LifeIsGuhd:
Hmmm... this is strong


Eleyi Gidi gan

Is your mum aware of this? Have you ever tried talking to him about it?

This is disturbing... what kinda addiction is this?

Danrodney:
yes I was sitting in the living room with my mom and sisters wen the neighbor raise the alarm.. My mom has just been crying since... She is so tired of this disgrace

Fabulocity:
And I'm sure your dad is somewhere, looking for the next female victim to peep at. And you're here, starving yourself and feeling like dying over your father's depraved acts. What more can you do? If I tell you to talk to him or to pray, chances are, he might still continue to engage in his peeping Tom activities. So, my dear, do not let this cause you any headache. I understand how painful this might be, and coupled with the fact that we have so many judgemental people whose tongues will always wag when they see you. Just learn to ignore all bullshit comments that come your way and focus on yourself and your family. Be the man of the house as your father obviously has some deficiencies in that area. Concentrate on whatever you're doing now, be it school, work or whatever and invest all that energy you are using to dwell on this issue into yourself. You won't stay in your father's house forever, so make a name for yourself and be the man you want to be. Don't let this bring you down.
And oh, for the love of God, be extra watchful over your sisters especially when they around your father. From watching them naked as they take their bath, only God knows what his next line of action will be.

somez:
My mouth just ran dry... That man is liable of raping he's daughters.

dangotesmummy:
stories. Instead of dealing with the problem from the root you're suggesting palliative measures

There's something my pastor says.any problem be it mental social health or psychological issues you don't deal with from the root will sonner or later disgrace you.its just a matter of time.

It's like someone down with malaria and you're only treating the symptoms giving him only paracetamol to cure his headache. When the headache subsides temporarily the malaria will knock him down till he's treated for malaria

No matter wherever he is if he hears that his father was caught peeping on someone else's wife HE CANNOT CONCENTRATE. Sooner or later he will be hearing snide comments and mockery.before you know it your family will be labelled. They'll say don't marry into that family. Their father did this or that. Don't let him work here his father did this or that

Fabulocity:
Goodluck dealing with the issues. Maybe you misunderstood my post a bit, I support them finding a "solution" to the father's problem. But let's face facts, Issues like this don't just get solved, it's an addiction. Kind of like masturbation. The father might sucessfully quit his habit for a while, but after some time, he goes back to it.So, if they decide to pray, talk to him, take him to a pastor or wherever and he still doesn't drop the habit, does it mean the boy should give himself headache over another person's issue?
That's why I decided to advise him to develop a thick skin to people's comments and focus on himself and his family. People can say what they want. And don't you think it's a bit foolish and extreme to think parents won't want their children to marry into that family because the father is a peeping Tom?

Danrodney:
Well thanks for all ur wonderful comments but let me break it down... This is not the first he is doing this.. He has this habit of drinking and each time he drinks he kind of behave unusual as a drunkard and in the spirit of that he peeps and we all thought it was as the result of the drink... Which we caution and he promised never to do it again... After sometimes he will do it... Thinking it was a spiritual problem which we prayed for him in fact no one knows the Bible like my dad in the family.. And now it just happens today... I don't want to believe is spiritual I think he is doing it because nobody ever did anything to him like arresting him or beaten him up...I don't even know what to say anymore
I need solution to this mess... I don't want to be like my father and I don't want him to tarnished our family reputation

Danrodney:
Good day everyone am born into the family of 4 three girls and myself as the only boy and the firstborn in the family.. My father has this habbit of peeping at neighbors each time they are taking their bath in fact he sometimes he peep at my sisters too.. His daughters I feel so acrimonious right now.. because today he just peep at a neighbor and when she raise alarm... Am so ashame right now.. I have been indoor through out I can't even eat because of the shame.. I don't even know what to say or do
Pls naira landers wat shul I do should I get him arrested and how should I go about it or what should I do to make him stop Pls help with advice cos is like a nightmare to me
Lalasticla

Yieldings:
Your father's behaviour is both a crime and a sin. I'm glad that you know his behaviour is very wrong; I'm proud of you.

But you shouldn't feel suicidal because of your father's despicable behaviour. You are not responsible for his behaviour and shouldn't have to pay for it.

Do you have older women in your family that you could talk to? Your sisters/his daughters are aware of this behaviour too. All of you should speak to someone you could trust and seek their counsel. You said he has peeped at your sisters too, which is incredibly disturbing. Your sisters are on the verge of becoming victims of sexual abuse - at the hands of their father. Either your father gets removed from the home or your sisters find another accommodation because right now their being in that house is not safe nor healthy for them. I'm worried about you too, as this is affecting you negatively as well in terms that it's making you depressed.

demelza:
Er... Sorry but if your neighbour raised alarm and people gathered like its the case in Naija, then there is no reputation any longer.
Bad news travels at the speed of light.

Danrodney:
Well thanks for all ur wonderful comments but let me break it down... This is not the first he is doing this.. He has this habit of drinking and each time he drinks he kind of behave unusual as a drunkard and in the spirit of that he peeps and we all thought it was as the result of the drink... Which we caution and he promised never to do it again... After sometimes he will do it... Thinking it was a spiritual problem which we prayed for him in fact no one knows the Bible like my dad in the family.. And now it just happens today... I don't want to believe is spiritual I think he is doing it because nobody ever did anything to him like arresting him or beaten him up...I don't even know what to say anymore
I need solution to this mess... I don't want to be like my father and I don't want him to tarnished our family reputation

Danrodney:
thanks a lot for that... My sisters will be living the house I don't know to where but they will definitely I don't want anything to tanish there image... But wat shul I do to my father should I just live him just like that... Because am afraid he is will do worse... What should I do..?.

baby124:
If you kill yourself. He will keep doing it. Your father is a sexual predator. One day he will pounce on his daughter's. I honestly despise women like your mother. She knows your father is sick in his mind and she keeps her kids around him. It won't take long before he abuses his kids. Never leave him alone with your sisters. Never. If hope you are male sha. If you go out, take them with you. Your mother cannot help you if her reaction to his doing this to her own daughters is to sit down and cry. You kids have to protect yourselves from your father. You can't kill yourself because your siblings need you. It's time for you to find work, find enough money to rent accomodation far from him if you can. And leave him and his wife to continue disgracing themselves. Don't feel bad. He is an adult. His sick and depraved ways are his own shame.

baby124:
If you kill yourself. He will keep doing it. Your father is a sexual predator. One day he will pounce on his daughter's. I honestly despise women like your mother. She knows your father is sick in his mind and she keeps her kids around him. It won't take long before he abuses his kids. Never leave him alone with your sisters. Never. If hope you are male sha. If you go out, take them with you. Your mother cannot help you if her reaction to his doing this to her own daughters is to sit down and cry. You kids have to protect yourselves from your father. You can't kill yourself because your siblings need you. It's time for you to find work, find enough money to rent accomodation far from him if you can. And leave him and his wife to continue disgracing themselves. Don't feel bad. He is an adult. His sick and depraved ways are his own shame.

dangotesmummy:
i think at this point all of you (i mean all his children ) excluding your mother need to move out of that house so that you will not hear stories that touch for your safety and sanity.let your mom deal with her husband whichever way she deems fit.whether she will call pastor OR olori ebi but some one outside your immediate family has to be aware so that drastic action will be taken asap

Your sisters staying in that house is very risky.he might come home drunk one day and descend on your sister then when his eye clear blame IT on the devil

HE can also impregnate your sisters sef so you all need to gather money and rent another apartment far away from where they stay

Yorubas say koju maribi gbo gbo ara logun e

dangotesmummy:
good.Your sisters can go stay with either of your paternal or maternal grandparents or any of your mother or fathers siblings or their friends or better still Your own friends till they gather money to rent an apartment

Danrodney:
thanks that is what I will do...

Danrodney:
thanks that is what I will do...