Guys/Gals: How do you feel and what do you do if your gf/bf introduces you to some of her/his friends as her/his 'friend', though she/he acts before them in a manner that may indicate that you are her/his bf/gf?

Thats bad even if he/she indicates that u both are having a relationship, to me it mean u are one of the waka pass"fast one"

I'm talking of a relationship that is about a year old and virtually everyone in his/her family knows about it (except the parents). Could it still be a case of a waka pass"fast one" or could it be that he/she is a bit afraid of serious commitment yet?

i'd feel terrible. i would think that the bobo isn't really that serious about us, especially if everyone knows about us except the parents?! how is that now?

@ Ano
I feel you, but it might really not mean that the bobo isn't serious. He could be taking his time as regards introducing you to the parents (or is a year too long for that, guys?). Let's just say, in this case, none of you had really introduced yourselves to your parents, but your brothers and sisters know about the relationship. My point is, could it sometimes be a kind of slip of tongue or something for him to introduce you as his friend sometimes or a sign he may not want much commitments yet? Is it something you would likely talk about with him without feeling insecure and petty?

@ iice
Could you please just tell us why you would be cool with that (especially, if what you had in mind was a relationship with serious commitments)?

Ok, I think I get your point now, iice. By the way, that really doesn't sound so quirky. Anywayz, thanks for y'all for your contributions so far.

its all good by me.i will also introduce dat way.if dats wat he wants.

Friends we shall remain.

Kini big deal

@kellygirl!! i like your response girl. just like a phrase i often use,""TREAT 'EM JUST THE WAY THEY OUGHT TO BE TREATED"" Nothing spoil. since my girlfriend no fit introduce me to her friends or family as her boyfriend just friends, i will lovely and comfortable introduce her as a friend even if we shag that very moment.


I come to really realise that such attitude is common among ladies. There was this programm that was aired on one of the radio station about guys upseting their girlfriend and they will call in to let the presenter know for them to call the girlfriend to ask for forgiveness unbehalf of the guy and when the programm got started, they called the first girl and they asked her.

presenter-Hello, am i speaking with Ruth??

Ruth-Yes this is Ruth

Presenter-Please, do you know someone by the name James ,

Ruth-Yes.

Presenter-Who is he to you??

Ruth-A friend

Presenter-What kind of friend

Ruth-(Hesistated) Just a friend.

Presenter-(Confused) Is James your boyfriend or not??

Ruth-He is.

Presenter-Then why ain't you saying it? why say he is just a friend?

Ruth-(Silent)

Presenter-(Disbelieve) Well, James call that he offended you and that he want us to call you and apologize on his behalf. Have you forgiven him?
(After the presenter might have explain all that transpired between her and her boyfriend)

Ruth-Yes, i have forgiven him.

That how the story ends people. You see how we abuse the word relationship with our immaturity? If you know you are not up to a task, please do not embark on it and when you are sure, in regardless of what might be the outcome of such task, accept all that goes along with it and feel proud about what you are doing. Don't ever shy away from it.

Ask her why she did that then give feedback.

no biggie
introduce him too as a friend
its then become a joke between both of us

So! whats the big deal?

Girlfriend/ Boyfriend, You guys are still friends, so introducing you as such is just stating the obvious, I'll just introduce her the say. Who cares anyways, so long as she doesn't act like i'm just one of her numerous friends.

Boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, are all semantics, what matters is the mind. She could as well introduce you as her boyfriend and treats you as though you were just a friend.

It all depends on the capacity wit which d term friend is defined,or perhaps redefined.If d friend means her boyFRIEND,fine;but if it means an ordinary-FRIEND,then "Ara ga gba ndi ara" ,cos i'll introduce her as my 'racket' meaning a one night stand,n trust me,that will kill her spirit

When i was single,
I used to introduce my ex by their first name.
Some didn't like it, but i luved it that way.

well he they happen at times

arramyjay:

Friends we shall remain.

WORD!!!

OP.
I would charge her to my bedroom for the allegation