Splinz:


No mind the yeye girl. She just dey used op's head dey play ludo.

That girl penchant for sex (whether rape or not) no be here.

WackyJ1:
I appreciate the mature comments of some people on this Thread

Vorpal, Samstradan


This is true, I want the matured minds here who have been in such a situation before or have had contact with such a situation and have had unique insights to come and share their insights here on this thread.

Not for babies and Kids like
Elshehzad to come and be dancing around here and kiss Makydebbie's arse

Makydebbie, I appreciate your first comment but you derailed the thread with the rest of your Kiddish friends.
Take your dairy talks elsewhere.

theslyone2
You have decided to misunderstand my story.
She had several near rape experiences when she was a kid. I did not mention that she was also sexually abused by a family member.
She got into school and she was raped at a guy's place, she was too trusting and then she met me.
The second near rape experience and the last since that time happened one year later.

A friend told me that there are two reactions of people that got raped. One is that they hate men and avoid sex and the other is that they have a large appetite for sex.
Many people have different experiences and no one view is absolute. Check out Vorpal's post.

She might have a rape fantasy, but she has not admitted such to me. She might not even want to admit same to me.

Regardless, i appreciate your insights on this thread.

makydebbie:
Thanks hun

I couldn't stop blushing

WackyJ1:
So I dated this girl Quite sometime ago

She lost her virginity through Rape when she went to visit a guy in his place just like that
(Doubters Union that will say it's not true and that she lied to me, Hold your peace, I know why i believed her)

She is young and she has only been with me after the guy
She was very naive then, hence the willingness to just go to the house of a guy she barely knew.

One year after we started dating, on what was supposed to be our anniversary,
She called me and said she was almost raped by another male friend, this one she had told me about before,
That she screamed and neighbours started knocking, and that was how she was able to make it out of there
The guy was already holding her down by the neck choking her and ready to penetrate.

She was shaken up and it was her room-mates that consoled her.
She even had nightmares in the days after.
That incident would make it her third near rape experience, the first happened before she was actually raped and started her depression issues.

The thing is, she still likes to go to guy's houses where she will be alone with the guy!
She is a student.
One incident actually baffled me was when she just met some guys and within two weeks she was spending time in their rooms, watching movies and all.
it baffled me because anything can happen and she still risks it..

Last Week after some serious thoughts
I confronted her that she goes to guys houses because she liked the attention she gets from guys. She likes the attention she gets from guys that she knows want to sleep with her.
She then said that she knows it will sound stupid but she feels powerful when she is in those guys' rooms, and some she can control even though she can't control others and in those moments She doesn't feel vulnerable.
(She has an issue with vulnerability, she is afraid of getting hurt emotionally).

Pardon the long Post..
But i want to ask the wise and insightful people in the House..

What do you make of this?
Is the reason she gave all there is to it, or in your experience is there more?
Is she an addict?
Have you had any experience with girls like this?

Thanks for the matured comments.

jashar:
Probably has some weird sexual fetish she wants to play out.
BDSM abi what do they call that devilish crap?

OP, berra jejely comot for her life. She needs help but she ain't ready to be helped.

AyamConfidence:
black girls can't blush ma'am

Pls try another line cos I'm not buying that

makydebbie:
Says who?
We're fortunate that it doesn't show
Buy that

AyamConfidence:
okay I'll buy this one

How can I be helped... I find it difficult to update my diary

makydebbie:
Is it laziness or a technical problem?

AyamConfidence:
laziness mehn I wanted to update yesterday, I opened the page, clicked on the comment box but I just closed it up and ran back to FP to just be viewing comments

It's sad

And I have things to write ooo

samstradam:


Bro, you cannot broaden my understanding of the matter; like I said I have been in the shoes of the OP more than once and these include ladies of different races and classes, yet they all exhibited this dangerous streak the OP's girl is showing.

My issue with the stuff you are writing is you keep insuating the girl is lying and in general you keep equating rape with sex when both are actually quite distinct.

Straight to the point the OPs girl reminds me too much of my own experiences- and one in particular that went as far as not only putting herself in dangerous situations repeatedly but actually engaging in consensual sex with her rapist !! (explaining this will involve another thread). Anyway, she and most other girls that were raped early, tend to be quite truthful and do not lie about these matters to the guy they have chosen to unburden themselves to.

So yeah I feel sympathy, but to the OP because I have been where he's been.

Anyway, I do agree with you that a lady who behaves like this does seem hypocritical, but aren't all ladies hypocrites to a certain extent

luchee:
@Op, the general belief is that a victim of rape would probably hate men or sex after the incident but the truth is that it can also have the opposite of that effect. Some rape victims get satisfaction or sort of build their self esteem knowing that men lust after them and that they can call the shots for once.

I don't know if what i typed made sense to you but i am 100% sure of what i just typed.

Homguy:


Bro these are the options.
1. YOu are dating a psycho. Cause after the 1st 2-3 experiences she should have learnt her lessons. She has no business being with boys when shez got you even tho you are not around her.
2. Shes just a wayward kid. You might have to wait shes 25yrs plus before you start to have rest of mind.
3. Its possible shez not satisfied in yiur relationship and she keeps getting close to other guys to see if she can find that thing, or thrill.
4. I just want you to know this girl might just be a serial cheat. Times spent with boy(s) alone in his room isnt spent reading or picking beans. The boy wiuld want ti smash, and she wiuld have to like him enough to visit ab initio.
5. Shez just playing you which is least unlikely. PLus may i add shez not so smart...why,? You cannot love a dude and keep doing and also telling him thibgs that would hurt/irk or make him question your relationship.

My advice?

She comes across as a very young girl who just wants ti catch fun if you really are cool with that you have no business posting this topic otherwise, DRAW THE LINE. Set some rulez and attitudes you wont put up with. You dont want to keep wasting your time and resources on a relationship going no where.

Her spending time with different guys does not have any benefit to her life, yours or your relationship. Tell her uts got to stop.

makydebbie:
Lol...Do you have a notepad on your fone?
Where you can write stuffs and keep.

AyamConfidence:
yes na...but u really don't use it that much

You know I started writing a story last year but I stopped cos I got discouraged... Lost inspiration but I might continue sha iono

makydebbie:
lol, why don't you use your notepad when you're bored?
That's what I do.

AyamConfidence:
well I watch movies on my phone when I'm bored

I have a stack of em especially Tyler Perry's movies... But I'll try writing sha

I once wrote a diary on my phone about girl I used to like a lot and how life was without her(we didn't talk for a while) but it got erased when I restored my phone

But if I get enough spurs I might just start writing again

makydebbie:
Try hun, don't be lazy. BTW I'm looking forward to that story you mentioned

AyamConfidence:
its a very boring story... I wrote two chapters and I ran away I'll go look for the notepad I used and see if I can add anything but I must warn you...don't bank on it but okay I promise to post a poem I wrote last year on my diary whenever I update

makydebbie:
Don't forget to mention me biko

AyamConfidence:
no yawa

Na you I go first mention sef...you too gbaski

makydebbie:
Correct guy

WackyJ1:


Yes i was told as much by a close female friend of mine.



I believe number 4 is right. From information revealed to me yesterday by same girl. She has been sleeping with a guy once every time we broke up.. I wasn't the first after her de-flowering rape and there was even another incident after that, that she downplayed.
Her body count is 11 from what she told me.

Samstradam