classicB:
There is this certain girl that is having a huge crush on my boyfriend of almost 5years, he himself is not helping matters cos both of them are close friends. I will like to explain to details. She isn't the only one actually, there is this other one Or two That post his picture on fb and instagram claiming him to be their boyfriend. I have talked Taya, threatened to break up but to no avail.
Around August, this girl posted the picture he snapped with him on instagram and wrote something like "he is the love of my life, don't hate cos u can't get.. .bla bla bla I was angry, I had to comment on that picture and tag the other girls claiming him to be their bf, I also tagged him too but he was quick to see the comment bfr any of them, he messaged me and begged me to delete the comment. I did, he had a chat with this girl only for her to start sending messages to me tru fb, she said she is his girlfriend and he told her am just a bestie, she sent me a screenshot which my bf denied saying she must have edited everything to make it real to me. My bf didn't cut his friendship with this girl o! Her birthday was last month and my bf still went there and they took several pictures together which she posted on fb, I guess she's doing this so that I can see it? I was angry, I showed him the picture again and he begged me not to break up that he will explain things to me.
Did I forget to say he posted the picture they both snapped together on facebook to Celebrate his birthday last year, I asked him about it and he said the picture is his only recent picture. He invited this girl to his sister's wedding and she was all over him while I was just sitted there with a friend that followed me, what will an introvert like me do?
I don't see myself ever rubbing another guy in his face, Even is he claims he isn't cheating, can't he manage his relationship well? What will it cost him to cut his friendship with this girl, maybe she is more important than me, or he is simply keeping me for being a faithful girl he can't afford to loose? I don't want to bring up any talk about the girl anymore, cos no matter how I rant it won't change anything.

falconey:
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GentlemanUnltd:

Good guy like who? heheheehhe

falconey:

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GentlemanUnltd:

No na, I they help you they market your market na.

We get yarn, whatsapp?

GentlemanUnltd:

No na, I they help you they market your market na.

We get yarn, whatsapp?

HungerBAD:
I will make this one short.

And this advice goes not just to you,but to others too like you,who are either not mature enough to know the definition of what a 'Girlfriend' is,or simply waging an unwinnable fight.

He is your Boyfriend and not your husband. Nigerian girls,for some strange reasons can't seem to differentiate between the two.

You have no rights over him,and or who he chooses to put on fb or any of his social media platform. You too can go ahead and reciprocate By adding a guys picture on yours.

You can't force your boyfriend not to be friends with other females,because he is dating you. And from your post,I think you are the type that monitors everything about him.

Quit that habit,and get serious with other things in your life. If I was your boyfriend,I would have ended this relationship a long time ago,as an unsecure girlfriend will eventually become an unsecure wife with plenty of troubles.

If you are not his wife,stop acting like one.

keenn:




I am tempted to think i was the one who wrote that write-up. I agree with u in all ramifications

I still don't understand the concept of " he/she cheated on me" when it comes to dating(as used here would imply boyfriend and girlfriend)

how does having sex with another while dating result to cheating, who created this unwritten code?

if it is cheating, are we right to say they are married, if no y?

what is then the clear cut difference between dating and marriage?

I felt so infuriated by the OP story, she is either too young, inexperience, the dudes nacks her well or she has a material gain from the said guy. why on earth will u monitor a persons(boy friend) way-about ... even messaging is supposed gf to ascertain the truth, that's so ridiculous and unbecoming. i will try at all cost to cut all ties with a girl like you regardless any feelings I av...gosh!!!!

if u feel someone is making u unhappy, holy-cow! climb oshodi bridge and look below, u will see thousands of people, this shows how insignificant u and him are, anyone is replaceable

falconey:

***** when you get it let me know.

olawealth1000:
When he acts like a weaklen you'll be the one to hurt his feeling with different mindgames, now he shows you the opposite you're still here complaining... I aint supporting him though cos I respect my gf alot.

Just that y'all ladies are so Complicated!

classicB:

Oh, you're simply not different from him. Do u feel he is right to continue to rub another girl in my face when he cannot take such. Can you honestly walk down the isle with such a girl? I am not asking him not to have female friends, I don't just like the way he is particular about this one. Something is fishy between them.

worworgirl:
Why are u so dull? You are the side Chick!!! Leave the lovers alone and walk away

classicB:

Thank you. Side chick for almost 5years now is it totally my fault that I am jealous. All is well

classicB:

So u mean in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, u mean either of the party is free to cheat since they aren't married anyway To you, cheating and this kinda thing becomes an issue only know marriage. Cool.

classicB:

M surprised by this. A responsible boyfriend becomes a husband and vise versa. How will I ever marry someone that sees nothing wrong in doing to me what he cannot take. What will he do if we marry? When two people are in a serious relationship, I expect both of them to act religiously towards getting married.

HungerBAD:
I will make this one short.

And this advice goes not just to you,but to others too like you,who are either not mature enough to know the definition of what a 'Girlfriend' is,or simply waging an unwinnable fight.

He is your Boyfriend and not your husband. Nigerian girls,for some strange reasons can't seem to differentiate between the two.

You have no rights over him,and or who he chooses to put on fb or any of his social media platform. You too can go ahead and reciprocate By adding a guys picture on yours.

You can't force your boyfriend not to be friends with other females,because he is dating you. And from your post,I think you are the type that monitors everything about him.

Quit that habit,and get serious with other things in your life. If I was your boyfriend,I would have ended this relationship a long time ago,as an unsecure girlfriend will eventually become an unsecure wife with plenty of troubles.

If you are not his wife,stop acting like one.

MathsChic:

That wasn't exactly short.

classicB:

M surprised by this. A responsible boyfriend becomes a husband and vise versa. How will I ever marry someone that sees nothing wrong in doing to me what he cannot take. What will he do if we marry? When two people are in a serious relationship, I expect both of them to act religiously towards getting married.

sashishalom:
Helo bae,

I know your in the wrong relationship..he keeps giving excuses and believe me its not about managing his relationship... your like his back up plan...

Yea yea ur the good girl and believe me this is how you'll be treated cause he knows how gullible we good faithful girls are...and a big No if your thinking if being good and faithful wont pay off.. it will.sweedie so dont go thinking being bad pays better..

You need to act quickly tell him you give up on him stating the fact how good you know you are...be confident... i wont say"you deserve better"...you might meet the worst but knowing how to confidently walk away knowing your worth makes the best deserve you...

Now i expect you to walk away from that relationship...i wont talk about the emotional wound you would sustain ...i'll expect you to deal with that...

But if you choose to remain and continuously receive his excuses like a daily sermon,i do your praying tounge never gets dry...

sirmelody:
You are just afraid of the truth because it might be true.

HungerBAD:
I will make this one short.

And this advice goes not just to you,but to others too like you,who are either not mature enough to know the definition of what a 'Girlfriend' is,or simply waging an unwinnable fight.

He is your Boyfriend and not your husband. Nigerian girls,for some strange reasons can't seem to differentiate between the two.

You have no rights over him,and or who he chooses to put on fb or any of his social media platform. You too can go ahead and reciprocate By adding a guys picture on yours.

You can't force your boyfriend not to be friends with other females,because he is dating you. And from your post,I think you are the type that monitors everything about him.

Quit that habit,and get serious with other things in your life. If I was your boyfriend,I would have ended this relationship a long time ago,as an unsecure girlfriend will eventually become an unsecure wife with plenty of troubles.

If you are not his wife,stop acting like one.