Hi folks, hope u r going to see this question 4rm a matured point of view.
i met a girl at a function in Abuja last year July,but during the prog. i never disclose my intentions to her but 4rm there we became talking friends and 4ter d programme we all left 2 where we r all serving ur fatherland but sometimes in september i hinted her abut what i wanted 4rm her but she told me dat she's engaged and her friend confided in me by telling me dat she's not.i even went 2 see her in the place she's serving but yet she doesn't want to heed 2 my proposals. i need u guys 2 tell me wat 2 do shld i continue 2 try or give up cos i love dis girl 4 real.i dnt mind if i end up with her.i even try 2 hook up wit her during dis festive period she never gave conswent to d dates.
Help Wat Shld i Do

well, love could be complicated at times. let's get it slow. now the truth of what u are feeling is a deep sense of attraction. we cannot call it love in an actual basis cos u'll agree with me that love is a feeling that matures with time and trials.
that understood, if your feeling of strong attraction for this lady still persists, still keep on trying. she might be trying to observe u to see if u are genuine in your intentions or u just want a casual fling. but if she still objects, let the issue drop for a while. girls sort of get irritable if pressured.

hey the dvampire, long time. i think you are totally right on this, i give it to you

she is just playing hard to get.

@mobuwa: thanks girl. i'm cool. it's just that i've been dealing with a lot of things lately.

@dvampire, like what, job? relatinship? family? housing, clothing or shelter? what can it be? Always remember that God is able.

i just started the year on a sour note in my relationship. my girl (sorry ex-girl) said she is going back to her former guy that she still loves him. that is after making me spend my hard earned money on giving her great romantic and candle-lit dinners this christmas. and to think i was going to propose to her at the end of the month.(well, shit happens). then i'm trying to change jobs. and my family is doing just great.

sorry about that dvampire, hope you are taking it nicely with yourself. Ican assure you that you will find a better girl. coz if you are thinking the situation is that bad, what if you've already propose to the girl b4 telling you she's still feeling her ex. well things happen, and dont give-up bcoz of a girl that doesn't deserve you, coz there are lot of girls out there dieing to hold hands with you. and i also hope this teach you a good lesson about choosing. DON'T GIVE UP, TAKE ANOTHER CHANCE