BrownCookie:



I am a lady please.

Catalin:
Flyingngel, you need to man up ASAP, stop doing domestic stuffs for your wife. She is not working so why should you do domestic stuffs? Instead why don't you hire a nanny or house help for her?

krauss:
Finally, I can now agree that some people can go any length to fabricate stories here on nairaland, but my question is, why do that? smh disappointed.

Richy4:


NO...I do not think he is a weak man.... He is a married man.. There's a huge difference between marriage and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships which I believe you did not know based on your statement....If he doesn't help around the house who would..The wife is a nursing mother that requires help only that she was capitalizing on his goodness..

@ Op just help the best way that you can.. and any day or time u do not feel like it... just hit the ignore button....When some of them wants to pick a fight, that's how it starts...I remembered cooking for my Ex once...she said she loved it...The next time she came to my place she sweetly asked me to cook again and I did...when she asked for the third time... I did but with an extra 4 spoons of salt and a lot of grandnut oil surrounding the whole soup......We ended up ordering Pizza that night.....Through out our relationship, she never asked again....
If you wanna squash the cooking drama, maybe you might just borrow/ learn from what i did...Cook it all wrong once or twice without being asked some times...Next time she will not bother you again...

babseg:


Well said

Did you read the part where his wife threatened him that everyone will go to bed with empty stomach?

Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

dingbang:
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!

Richy4:


NO...I do not think he is a weak man.... He is a married man.. There's a huge difference between marriage and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships which I believe you did not know based on your statement....If he doesn't help around the house who would..The wife is a nursing mother that requires help only that she was capitalizing on his goodness..

@ Op just help the best way that you can.. and any day or time u do not feel like it... just hit the ignore button....When some of them wants to pick a fight, that's how it starts...I remembered cooking for my Ex once...she said she loved it...The next time she came to my place she sweetly asked me to cook again and I did...when she asked for the third time... I did but with an extra 4 spoons of salt and a lot of grandnut oil surrounding the whole soup......We ended up ordering Pizza that night.....Through out our relationship, she never asked again....
If you wanna squash the cooking drama, maybe you might just borrow/ learn from what i did...Cook it all wrong once or twice without being asked some times...Next time she will not bother you again...

Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

Richy4:


If you have ever been in a relationship, you will know that people say alot of things when they were on that heated argument stage....just to hurt one another....or pass their massage across.......that's why it is called misunderstanding between husband and wife... and their own case is not different from any other couple's fight....Some deny their husband sex etc...I still maintain that it is marriage..not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship...This is the real deal....

ojun50:
Were did u meet yr wife?

Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

Flyingngel:
johnson232 post:
Honestly u are a weak man.


Bros, don't judge me like that; am just following d bible that the woman is a help Meet. I do alway this so that she will b happy and not grow old quickly and i love her.

Richy4:



If the OP Stopped giving a helping hand and the wife comes in here on NL and start ranting about how OP doesn't help despite the fact that she is a nursing mother, I hope you not gonna swallow your words and start talking about how uncaring the OP was...I do not see anything wrong with a family man helping the wife in doing domestic work.....This is marriage, it is not boyfriend and girlfriend....

Him helping out in doing domestic things in the family as head of a household especially when a new born baby is involved by the way does not mean a sign of weakness.....I do not know where people are getting this tall EGO from...that's just a wrong mindset...

montezz:

Are you married?

frostylook:
Madam is testing your limit to see how far she can go. Stamp your foot down now that it's still early. Tell her you won't tolerate that nonsense next time and mean it.
If you allow her to get away with this behaviour, you will soon become her full time houseboy and ATM machine. Next time she tries that stunt, don't bother eating her food for a week, let her cook and eat alone or stay hungry to make her silly point. Eat out and ignore her. If that doesn't tighten the nuts in her head, stop dropping food money.
Hian!! Imagine starving the man of the house unto agaracha levels? For what? After being the only one hustling and providing, you will come home to cook for her(a housewife) on top to show what a good man you are? Who married who? Keep saying you are weak and you will soon find yourself as a victim of domestic abuse.
It's all in your hands to step up. Na only talk I fit talk from here.

Richy4:


I am scared of Commitment because of something like this..

montezz:

Are you married?

Flyingngel:
BrownCookie post:What kinda work does she do that you will be the one who wakes up by 5am to do shores?

Does she make the bulk of the income?

I mean, you can help out but this is getting a little too much ie if you are telling the truth in its entirety.

U really need to man up @ poster.


Thank u Sir. She is not working; and i am a Civil Servant.