justwise:

I'm sorry but this is nonsense, i was not born here but 2 of my best friends here 2 zambain ladies, i have known them for 5yrs now, share flat with one of them but never ever cross the line, they were my course mates, we club, shop, cook together.

STOP saying Nigerian born men, u probably don't know more than 10 of them and yet u are painting all of us with the same brush.

U were groped by one or 2 of those half human beings not by ALL Nigerian born men.

CILondon:

I lived in Nigeria for at least 10 years, so I think I know more than 10 Nigerian born and raised men. I am qualified to comment - I'm not one of those "ajebotas" that has never been to Nigeria. My older sister also has the same problem with Nigerian men coming on to her, and many other women have spoken about it. It can't all be my imagination.

justwise:

I'm not disputing your case or experience at all, i'm basically saying that its not fair to paint all of us with the same brush.

Whether Nigerian born men or not its still a very silly thing to do.

CILondon:

People may say "don't paint with the same brush," but in truth when you keep coming across the same observation time and time again, you are justified in drawing some conclusions.
Time and time again, this has happened to me, and other women too who have spoken about it - and always with Nigerian born, not UK born Naijas, therefore I think I am entitled to draw my conclusions based on what I see or would you prefer that I disbelieve my lying eyes?

CILondon:

Greeting my fellow Naijas

I've written an article entitled "A letter to Nigerian Men - Things You Should Know About Women" and I posted it on my website.
I think every Nigerian man who reads it would find it useful - it would help them avoid some of their typical mistakes that we women find so aggravating.
The link (which I will only post once, in accordance with the forum rules) can be found at
http://www.lifeinbiglondon.com/2009/12/05/a-letter-to-nigerian-men-things-you-should-know-about-women/

Fact: Women hate being hit on by total strangers – be they strangers on a train or on the street or where ever. Women just hate being hit on by strangers and this is something Nigerian men do a lot – more than other nationalities and they need to stop it.

False. I like when strangers hit on me. It gives me a chance to test my ego-crushing abilities

   it was the train conductor, an ugly  middle aged Nigerian male, probably in his fifties or even sixties, short, fat, with a very large bottom dragging behind him very close to the ground. He was smiling at her, trying to make eye contact with her – the kind of smile a man gives a woman when he’s “interested.” Nkechi refused to smile back. She refused to even maintain eye contact with him. She looked away. She was not interested at all. In fact she couldn’t think of anything more unattractive than the middle aged man smiling at her. No thanks. Urrrrggh.


Now readers, what we have here is an “uncle” in his fifties or sixties hitting on a young lady in her very early twenties, on her way home from college. This is so typical of Nigerian men. Nkechi is not interested and refuses to smile at him or even maintain eye contact with him.

CILondon:

Yes, it's true that it is the aje-kpakos who hit on a girl like that. Unfortunately too many aje-kpakos have reached London and the western world. Pity, that.
But the 2 separate grope incidents at the 2 weddings which I mentioned earlier were both done by what I thought were cultured Nigerian males, which I am non-too pleased about.
Sadly the one thing they all had in common (both the aje-kpakos and the "cultured" Nigerian men) is that they were all Nigerian born and raised.
Never had this done to me by UK born/raised Naijas - I think they just follow the British rule "Don't touch a women without her permission" a lot better than Nigerian born/bred males.
Sorry to say - but it's true.

I also think Nigerian born/bred males have a tendency to think that if you smile at a woman and she blanks you, glares at you - she is simply playing hard to get and all you need to do is pursue harder - whereas a UK born/bred Nigerian is more likely to see that for what it really is - sexual aggression, and therfore leave her alone.

Furthermore, I have observed that Nigerian born/raised males are unable to tell the difference between platonic friendliness/joviality on the one hand and sexual interest/availability on the other. They mistakenly assume that if a women is friendly/jovial this is a sexual green light for them to go ahead and make a move on her - which it is not. This mistaken assumption can be found in all cultures/nationalities of men but more so in Nigerian born/bred men.
It is for this reason that I decided to stop being friends with Nigerian raised males. I now treat them with a polite, but very distant standoffishness.
I hope this helps in understanding where I am coming from.

St☆rz:

You sound like Nigerian men, well those 'born and bred' in Nigeria, go round seeking women to touch and thats not true. However, many do mistaken friendliness for sexual interest but many men, irrespective of their nationality, do.

St☆rz:

You sound like Nigerian men, well those 'born and bred' in Nigeria, go round seeking women to touch and thats not true. However, many do mistaken friendliness for sexual interest but many men, irrespective of their nationality, do.

St☆rz:

Oh and its that polite standoffish attitude that makes Nigerian men despise and disrespect UK based Nigerian women. So it's like a hate cycle lol

LOL@ Sauron, Woods?

justwise:

Thank you!!. The poster obviously got prob with Nigeria born Nigerians, if she got her ways  she will  order for their deportation

~Sauron~:

Naija men get harassed by Naija Women too. Is it because we don't complain or scream despoil when they do?

4 Play:

The OP is a plonker. Let's be serious, if the stereotypes were true, there will be hordes of Nigerian men being charged for sexual harassment and despoils in the UK.

4 Play:

These girls who insist on cooking for you whether you like it or not so they spice your food with some bullsh*t potion they flew in from villa.    

despoils

St☆rz:

lol Ok now you guys are reaching. No one cares about you guys enough to bother about poisoning you.

@Sauron, lol Tiger and I are through! Im headed to CNN to give them exclusive news on our relationship in exchange for half a million dollars

St☆rz:

lol Love potions? Really?

St☆rz:

Ok so Nigerian women poison their men and Nigerian men molest them sexually and bathe them in acid for not being virgins.