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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by thelish(f): 5:43am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Richy4: ur so full of wisdom. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miredia(m): 5:48am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Martinez19:"Probably" is too patronising. She might even marry his best friend. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miredia(m): 5:55am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Richy4:A nursing mother who insist if he doesn't cook, everyone is starving for the night, now that's absolute bullocks. C'mon now, you don't indulge people unnecessarily. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miredia(m): 5:57am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Opakan2:I'm not a fan of this shallow question, people change you know. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 5:59am On Jan 27, 2017 |
D.amnnnn!....i can't stand it! No woman can try such with me, ....IT'S MY WAY or the HIGHWAY!!! |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miredia(m): 5:59am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Opakan2:Not necessarily violent men but principled men that do not tolerate nonsense. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by fairygeh(f): 6:11am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel:You seriously mean she isnt working ,dhe sits her ass in the house all day and expects you to do all the house chores for her,you who is working??my brother,the thing is you are so weak,u have allowed her take advantage of you cos u dont want to hurt her. My advice-man up,you are the head of that house |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miredia(m): 6:15am On Jan 27, 2017 |
The truth is you love your wife more than she loves you; that's if she loves you at all. You're very fearful of loosing her and she knows it and capitalising on your timidity. Do not listen to all the post-partum depression nonsense they are talking about. She very well knows what she's doing, its a well thought out and calculated action. You can't man up anytime soon, trust me, she'll call your bluff, perhaps a couple of years down the lane when the love dwindles a bit and your insecurities are gone. Sad but true. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Taiwo20(m): 6:28am On Jan 27, 2017 |
E be like say dem done confirm you....... Imagine doing chores daily before going to work. The jazz is strong |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by DWJOBScom(m): 6:52am On Jan 27, 2017 |
johnson232: My God ! You have no right to call him a weak man Don't do that again 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by samhay: 6:56am On Jan 27, 2017 |
@Godiloveu,come and see this |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by braxjay(m): 7:04am On Jan 27, 2017 |
johnson232: and there it is people! there lies the hard trruth 1 Like
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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 7:08am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Nwogeh post:Every marriage is unique on its own and there is no advice that work wonders in all marriages. All of us has one or two things to endure in marriage and believe me many men do different things in their family just for their marriage to survive but most of them come out to say otherwise. my advice is, do everything possible to make your marriage work but don't loose your dignity as a man, don't be seen by your wife as being weak, over soft, wicked, over strict or over meek. just try and strike a balance in all. Mind ladies prefer strong men to weak ones. My wife works in a bank, I work in a private company, she wakes 5:30 and I wake 6:30, I provide, then she does the cores but I only, I repeat, I only help out when its necessary that I do so like when she is very tired, sick, heavy or when I want to surprise her, but I always make sure that she understands that I am doing her job so she should thank me for that. Abeg man up, cross your mind and make her understand that you are capable of doing anything to make her respect and reason with you. I don't believe in dominating her off course, her opinion should always count but you have the final say because we are to them what Christ is to the church....the head of the family. If you allow her continue like this, your children will follow suit to disregard your words. If snake no behave like snake, women will use it to tie firewood so act up but be kind and nice while exerting control. For now, capitalize on that thing she did and stop every help you give her in terms of house cores as a punishment for what she has done, then gradually start again with time. Make her to be the one that will be looking for peace. Define your duties in the house with her the day you will talk about it and stand on it. but don't forget that for you to achieve this, you should be able to control your sexual urge because that's one strength they have against us. if you discover their strength and smash it or counter it, they become powerless unless you begged her to marry her from onset. Women are really difficult and unless you are married, you will never understand. Less I forget, watch this movie with her....WAR ROOM, she will change over night. Thank you very much. I have so many Christian movie like the WAR ROOM, NOT EASILY BROKEN E.T.C thou she have not watch it i will definitely do that. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by guccimilan(m): 7:23am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel: I guess she's displaying academic superiority at home. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by woledami: 7:32am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel: briefly: This i believe is a very crucial issue, that isn't meant to be taken lightly. You are the man of the family and at such you command respect. she is meant to be humble and respect you. i implore you sit her down and talk wisdom into her head, but if she refuses, please call the attention of her parents, let them know what has been happening in your home. if you continue to tolerate this, my brother you will end up hating the decision to marrying her. i believe i helped with this. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 7:37am On Jan 27, 2017 |
The simple solution is to stop doing house chores for her (She can do them herself or get someone else like paid help to help her out). She will stop taking you for granted. How can she threaten that you all will sleep hungry if you dont cook. Oga, that means in her eyes you are no longer a man. You are now a sissy to her. And she even had the guts to carry out her threat of leaving you hungry just because you didn't cook. Was she ill at the time?! I personally, find it extremely hard to respect a man that condones such women. I wont respect my Hubby if he is weak. I admire him cos he is very loving but firm and strong. My ideal man. He helps me buy things from the market sometimes but I know better than to expect him to always do it. He will just stop the help. I have tried it before. Pls be firm but loving. I undastand your type, sir. Those men that are very domestically inclined and hard working. Truth is, most women take your type for granted till he shows her a little pepper or stops all those help. Man up. When she comes back to her senses, you can begin helping again if you wish. Or is she paying your bills and feeding you? This might account for her attitude too. Although, its wrong of her. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 8:00am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel: Get her a house help pls (live in or go come). Or get washing machine or washer man/woman, dish washer etc. This is not the correct interpretation of that bible passage of the wife being a help meet. You do not have to lose your self respect because you dont want her to grow old. Do you prefer her to grow into despising you? That's what is happening. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by GeoOla25(m): 8:03am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel:you are not a Yoruba man! |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Gkay1(m): 8:07am On Jan 27, 2017 |
no pain no gain. surely challenges will come but decision and determination will help you to overcome. remember the same lady, you love her before taken her to alter for marriage. my candid advice is call your wife and settle with her. real men don't complain but look for solution. remember it takes sacrifice to be satisfied in life. stop complaining and do what is right. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 8:07am On Jan 27, 2017 |
guccimilan post: I am a graduate. I guess she's displaying academic superiority at home.[/quote] |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by leoblacky: 8:17am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Bros its your fault dont start what u can not finish,u started cooking and other house chaos at ur early marriage nd now u want to stop bros its a problem and another thing i observe from ur post its like ur is the one providing for house while u are home waiting for her. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Darlingmua(f): 8:19am On Jan 27, 2017 |
dingbang:. The fact that you would proudly approve a man being violent towards a lady he claims he loves makes me wonder about the caliber of men we v this days. Yes she was wrong for abandoning her wifely duties but there are a numerous ways he could v called her to order without raising his hands. The day a man hits a woman he not only loses he's respect as a man in the eyes of a woman but is also an animal |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by 0luwatope(m): 8:20am On Jan 27, 2017 |
@Flyingngel Please whatever you do, please think well before doing it, d6n't just follow someone else advice because it worked for them, it might not work for you. i don't want divorce for you sir, becoming a man is not a day job, but try to be the man of the house, or maybe set your own rules that you can control as a nice man. You are not weak, youre just being too nice which she is not appreciating. Just think well and pray to God for the right path 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 8:22am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Wait... your wife actually gave you terms and conditions for marrying her and she brought a huge part of your wedding funds? (I read your other topic). And you agreed to the conditions? I guess doing plenty domestic chores were part of her conditions. I dont pity you. You brought this upon yourself. Either correct it or live with it. She forced you to go hungry cos you didn't cook. Smh. And you didn't reset her brain with stubborn attitude too. Not beating o. Just bring on your own strong head. Eat out and bring some home n enjoy. Ignore her completely. Stop being weak. She will adjust or carry her stubbornness back to her father's house. What kind of men and women are we breeding these days?! Gosh. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Truelies2017: 8:25am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel:Your wife is the reason many men don't help their wife's with home chores. He who has a head has no crown and the one with a crown is looking for head. If my hubby helps me with chores I will adore him like a king. However does your wife what you to look outside nìì or why is she misbehaving. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by creepsyme(f): 8:38am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel:certain things u overlooked during ur courtship, its either she never loved u from the start or u lured her into marriage using moni, or she is way too younger than u and u are the kind that prefers much younger girls for marriage, check out u laid a faulty foundation somehow and ignored the signs for reasons best known to you. my advice is send her packing and marry anoda woman who is willing to accord u your due respect as a man and will also be submissive. |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by longerthroat(m): 9:06am On Jan 27, 2017 |
you brought this to yourself, washing & sweeping the house on a daily basis, you really let your defence down for her to attack. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by wtfCode: 9:14am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Are transgendered or what? |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by pweetychyka(f): 9:14am On Jan 27, 2017 |
Flyingngel: OP, I must say this n trust me it won't get down well wit u...cos u probably married her cos she was beautiful Btw, u made d whole mistake.... i.e u brought it all to urself! 1. Didn't u date ur wife before getting married to her? 2. What kinda work does she engage herself with that's making her forget that she's suppose to be an help-meet and not u! Y on earth will u wake up very early to engage in the domestic chores when u have a wifey? My dear U have to man up! 3. Didn't u open that portion of the bible where it says 'woman be submissive to ur hubby for he is d head of the home' 4. Abeg who Masters degree don help for kitchen? She has such degree yet she doesn't work! So wats her level of productivity asides making babies? OP, hold ur ground now.... before it gets out of hand! If she refuses to take up her responsibility, abeg package her back to her parents house To all d single guys, please learn from this OP's mistake! Before u get married to any woman, ensure she sleeps over at ur house over the weekend atleast twice in a month. And if she comes, allow her meet ur apartment unkempt once in a while and see her reaction... #maopinion 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 9:27am On Jan 27, 2017 |
pweetychyka post: OP, I must say this n trust me it won't get down well wit u...cos u probably married her cos she was beautiful Btw, u made d whole mistake.... i.e u brought it all to urself! 1. Didn't u date ur wife before getting married to her? 2. What kinda work does she engage herself with that's making her forget that she's suppose to be an help-meet and not u! Y on earth will u wake up very early to engage in the domestic chores when u have a wifey? My dear U have to man up! 3. Didn't u open that portion of the bible where it says 'woman be submissive to ur hubby for he is d head of the home' 4. Abeg who Masters degree don help for kitchen? She has such degree yet she doesn't work! So wats her level of productivity asides making babies? OP, hold ur ground now.... before it gets out of hand! If she refuses to take up her responsibility, abeg package her back to her parents house To all d single guys, please learn from this OP's mistake! Before u get married to any woman, ensure she sleeps over at ur house over the weekend atleast twice in a month. And if she comes, allow her meet ur apartment unkempt once in a while and see her reaction... #maopinion Thank you. We dated but am telling u human being can change must especially when they are married. [/quote] |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Blonchilli(m): 9:40am On Jan 27, 2017 |
BrownCookie:Can't you see he's a confused and *weak* man |
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by BLoomfrancs(m): 9:47am On Jan 27, 2017 |
It is better I stay single than to marry and get eternal heartbreak. To hell wif marriage. |
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