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Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by ganaziah(f): 1:00am On Jan 13, 2017
This may be a question answered randomly by all but not properly by all but I've really been wondering why do married men cheat on their wives especially when they know she's been faithful to them but yet he still cheats on her and what should be the solution to this?

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Prognose: 1:09am On Jan 13, 2017
For most men the sexual urge is a very powerful thing. Women will never understand it cos they are not in a man's body. See the other thread about the man quarreling with his wife and being offended and yet that same night he will still have the urge to want to have sex with her. I'm sure as a woman if your husband offends you the last thing on your mind will be to have sex with him.

We are just wired that way honey, we need a lot of help to control ourselves.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Prognose: 1:16am On Jan 13, 2017
The solution can vary depending on the man. There is no one answer to this.

A. Satisfy him sexually. That works if he is not having sexual fulfilment at home.

B. Talk to him about risking his life by getting AIDS and other STDS. This is for those men that are just woman-wrapper and chase anything in skirt. Prayers also help here cos its like the guy is addicted to sex and even satisfying him at home may not help.

C. Some men look outside because thier wife makes them angry or feel inferior and they want to feel loved or dominate a woman outside. Solve any long standing quarrel in your home.

D. Some women lose themselves whem they get married. They get fat and ugly, wear no make-up and develop CWO mummy arms (those flabby arms, yuck) . Some no longer shave down there, some no longer use perfume. They look older than the man and remind him too much of his grandmother and so his thin doesnt rise and he start to look outside. Men are moved by sight. Try to always look sexy for your man.

These are the few i can think for now.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by ganaziah(f): 1:21am On Jan 13, 2017
Prognose:
The solution can vary depending on the man. There is no one answer to this.

A. Satisfy him sexually. That works if he is not having sexual fulfilment at home.

B. Talk to him about risking his life by getting AIDS and other STDS. This is for those men that are just woman-wrapper and chase anything in skirt. Prayers also help here cos its like the guy is addicted to sex and even satisfying him at home may not help.

C. Some men look outside because thier wife makes them angry or feel inferior and they want to feel loved or dominate a woman outside. Solve any long standing quarrel in your home.

D. Some women lose themselves whem they get married. They get fat and ugly, wear no make-up and develop CWO mummy arms (those flabby arms, yuck) . Some no longer shave down there, some no longer use perfume. They look older than the man and remind him too much of his grandmother and so his thin doesnt rise and he start to look outside. Men are moved by sight. Try to always look sexy for your man.

These are the few i can think for now.



Yeah....I think I agree with you and the solutions to it...

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Adesiji77: 2:59am On Jan 13, 2017
Hmm...
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by krauss: 9:54am On Jan 13, 2017
Ma'am, don't ever allow anybody convince you that men are wired to cheat. I am not wired to, neither are so many others. Cheating is a decision one makes. Even you as a woman, yo sometimes have urge for sex but decide most of the time to get the satisfaction from your husband. Rem. never allow anybody convince you it is natural for men to cheat. Anybody who says that should personalize it.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by austinereds(m): 11:17am On Jan 13, 2017
self control is one thing most people lack.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 8:28am On Jan 14, 2017
Ma'am, don't ever allow anybody convince you that men are wired to cheat. I am not wired to, neither are so many others. Cheating is a decision one makes. Even you as a woman, yo sometimes have urge for sex but decide most of the time to get the satisfaction from your husband. Rem. never allow anybody convince you it is natural for men to cheat. Anybody who says that should personalize it.

Men are not wired to cheat neither are they wired to be faithful but circumstances push some to it, some understandably others complicated. I know a married friend who always cheated on his wife but for 3yrs since he met his mistress he has not cheated on her. He no longer hangs out with us, just behaving like a teenager in love - vexing.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by ganaziah(f): 10:56am On Jan 14, 2017
MurderX:


Men are not wired to cheat neither are they wired to be faithful but circumstances push some to it, some understandably others complicated. I know a married friend who always cheated on his wife but for 3yrs since he met his mistress he has not cheated on her. He no longer hangs out with us, just behaving like a teenager in love - vexing.



interesting....
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by ganaziah(f): 10:58am On Jan 14, 2017
krauss:
Ma'am, don't ever allow anybody convince you that men are wired to cheat. I am not wired to, neither are so many others. Cheating is a decision one makes. Even you as a woman, yo sometimes have urge for sex but decide most of the time to get the satisfaction from your husband. Rem. never allow anybody convince you it is natural for men to cheat. Anybody who says that should personalize it.



well said sir....I agree

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by ganaziah(f): 10:59am On Jan 14, 2017
Adesiji77:
Hmm...


say what's on your mind...
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Prognose: 12:25pm On Jan 14, 2017
MurderX:


Men are not wired to cheat neither are they wired to be faithful but circumstances push some to it, some understandably others complicated. I know a married friend who always cheated on his wife but for 3yrs since he met his mistress he has not cheated on her. He no longer hangs out with us, just behaving like a teenager in love - vexing.

It has been my experience that when a man falls hard for a woman he hardly cheats on her.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Richy4(m): 3:34pm On Jan 14, 2017
krauss:
Ma'am, don't ever allow anybody convince you that men are wired to cheat. I am not wired to, neither are so many others. Cheating is a decision one makes. Even you as a woman, yo sometimes have urge for sex but decide most of the time to get the satisfaction from your husband. Rem. never allow anybody convince you it is natural for men to cheat. Anybody who says that should personalize it.

I refused to add any other thing bro...It will be so sinful to add another "Is or was" in this your post... cool

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 9:06pm On Jan 15, 2017
krauss:
Ma'am, don't ever allow anybody convince you that men are wired to cheat. I am not wired to, neither are so many others. Cheating is a decision one makes. Even you as a woman, yo sometimes have urge for sex but decide most of the time to get the satisfaction from your husband. Rem. never allow anybody convince you it is natural for men to cheat. Anybody who says that should personalize it.
Cheating is mostly not about sex, a lot of factors are involved. More than 70% of men cheat because they are unhappy in their marriages, many for companionship, friendship etc. and not for sex.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by krauss: 10:13pm On Jan 15, 2017
MurderX:

Cheating is mostly not about sex, a lot of factors are involved. More than 70% of men cheat because they are unhappy in their marriages, many for companionship, friendship etc. and not for sex.
are you wired to cheat or is it a choice?.simple question

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Amicable24: 10:43pm On Jan 15, 2017
ganaziah:




Yeah....I think I agree with you and the solutions to it...
Could that be the solution.. Truth be told, even with all dat, a cheater (not all men though) will still cheat cos it's in dia blood

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Amicable24: 10:45pm On Jan 15, 2017
MurderX:

Cheating is mostly not about sex, a lot of factors are involved. More than 70% of men cheat because they are unhappy in their marriages, many for companionship, friendship etc. which will one day lead to sex tongue
Corrected!!!
Self discipline and God's grace is the best way out of it..

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 12:03am On Jan 16, 2017
krauss:
are you wired to cheat or is it a choice?.simple question

There's nothing simple about this question:
I know little of my wiring and anybody claiming perfect awareness of his wiring is deceiving himself. Our wires come from inherited data from millions of years ago and billions of data we acquire daily. We make choices to fit what we think of our wiring and yes because we know little of our wiring we are prone to making wrong choices. "Cheating" could understandably be in a person's quest to find the one that fits his wiring when he realizes that he has made the wrong choice alternatively, cheating could be an instinctive response to ones base, mundane, beastial wiring and this is complicated.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 12:09am On Jan 16, 2017
Amicable24:

Corrected!!!
Self discipline and God's grace is the best way out of it..

Sex is not always the objective for cheating and even pastors that teach self discipline and God's grace have been known to cheat - back to wiring.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 12:29am On Jan 16, 2017
krauss:
Ma'am, don't ever allow anybody convince you that men are wired to cheat. I am not wired to, neither are so many others. Cheating is a decision one makes. Even you as a woman, yo sometimes have urge for sex but decide most of the time to get the satisfaction from your husband. Rem. never allow anybody convince you it is natural for men to cheat. Anybody who says that should personalize it.
You cannot say your exhaustive reaction to situations until you find yourself in them and you cannot generalize everybody's wiring, I hate to say this but natural nymphos exist, they are wired naturally with very high libido some others are wired to quickly lose interest in just one partner, I mean that our wires differ and cheating is not always a decision and yes some people are naturally wired to cheat, this is complicated.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 12:36am On Jan 16, 2017
If we go by nature, then naturally there is nothing like cheating. Nature propels us by our instinct and drives us towards mating for reproduction so evolutionary pull is not in the direction of celibacy but rather in the direction of fvcking for reproduction. It takes a higher realization to make a choice not to "cheat", so naturally men are wired to reproduce, cheating is not a natural term but rather a lawful/ethical invention of a higher being.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by krauss: 8:15am On Jan 16, 2017
MurderX:
If we go by nature, then naturally there is nothing like cheating. Nature propels us by our instinct and drives us towards mating for reproduction so evolutionary pull is not in the direction of celibacy but rather in the direction of fvcking for reproduction. It takes a higher realization to make a choice not to "cheat", so naturally men are wired to reproduce, cheating is not a natural term but rather a lawful/ethical invention of a higher being.
We know the tracks that lead to death. This is the Bible: psalms 1:1 How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers! 2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night.…. I wish to be very terse but I'd still say this, In my life and I believe in so many people's lives, we know most of the things that would likely expose us to sin but as humans, we sometimes try to engage our curiosity to prove otherwise.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by krauss: 8:27am On Jan 16, 2017
MurderX:
If we go by nature, then naturally there is nothing like cheating. Nature propels us by our instinct and drives us towards mating for reproduction so evolutionary pull is not in the direction of celibacy but rather in the direction of fvcking for reproduction. It takes a higher realization to make a choice not to "cheat", so naturally men are wired to reproduce, cheating is not a natural term but rather a lawful/ethical invention of a higher being.
Again, sex is very much voluntary notwithstanding the involuntary hormonal transductionary signals that elicit the urge. There is a clear gauge between erec...tion and insertion. Even Joseph at possibly the very lowest ebb of his defence mechanism, was able to free himself from a beautiful and Unclad woman. I'm sure you at least know that passion can also he tamed. I for one have had ladies visit me bare breasted( seriously) and sit carelessly in my house without doing nothing. One even had the guts to say I wasn't romantic and that she can't marry someone like me if I asked her to. She even said she thought I was gay because she hadn't seen me attached to any lady. Once again, cheating is a choice.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by krauss: 8:37am On Jan 16, 2017
I believe in the concept of sexual corruption. What you feed your mind is what it will act on. We also grow from strength to strength as we overcome and conquer daily the temptations of sin. In turn, one goes from one point of weakness to a lower point as he accepts sin daily to be a part of him. The question is, how many are ready to let go the throes of the passion of sin. Yes and Yes, how many are ready to suffer the loss of the sweet but destructive taste of fornication and adultery. We all know we can work on this. Aside Christianity, other religions have different ways to tame the carnal mind, there is meditation and so much. The spirit of a man is subject to him.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Prognose: 10:58am On Jan 16, 2017
krauss:
Again, sex is very much voluntary notwithstanding the involuntary hormonal transductionary signals that elicit the urge. There is a clear gauge between erec...tion and insertion. Even Joseph at possibly the very lowest ebb of his defence mechanism, was able to free himself from a beautiful and Unclad woman. I'm sure you at least know that passion can also he tamed. I for one have had ladies visit me bare breasted( seriously) and sit carelessly in my house without doing nothing. One even had the guts to say I wasn't romantic and that she can't marry someone like me if I asked her to. She even said she thought I was gay because she hadn't seen me attached to any lady. Once again, cheating is a choice.

Are u a pastor?

What were ladies(not one lady o, but ladies ) not related to you, doing bare-chested in your house?

Do you really believe ALL men have the capability to see a barechested lady and not make a move?
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Prognose: 11:09am On Jan 16, 2017
krauss:
I believe in the concept of sexual corruption. What you feed your mind is what it will act on. We also grow from strength to strength as we overcome and conquer daily the temptations of sin. In turn, one goes from one point of weakness to a lower point as he accepts sin daily to be a part of him. The question is, how many are ready to let go the throes of the passion of sin. Yes and Yes, how many are ready to suffer the loss of the sweet but destructive taste of fornication and adultery. We all know we can work on this. Aside Christianity, other religions have different ways to tame the carnal mind, there is meditation and so much. The spirit of a man is subject to him.

Ok, you're a pastor.

If all the things you have said above about yourself are true, then I'm proud of you. However inasmuch as we know all men should exert self control, we should face the reality that many men fall into the trap of fornication frequently. It is a real struggle. The question of the thread is "why do married men cheat? " I am not saying a man cannot control himself, but you will agree with me that generally for men its not easy for them to control thier sexual urge. For some more than others, it is a daily battle of mind over matter. A few men have a reduced libido, yes, and dont get what other guys r going thru. But the majority of men, especially when they have tasted the forbidden fruit, are hooked to sex for life. Wether they can now make a decision to stick to one woman or not is another matter.

Inasmuch as we strive for righteousness, we should not deny the struggles therein.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by megareal: 11:31am On Jan 16, 2017
They will give all sorts of reasons to justify adultery but truth is that those criticisms on the wife are also those things that the wife sees in the husband and still goes ahead to accept him and be faithful.

I hate cheats. Whether you are wired to do it, or pushed to do it. If I can be faithful, I expect same from my spouse. Period.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 9:59pm On Jan 16, 2017
krauss:
We know the tracks that lead to death. This is the Bible: psalms 1:1 How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers! 2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night.…. I wish to be very terse but I'd still say this, In my life and I believe in so many people's lives, we know most of the things that would likely expose us to sin but as humans, we sometimes try to engage our curiosity to prove otherwise.
Bros how many wives did king David the psalmist have? How many wives did Solomon his son, the wisest one have? When u quote psalms also take a downtown stroll to songs of Solomon to seek the standing breasts.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 10:02pm On Jan 16, 2017
krauss:
I believe in the concept of sexual corruption. What you feed your mind is what it will act on. We also grow from strength to strength as we overcome and conquer daily the temptations of sin. In turn, one goes from one point of weakness to a lower point as he accepts sin daily to be a part of him. The question is, how many are ready to let go the throes of the passion of sin. Yes and Yes, how many are ready to suffer the loss of the sweet but destructive taste of fornication and adultery. We all know we can work on this. Aside Christianity, other religions have different ways to tame the carnal mind, there is meditation and so much. The spirit of a man is subject to him.
Brother many women will not marry you because religion has invaded and compromised your naturality. Man's religion cannot be wiser than the Creator's nature.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by MurderX: 10:04pm On Jan 16, 2017
krauss:
Again, sex is very much voluntary notwithstanding the involuntary hormonal transductionary signals that elicit the urge. There is a clear gauge between erec...tion and insertion. Even Joseph at possibly the very lowest ebb of his defence mechanism, was able to free himself from a beautiful and Unclad woman. I'm sure you at least know that passion can also he tamed. I for one have had ladies visit me bare breasted( seriously) and sit carelessly in my house without doing nothing. One even had the guts to say I wasn't romantic and that she can't marry someone like me if I asked her to. She even said she thought I was gay because she hadn't seen me attached to any lady. Once again, cheating is a choice.
Brother many women will not marry you because religion has invaded and compromised your naturality. Man's religion cannot be wiser than the Creator's nature.
Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives? by Amicable24: 10:27pm On Jan 16, 2017
MurderX:


Sex is not always the objective for cheating and even pastors that teach self discipline and God's grace have been known to cheat - back to wiring.
I dnt think I will agree with you on the wiring thing.. If it's so for men, then it shud be so for women too..
Not all men cheat na undecided undecided
krauss got something to say smiley

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