https://penastory.com/2017/01/05/advice-me-my-boyfriend-has-been-there-for-me-through-hard-times-but-i-dont-love-him/

Happy New Year to everyone! This is our first edition of Tell Tale Thursday for the year 2017 and we are starting off with the issue of cheating and as usual, we have someone in a love dilemma. Read the dilemma of Shalewa and drop your mature comments only.

Dear Admin,

My name is Shalewa and I am 25 years of age, I have been dating this guy now for about a year and I have to admit that he has been a very good boyfriend but the problem is that I do not love him. Honestly, I only started dating him because the guy I truly love only wanted to be friends with benefits and seeing that I am 25 and time is not on my side for very long, I didn’t want to put myself in a situation of being with someone who only wants me for sex.

Shortly after I started dating my current boyfriend, I started experiencing some financial issues which has left me in a bad place because I lost my job and heavily in debt. My boyfriend has however been there for me as good boyfriend should and always encouraging me that things would get better. I only like him as a person and not really in love and I do not want our relationship to lead to the intensity that would make him propose to me.

Please what can I do? This guy is all that a girl could possibly ask for but I just don’t find myself falling totally in love with him the way he deserves and it is tearing me up inside doing this to such a good bye. Please I need candid advice on what I can do because I suspect if I do not do something quickly, things would get to a point where I might no longer be able to control it. Should I let go of a good guy because I do not love him and hope I would come across another good person or should I keep on with the relationship.

Thank you and I would be looking forward to hearing back from you.

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funny hw sum Ppl think. Nw ur debt hv been paid off. He stayed wit u wen nobody care, God is watching u. karma is a bitch remember.

alatbaba1:
funny hw sum Ppl think. Nw ur debt hv been paid off. He stayed wit u wen nobody care, God is watching u. karma is a bitch remember.

if this story is true, the girl need serious brain capsules, most Nigerian ladies are perpetually childish with an evil mindset.

I understood wat u are saying perfectly but the truth is dat u are wicked.y didn't u tell d good guy u didn't love him all dis while yet u allowed him spend all he had on u,u don't deserve him.i will advice u tell him nw and break up with the both of dem and think abt ur life.becuz d outcome might be disastrous.

didn’t want to put myself in a situation of being with someone who only wants me for sex.

I do not want our relationship to lead to the intensity that would make him propose to me.

Bītch, what do you want?

Reason why I hardly spend on ladies. Other foolish guys do the spending while I do mine in the oz ozer room

LordZero:


She's confused AF. Anyways, most of them are confused..

If it's a dude now, you'll see them flooding in to call men all sort of names..

It's sad what some guys go through. If only he knew the girl he's trying to make an honest woman out of, is busy salivating over anoda dude's cōck. . .

Beta bucks, Alpha bleeps indeed.

It sounds like you care about him a great deal, you just don't feel "in love." It may be that you just haven't gotten there yet, or it could be that there is no chemistry on your part. How long have you been together? If it hasn't been that long, I would give it a chance. Otherwise, you may want to let him know you want to be just friends. But a word of warning. Sometimes when a man is really nice and affectionate, it turns a woman off. But coming from someone who dated some real a**holes, a nice guy like that is hard to find, and you may want him after he is gone. Ask yourself if he has other characteristics that you like, or if he is really nice, and just plain boring. Good luck!!

LordZero:

An average Nigerian dude is brought up with the white knight mentality. . The knight in shinning armour BS and some other faulty mindset.

Then they have no one to blame but themselves when the said damsel in distress turns around and treats them as dirt.
Back in the day I wud get so angry at stories/girls like this u know, but nah - not anymore. It's like getting mad at a child for peeing his pants.

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because am a man I need to be heartbroken
after d one she thinks she loves turn her to sex machine, she will still come back to him abi.

LordZero:

it's abour being a better man. Someone that knows his worth, that knows pursuing his own happiness first is not a crime e.t.c..

Very true, that.
Mehn, nice having this discussion wit you - it's bn a while I had a chat on here wit smone who "gets".

Nooo! Don't break up with the good guy oh!
Please keep on dating him for the fun of it, enjoy every single moment.... life is too short. When it reaches the time of proposal, say No...if he doesn't want to take no for an answer, just dump his ass

LordZero:

same here bro.....


I've met dudes here who 'gets' and ready to help dudes but it seems people are lazy to change...




Nice meeting you. ...

Abi, well u know what they say about taking horses to the stream. . .

Ooòoh wait

Another afonja spotted
This girl head no correct

so after he has brought you back to your feet...you now realise you dont love him.this is wat we call "chop clean mouth"

You get better boyfriend you wan leave am, later you will be shouting that men are wicked

set of confused beings

Similar story to what my ex told me, the only difference is that she said God said she should end it

can the ladies please say something.......

gsparks01:
Similar story to what my ex told me, the only difference is that she said God said she should end it

Toor,

This is why many guys don't want to commited relationship......chop and clean mouth...friends with benefit is the best...