Lion which is again your fault. If u dont think u did,then be humble and be a woman. i will suggest some Christian books for you soon. If you dont please your man, i am almost sure ur man will have a small girl out there who will give him peace(start investigating now). USE UR BRAIN WOMAN.

yoged:
don't even try this shit or else ready to pack your things.. Sit him down, talk to him. .cry in front of him and let him know you don't appreciate such attitude. Talk to an elderly person that knows him very well maybe his mom. On no account should you shout at your husband. Please don't use your hand to spoil all things you have worked for. .satan is a liar.

WinkWrld:
Tell yourself the truth. What tone do u use to talk to him or rather how do u speak to him. Descently like a woman or how? When you talk to him, do u talk like u mrs know it all or do u speak to him like u think he doesnt have sense.

My dear he shouts at u, then keep quiet. U can settle that on the bed.
If u were in school and he shouts at u, will u shout back?
Marriage is a classroom. Respect ur senior. Even when u think he doesnt get it right, just be patient with him and speak intelligently in low tune.
A woman is not heard but seen.

Most atimes the women find out they are wrong at the end.

Taryur3:

Lol,and when he beat hell out of her in public,you most not run o.

Joy1706:

If he beats her, it's just a confirmation that he is the wrong man for her. Good riddance

DarkRebel101:




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repogirl:
Oh ofcourse I use my brain, which is more than I can say for you. I told you before that you know nothing and I boldly repeat it , you know absolutely nothing but you are free to keep living in the delusion that you have something in your head.

You are one of the reasons we have bad men/fathers in the society. So you will tell your son that he has a right to shout at his wife in public and embarrass her about because she is the tool that God has created to be misused as a man sees fit? If you see women like this, I wonder if you respect your own mother.

I see you have taken my own advice that communication and not sex is what solves issues in marriage and that's why you buttress my own point back to me. Lmao! You obviously have no points and so you use mine to help your argument.

I even doubt you read the OPs account in full... did she tell you she shouts back at her husband? from her account it's plain that she has been a very patient wife yet you still heaped all the blame on her, insinuating she is the one at fault. Save your advice for your daughters like I said earlier or throw it in the trash can, noone cares about it. Tell your daughters to speak in low tones, to be seen and not heard, to find out what they are doing wrong because men were created perfect and they cannot be maltreating them unnecessarily.

Finally since you know nothing about me, my husband or my marriage, you can keep your investigations and Christian books to yourself and probably read them some more because you have no inkling how a man should love his wife.

I'm not sure why I even bother with these boys who have no inkling what being a man is about.