Medunah:

Mr, I am not adoring toke, I just admire the fact that she was brave enough to share and accept her mistakes......and this is a common occurrence in our society, so why turn a blind eye to it?
Are u saying she should have stayed in the marriage regardless of the face that he impregnated someone else? And that would have being her success story? Or are you saying it was her fault he cheated??

And about dingbang, he evaded the question and I confronted him about it and mind you, he wasn't the only one I quoted so I don't have any issues with him whatsoever....

I did not evade your question medunah.. u were judging and I wanted to put the same question to you as well and u also evaded it. So what are we not saying

Medunah:

That doesn't change the fact that he cheated over and over again and was also a chronic liar abeg and like I said earlier toke also had her own faults so am not willing to go down that Lane again

people have reasons for things. justified or not justified that's another different story entirely. just like someone advised, focus more on people who made it not the likes of toke. pretty simple

Once a cheat is always a cheat...
After an open confrontation about his sudden change in character(no calling, using different DPs of ladies, nt even picking calls nor returning missed calls) bt I didnt see any reasonable changes, so I left without looking back.

He is trying to find his way back most especially by sending his friends to beg me and also by calling... He said he didnt know the major reason for the breakup bt I have made up my mind that I won't fall for any of his begging trick.

Just move on with your life and be happy.

The breakup is a lesson for his next valuable relationship.

dingbang:
I did not evade your question medunah.. u were judging and I wanted to put the same question to you as well and u also evaded it. So what are we not saying

What question did u ask me?, dingbang

dingbang:
no deal means most women are cheats too..

Ok, maybe I get ur point now...... until I date you, I don't know if you are a cheat or not and until u date me, u don't know if I am a cheat or not??

STENON:
Once a cheat is always a cheat...
After an open confrontation about his sudden change in character(no calling, using different DPs of ladies, nt even picking calls nor returning missed calls) bt I didnt see any reasonable changes, so I left without looking back.

He is trying to find his way back most especially by sending his friends to beg me and also by calling... He said he didnt know the major reason for the breakup bt I have made up my mind that I won't fall for any of his begging trick.

Just move on with your life and be happy.

The breakup is a lesson for his next valuable relationship.

Thank you for these. I don't understand why they keep coming back begging, like if you really wanted me that much, why u acting like a stray dog?

STENON:
Once a cheat is always a cheat...
After an open confrontation about his sudden change in character(no calling, using different DPs of ladies, nt even picking calls nor returning missed calls) bt I didnt see any reasonable changes, so I left without looking back.

He is trying to find his way back most especially by sending his friends to beg me and also by calling... He said he didnt know the major reason for the breakup bt I have made up my mind that I won't fall for any of his begging trick.

Just move on with your life and be happy.

The breakup is a lesson for his next valuable relationship.

good. this is what Nigerian girls can't do especially when the guy is rich or successful. I have seen cases. but the average Nigerian girl won't even mind, some even contemplate giving their husbands condom just in case he wants to cheat.

even this your case too, if the guy had little more of what you need in a man and maybe age is not on your side You'd compromise and forgive. people react base on what they have and what the can sacrifice for a "better" benefit. it's all about demand and supply, opportunity forgone etc

Medunah:

Thank you for these. I don't understand why they keep coming back begging, like if you really wanted me that much, why u acting like a stray dog?

Exactly! The probability of cheating even after begging is 1.

AngelsAndStars:
good. this is what Nigerian girls can't do especially when the guy is rich or successful. I have seen cases. but the average Nigerian girl won't even mind, some even contemplate giving their husbands condom just in case he wants to cheat.

even this your case too, if the guy had little more of what you need in a man and maybe age is not on your side You'd compromise and forgive. people react base on what they have and what the can sacrifice for a "better" benefit. it's all about demand and supply, opportunity forgone etc

Yes, You are right pertaining to what I want in a man, bt the problem is that I can't withstand a cheating partner.

Medunah:


Me I don't understand this both you "she is a woman talk o' maybe u should expatiate
And you both didn't answer the question, why do you and your people cheat??

We cheat because there's always a female cheat to cheat with

Tallesty1:
We cheat because there's always a female cheat to cheat with

Now this is petty, tallesty........how can you even say this, of course there is always someone to cheat with, it's left to you to succumb or not. If everyone thought about it this way, then everyone who cheat just because there is someone available to cheat euth

Medunah:

Now this is petty, tallesty........how can you even say this, of course there is always someone to cheat with, it's left to you to succumb or not. If everyone thought about it this way, then everyone who cheat just because there is someone available to cheat euth

You asked me a petty and annoying question ma and petty question begets petty answer.

Who even tell you say i be cheat? Make i forgive you that one.

My response would have been different and reasonable if you had asked me the reason people cheat instead of why do u guys cheat.


Like we cheat with trees and animals.

Medunah:

Mr, I am not adoring toke, I just admire the fact that she was brave enough to share and accept her mistakes......and this is a common occurrence in our society, so why turn a blind eye to it?
Are u saying she should have stayed in the marriage regardless of the fact that he impregnated someone else? And that would have being her success story? Or are you saying it was her fault he cheated??

And about dingbang, he evaded the question and I confronted him about it and mind you, he wasn't the only one I quoted so I don't have any issues with him whatsoever....

Seems you have seen a lot in the hands of men judging from your reactions. But let me give you a good news, there are more good. men out there irrespective of your experience. I don't have issues with peoples experience and the society. We should learn to be objective admit our short comings and take responsibility for our actions

Medunah:

Ok, maybe I get ur point now...... until I date you, I don't know if you are a cheat or not and until u date me, u don't know if I am a cheat or not??

gbam... I couldn't agree with u more

Hmm! Well, I've gat no tym 2 trail a cheating partner . One tin dat's eva sure is dat; she can neva b in peace while we're stil in a r/shp coz mai words & texts are alwayz in parables....lyk two edged swords . Gbenro, would u xplain dat text beta pls? I don't get u... I xplain d praising part while d rest is covered 4 her 2 digest during her quiet tym

Medunah:




Sorry Pls drop ur numbers and I won't quote it so u will be able to edit and remove it later. My mail not working so I will send it thru WhatsApp....

ok then.

Thanks.

Medunah:

Exactly, I am so happy she told her story and am happier I read it cos as a very young lady, her story helped me a lot. I even put it upon myself to share the e-book to all my female friends.

please can you share the soft copy?
I'll send you an email
thanks

Ladies need to develop a high self esteem to overcome these bastards

Medunah:

Oga, it's not fight....it just a simple case of you saying you don't cheat, which I don't think you will admit to anyway.....

could you please send to me too ?

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Have you received it? hope you don't mind sharing the soft copy? make i send you email

Tallesty1:
You asked me a petty and annoying question ma and petty question begets petty answer.

Who even tell you say i be cheat? Make i forgive you that one.

My response would have been different and reasonable if you had asked me the reason people cheat instead of why do u guys cheat.


Like we cheat with trees and animals.

Like you cheat with trees and animals?? Silly ways guys justify their actions, very typical!

@Smhart1 and ajokebelle, seen....will send it to u soon. U can now remove ur numbers!!!!

@piercedclit, ur number pls, my email Not working

Medunah:
Now, am not saying toke makinwa is blameless in all of this cos I keep wondering why she married the guy when she saw all the signs?
Even His elder Sis warned her, family and friends told her he wasn't it but she still went ahead....
He cancelled wedding twice or was it thrice? Hian!

This book is an eye opener for me, I must say.!
Reading about what she went through and her struggles just makes me want to give her a hug coupled with the fact that she lost her parents at a very tender age.

People were too hard on her during the whole drama like twas entirely her fault.
I did criticize her and it was for the fact that she was giving people relationship advice when her own marriage was on fire. She always acted like she and maje had the perfect relationship when she knew fully well that maje was cheating on her......

Tuface and Annie is also another good example, Annie kept taking him back even after series of cheating issues and other baby mamas wahala.....

Tania Omotayo and wizkid also, dating today and off tomorrow when it was obvious wizkid was cheating before she finally left him......
And so many other cases like that

Lols@ Annie and Tuface. Do you think she would take him back if he was one truck pusher in New nyanya market.

Like I said earlier. Unah wahala dey unique and e no kukuma get solution.

dingbang:
who is you and your people? ..


Please remind me d last time we had a relationship and I cheated on u.

I thought I was the only person that the question didn't meet well.

Tallesty1:
I thought I was the only person that the question didn't meet well.

as in eh, all these frustrated females dah will come online to wail about their past instead of them to look at the future

dingbang:
as in eh, all these frustrated females dah will come online to wail about their past instead of them to look at the future

I personally haven't cheated on any woman but I have been with two cheats and one potential cheat and someone here expects me to show her my 32 afyer she called me a cheat

the fear of AIDS,STI and STD will not even allow me to accommodate a cheating partner.


I am not good at playing detective on anybody. I love being happy. I know in my heart that the way I uphold faithfulness my God will protect me from philanderers.

Tallesty1:
I personally haven't cheated on any woman but I have been with two cheats and one potential cheat and someone here expects me to show her my 32 afyer she called me a cheat

lol na woman she be, I am not surprised at her reasoning

Women generally are soft hearted and mostly, it's the good ones that get cheated on coz d 'open eye' ones are in it for d benefit and are also cheating themselves so it's equal. Not all men cheat and I also don't want to believe that once a cheat is a always a cheat. Except u r dealing with low lifers mindless of their financial status! Besides, cheating doesn't start with the sex. The sex is only the height. Cheating starts with contacts, convos, meetings etc. It takes different routes in different forms! There are faithful men, let God help you find them, respect them, keep them and make yourself keepable! Forgiving a cheating partner once, shows forgiveness! Doing that repeatedly shows weakness and poor self esteem and sense of worth!

Medunah:

Like you cheat with trees and animals?? Silly ways guys justify their actions, very typical!

@Smhart1 and ajokebelle, seen....will send it to u soon. U can now remove ur numbers!!!!

@piercedclit, ur number pls, my email Not working

i was able to get it elsewhere . Thanks

Piercedclit:


Have you received it? hope you don't mind sharing the soft copy?
make i send you email

Yes I have. Send it.

Because cheating is normal and natural

Epathra:
Women generally are soft hearted and mostly, it's the good ones that get cheated on coz d 'open eye' ones are in it for d benefit and are also cheating themselves so it's equal. Not all men cheat and I also don't want to believe that once a cheat is a always a cheat. Except u r dealing with low lifers mindless of their financial status! Besides, cheating doesn't start with the sex. The sex is only the height. Cheating starts with contacts, convos, meetings etc. It takes different routes in different forms! There are faithful men, let God help you find them, respect them, keep them and make yourself keepable! Forgiving a cheating partner once, shows forgiveness! Doing that repeatedly shows weakness and poor self esteem and sense of worth! You can please send me the soft copy 07038513703. Medunah, Tallesty1

Low self esteem isn't always the reason people forgive the spouse that cheat on them continually.

People who think that every other man out there is a cheat are likely to stick with a serial cheat.

Those who went into the union just to be in the list of married people won't care much.

Perpetual broke and jobless people wont care much.

Religion and culture also play significant role.

Another thing that contributes immensely is what we call marriage. Check out what's called marriage in some parts of the country.

Guys are tasked to bring rain in dry season before he could get a wife. So who are you to complain on being cheated on when he literally bought you?

As for Toke and her book, I am not reading that shit because it's obvious from some of her previous posts that she's an irresponsible woman so I cannot believe her story because she cannot be honest. Not now that she's pained.