dollyjoy:
This is new to me. Never knew ladies chase guys too.

dollyjoy:
This is new to me. Never knew ladies chase guys too.

cliquevibes:
Buh d Men can chase d ladies ba??

Eastactivist:
In other perspective, you are indirectly telling us that it is the guys that have to suffer all these you've mentioned?

Nne, no be so o
In this earth we dey, there is no such rules, the rules you think that exists are man-made and not nature.
Let your natural self drive you, and God willing you will find the memorable peace in happiness ever imagined

LaCruzz:
Hmmmm,well i don't think it is normal to chase guys.He would take her for granted,make her look desperate.

LaCruzz:
Yeah ...guys will never listen to a lady who is ready to give them everything..they wouldn't stop chasing ladies that will never listen to them.

Eastactivist:


What about the guys too? Don't you think they maybe regarded or seen as being desperate? If is normal for you as a lady then it should be normal if otherwise.
Well, I think This has to do with self esteem irrespective of the divides.

You don't have to generalize, bc I've seen who it has worked for. That it didn't work for A doesn't mean it won't work for B and vice-versa .

This country sef, if you go for your choice they say you are desperate, you are this you are that, if you accept kwanu, they say you are cheap and that.

People must talk no matter your decision.

LaCruzz:
Hmm,you've said it all

LaCruzz:
Just beause the ‘chase’ is a crucial part of the
relationship, doesn’t mean that you should chase your
boyfriend to keep your relationship interesting. Men
should still do the chasing for these reasons.
We all have heard about the rules, and how we should
break some of them so we can keep our relationship
exciting. Among these rules is role reversals.
We should chase our boyfriends and, in turn, they
should play hard to get. While this is something that
some couples claim has helped their relationships, it
does not mean that you should give it a try in yours,
too.
We’ve rounded up eight compelling reasons for you to
say pass when it comes to chasing your man because
it’s him who should chase you!


1. It’s exhausting
Either he’s interested in strengthening your relationship
or he’s not. He can’t be in-between. He can’t be
undecided. More importantly, it’s just not right to play
games (which is what happens when he plays hard to
get), especially if you’re serious about him and the
relationship.
This does not mean that you should give him an
ultimatum. Instead, find time to sit down and talk like
two adults.

2. It affects your self-esteem
Yes, you’ll certainly find chasing your man thrilling and
challenging at first, but what happens when he
assumes the role of a hard-to-get and hard-to-please
man longer than you think is necessary?
Wouldn’t it be a huge blow to your ego? It’s not like
you need another reason for your self-esteem to go
down, right? Thus, it only makes sense to let your man
do the chasing.
After all, they’ve been hardwired to chase what they
desire and not to accept defeat. Chasing you will
surely give his ego the kind of high it needs from time
to time.



3. You miss out on time doing more
important things in the relationship
Chasing your man and playing games with him is a
complete waste of time. You two will be better off
doing activities that can help to build and strengthen
your bond with each other like going on dates,
planning a weekend road trip or doing just about
anything that can bring you close to each other’s
hearts.
Aside from this, it’s also important to take note that
while the chase helps to keep you and him in your
toes, the thrill and excitement it brings will wear off in
the long run. Instead, it will be annoying and may lead
to misunderstanding, which can cause your
relationship to end eventually.



4. You forget that you have needs, too
Your boyfriend acts difficultly and coyly and as a
response; you persevere against all odds to get his
attention. You know that he’s not being reasonable
anymore, but your heart says that you should still
chase him because making sacrifices and
understanding him are all part of the relationship (and
you knew that when you signed up for the relationship
in the beginning so you can’t really complain).
Because you were so busy trying to find ways to make
your man notice you, you neglect yourself in the
process. This is one of the ugliest downside of
chasing him because you should never have to
sacrifice your personal needs and sanity just so he will
be happy.



5. You become a doormat in the process
If you’ve been chasing your man for a long time now,
chances are he thinks you’ve become desperate for
him and your relationship (and you can’t really blame
him).
When he has this misguided thinking, he will put you to
the test to see how far you’re willing to go just to
please him. The result is that you will put up with all
the stupid things he does because you’re afraid of
showing him that you’ve given up on the chase.
This then makes you a doormat and, in case you
missed it, guys don’t love and adore doormats.


6. You lose your sense of self
You forget how you are an independent and strong
woman who does not take nonsense from any man.
Because your emotions have already overtaken you
and you’ve become obsessed with chasing your man,
you forgot who you are and what you deserve.
It’s a hard reality that women who have been chasing
their partners only realize when it’s already too late.
So, while you still have time and some self-worth, back
off from the chasing game. Let your boyfriend chase
you, and if he can’t be man enough to do that, maybe
he’s not really worth it after all.



7. He’s not that great of a catch as you’ve
thought
While it’s somehow understandable and forgivable if
you go crazy over chasing your boyfriend if he’s a ten,
it’s the opposite if he’s 5 or less (both in the looks and
attitude department).
What will you get from chasing a guy who obviously
doesn’t deserve a glance from you? Why would you
even chase him in the first place? Think about your
answers to these questions, then consider why you’re
even with him if he’s not worth your affection at all.



[b]8. Chivalry isn’t a part of what you signed
up for
Your boyfriend has to realize that not everything he
needs will be handed to him as if he’s a king. If he
wants to be treated as one, he will first have to prove
that he’s worth the queen’s trust and affection.
He should prove that he can be a knight in shining
armor, always ready to save the queen when she’s in
distress. He needs to chase her and prove she’s worth
more than his whole kingdom. When he’s succeeded
already, only then is he entitled to every perk that
comes with being the queen’s partner.



Times have changed and men have decided to sit
back, relax and let women do the chasing. However, a
man who really loves you will not let you shoulder the
burden that the chase brings, but rather treat you
exclusively to the high it gives.




Do you think it’s men who should do the chasing? For
what other reasons do you think women should never
chase their boyfriends? Share your thoughts in the
comments.



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http://youqueen.com/love/seduction/8-valid-reasons-why-you-should-never-chase-man/