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Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 5:30pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
MYpains. at 15, my mum still bought me clothes. was just bigger than my age. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 5:34pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
missjo:Yeahh.. Got it . Sorry for earlier. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 5:38pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
mypains:Shey i'll lie on nairaland that i don't even have dp or know people? Sorry, cos i wanted to type 'your brain don knock'. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 5:40pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
mypains:Shut up too! Si'lly old foo1! |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by baby124: 5:43pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
I had so many rumors about me having sex when I was a virgin. Even from people that had never toasted me sef. It's not new that people will talk about you. Some will lie to make themselves feel good because they are delusional and cannot separate fiction from reality. This guy obviously has a big problem. Though in actual fact MouthAction is sex. Though forcing another to do it is rape. The best you can do now is stop talking to him. Avoid him at all costs and the places he goes to. For a 25yr old he talks too much! That is not a good sign in a man. I would expect this from a 16yr old. Don't be bothered by all the rumors, brush it off and thank God you did not have vaginal sex with him. This should teach you in future to be very careful of the people you let into your life or go into a compromising location with. Never put your self in a situation that you won't be able to defend your honor and dignity without harm to your self or your reputation! Just ignore him and defend yourself to the amebos that he is just your friend and nothing ever happened between you two. With time the gossip will fizzle out and a more interesting gossip will replace it 1 Like |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 5:51pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
Baby124, thanks. And yes, i've learn't my lesson. This happened three years ago though. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by mypains: 7:08pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
ChemicalReaction:when I was at your age, I had no girl friend, even at 19, I didn't have. It was just me and my books. It's sad really what you lots expose yourself to before you even reach 20. 3 Likes |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ElsonMorali: 10:11pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
ChemicalReaction: So despite the fact that you really despised the chap you ended up giving him a bj? Lol. Did you trip and fall face first on his d1ck or something? 2 Likes |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by yasolan(m): 9:04am On Dec 12, 2016 |
ChemicalReaction:3 years ago?? ..then why are u now disturbing yourself |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 10:48am On Dec 12, 2016 |
yasolan:cos i started hearing rumours lately |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 10:49am On Dec 12, 2016 |
ElsonMorali:Lol.. Stop teasing me jor! |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by yasolan(m): 11:30am On Dec 12, 2016 |
ChemicalReaction:Oh..just forget about it..since there is no evidence of some sort |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 11:39am On Dec 12, 2016 |
yasolan:Yhh.. thanks. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ElsonMorali: 4:07pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
ChemicalReaction: |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by MamaTej(f): 11:08pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
I really wish this happened in Lagos. Guys like this gets fuc.ked up everyday. I feel bad that I can't help. Op, Don't you have an older sibling? |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by MamaTej(f): 11:08pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by ChemicalReaction(f): 11:12pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
MamaTej:Yhh.. i do, but she's far. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by alexov(m): 8:11am On Dec 14, 2016 |
ChemicalReaction:I'm trying to understand how a 28 year old would be focusing on spreading rumours about a girl he molested. By 28 i should be thinking of getting married and being a reasonable member of society. Back to the topic, i strongly doubt that any right thinking human being can go to your parents and spit out such a tale. That's basically admitting that he molested you, since you were a minor. I would say don't be bothered by it. But then again i know how all these ph communities can be. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by bukatyne(f): 9:35am On Dec 14, 2016 |
freecocoa: I still wonder why ladies will chat up, pick calls, meet up etc. guys they are 'not' interested in. @ChemicalReaction: Ignore him (as long as he is not physically abusive) and see it as the 'consequences' of your indiscretion. AND DON'T EVER TRY TO MEET/SLEEP/FORCEFULLY OR WILLINGLY BJ WITH HIM... |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by missjo(f): 3:58pm On Dec 14, 2016 |
bukatyne:I know that was a rhetoric. |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by Naturalized(m): 1:06am On Dec 27, 2016 |
@ChemicalReaction Stumbled on this post now so i might as well chip in if it means something: 1. You have to accept OP that he molested you. Forget about those people that blame or insult you, in saner climes what he did warrants a prison sentence, or at the minimum deserve to have his face on creep catchers (If you live in America you should know about them). Anyways, since both are nearly impossible in naija (I dont even know the age of consent back home), you have to live with it and let go of the trauma that came with it. 2. This is where you have to be strong. The best person you can tell about it is your mom, tell her and be honest. She may freak out initially but as a mother i am sure she will come around. Next thing is to not admit you did anything with him, it is your word against his, have your mum confront and possibly shame him whilst insisting on your innocence. This is the best and only way you can come out clean from this! I made the suggestion in (2) because of the society we live in, if you admit to doing anything with him, word will spread fast, and you know how judgmental Nigerians are. They will mock you, even girls that do worse will call you name and it may forever affect your future. So even if you involve the police, insist on being blackmailed for something you didnt do. Dont let the stigma ruin your future, dont win the battle to lose the war! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by Raphael81(m): 8:29pm On Jan 07, 2017 |
Ranchhoddas: He who is sinless should cast a stone... |
Re: He Is Ruining My Reputation. Help! by Raphael81(m): 8:31pm On Jan 07, 2017 |
You can even make him an offer he can't reject >[center][/center] |
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