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Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Jagabanmonerry(m): 1:33pm On Feb 06, 2017
I have being dated this lady getting to four years now. I love her but she posses some characters that I didn't like at all. we are from different tribe and difference religion but these are not the obstacle
She always like to argue with her senior sisters that will lead to using some derogative words that is not going wel wit me... words like 'stop talking rubbish, nosence and all sort of abusing well. I always look very annoy but I have being talking to her to change, that in my own language such words means insult to the elders but refuse to change after different confrontations. she is very hot temper. my fear now is that if I marry her, there is possibility of using such words to my families in which they will take it as an embarrassment. Seriously I had spoke to her on this issue for several occasion but she remain adamant. Don't know what to do. please Lala help me do justice by moving it to the front page. tnx
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Nobody: 1:36pm On Feb 06, 2017
People change
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by ikp120(m): 1:38pm On Feb 06, 2017
Bro you've got two options: either you take this as your cross and carry it, or you reject it as your cross and look for another cross to carry. But by all means, you MUST carry a cross. cool cool cool

She just ain't gonna change because of you.
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Jagabanmonerry(m): 1:45pm On Feb 06, 2017
xstry:
People change
I don't understand Brother.
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Jagabanmonerry(m): 1:48pm On Feb 06, 2017
ikp120:
Bro you've got two options: either you take this as your cross and carry it, or you reject it as your cross and look for another cross to carry. But by all means, you MUST carry a cross. cool cool cool

She just ain't gonna change because of you.
Sure a cross must b carry. Tnx
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Nobody: 1:55pm On Feb 06, 2017
Jagabanmonerry:
I don't understand Brother.
maybe you should try talking to her about it.
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by firstking01(m): 2:02pm On Feb 06, 2017
1.Both of you are from differend tribes

2.Both of you are of differend religions..

3.She has anger issues...

4.She uses vulga words on you and her sisters, even her seniors....chances are she's gon disrepect and insult your family members if you marry her...the signs are just too glaring.

5.And i'm sure you have your own bad sides which you delibrately omit.

Pls, abeg, mbok, biko, you guys should not marry, the differences and incompatibities are just too much...marriage between the two of you will surely hit the rocks with time...look for a way and path with her amicably.
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Nobody: 2:07pm On Feb 06, 2017
Well, is as a result of her foundation.

Obviously in their family a junior could use derogatory remarks on his/her elder and get away with it...faulty foundation!.

You can't change her cos those vulgar words are what she knows...from the abundant of the heart the mouth speaks.

Do whatever you think is best for you!.

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Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Nobody: 2:40pm On Feb 06, 2017
The obvious question here is whether both of you are in love. Why am I saying this?

From what you wrote, it very clear you love this lady. Does she reciprocate your love?

If she doesn't, considering her attitudes, I'll strongly advice you find the necessary means to lay the relationship to rest. You can't afford to spend years sowing where you may never rip and at the same time having to tolerate some intolerable characters. That could be frustrating.

Now, if this lady in question is such a loving kind, then you should bare with her. You know, Human nature is diverse. That's the uniqueness of life itself. Some are created temperamental. Some are mild.

It important however that you study the pattern/rhythm of her temperament. By so doing, you will be the first person she listens to at the face of argument. In fact, you can help transform her.

I wouldn't want you to engage her verbally when ever she snaps. Give her some time to calm down, rediscover herself. Then, engage her in a rather mild and profound manner. Make her realise the ramifications of what ever she has done. She's human. Am sure she ll listen when you talk to her.

If she hasn't snapped at you before, she has no reason to snapped at your family members. Most times, people hold more respect for outsiders than their family members that's why she disrespect her sister time to time.

Like I did said, talk to her in a cultured manner and watch the changes thereafter.

Benita27, nice one

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Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Jagabanmonerry(m): 2:46pm On Feb 06, 2017
TheSlyone2:
The obvious question here is whether both of you are in love. Why am I saying this?

From what you wrote, it very clear you love this lady. Does she reciprocate your love?

If she doesn't, considering her attitudes, I'll strongly advice you find the necessary means to lay the relationship to rest. You can't afford to spend years sowing where you may never rip and at the same time having to tolerate some intolerable characters. That could be frustrating.

Now, if this lady in question is such a loving kind, then you should bare with her. You know, Human nature is diverse. That's the uniqueness of life itself. Some are created temperamental. Some are mild.

It important however that you study the pattern/rhythm of her temperament. By so doing, you will be the first person she listens to at the face of argument. In fact, you can help transform her.

I wouldn't want you to engage her verbally when ever she snaps. Give her some time to calm down, rediscover herself. Then, engage her in a rather mild and profound manner. Make her realise the ramifications of what ever she has done. She's human. Am sure she ll listen when you talk to her.

If she hasn't snapped at you before, she has no reason to snapped at your family members. Most times, people hold more respect for outsiders than their family members that's why she disrespect her sister time to time.

Like I did said, talk to her in a cultured manner and watch the changes thereafter.

Benita27, nice one
tnx bro... God bless
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Nobody: 2:50pm On Feb 06, 2017
TheSlyone2:
The obvious question here is whether both of you are in love. Why am I saying this?

From what you wrote, it very clear you love this lady. Does she reciprocate your love?

If she doesn't, considering her attitudes, I'll strongly advice you find the necessary means to lay the relationship to rest. You can't afford to spend years sowing where you may never rip and at the same time having to tolerate some intolerable characters. That could be frustrating.

Now, if this lady in question is such a loving kind, then you should bare with her. You know, Human nature is diverse. That's the uniqueness of life itself. Some are created temperamental. Some are mild.

It important however that you study the pattern/rhythm of her temperament. By so doing, you will be the first person she listens to at the face of argument. In fact, you can help transform her.

I wouldn't want you to engage her verbally when ever she snaps. Give her some time to calm down, rediscover herself. Then, engage her in a rather mild and profound manner. Make her realise the ramifications of what ever she has done. She's human. Am sure she ll listen when you talk to her.

If she hasn't snapped at you before, she has no reason to snapped at your family members. Most times, people hold more respect for outsiders than their family members that's why she disrespect her sister time to time.

Like I did said, talk to her in a cultured manner and watch the changes thereafter.

Benita.27, nice one
You're on point too, siblings could be very annoying but is important one puts his/her temper in check when dealing with them.

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Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by McBrooklyn(m): 3:37pm On Feb 06, 2017

Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by yorhmienerd(m): 3:41pm On Feb 06, 2017
RIP to English
Re: Just Need Some Piece Of Advises. by Jagabanmonerry(m): 3:45pm On Feb 06, 2017
yorhmienerd:
RIP to Englis
prof.... weldone lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

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