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... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 10:51pm On Mar 04, 2017
Whenever i see on social media the way guys rain insults on ladies especially those who bluntly say they can't settle with a broke guy, or those who insist on marrying a well to do guy, or even see unmarried ladies in their 30s and 40s, i can't just help but marvel at the caliber of insults reigned on the female gender.

Now, before you misunderstand me, i am not advocating for young or mature ladies to be gold diggers or too selective, but really, why should a lady who earns LEGALLY building a career or skill over the years suddenly settle for someone who is not only currently broke but without no determination to improve his current status.


My career path has taken me far and wide and as someone who has been privileged to source for brains and manpower for small, medium and multinational companies i will layout some extremely bitter but true facts of statistics gotten over the years from direct surveys:


* Most Human Resource Executives WANT more females to feel the vacant jobs they have than their male counterparts due to the following reasons:

i) Female are more dedicated and tend to stay longer than their male counterparts in an organization.

ii) Females on the average are more trustworthy than males.

iii) Females tend to build on a specific career path over very long time than a men who are usually motivated by money and tend to change careers over the years.

iv) Females are usually more satisfied with a salary range over time than males who usually determined for increase in salaries within short period of time.


Now the above was basically to point out a few points why we have more working class ladies than men (on satistics of employed individuals across certain counteries. Nigeria included).


If we now go to the Blue collar job, the above will almost likely be the same. Most people tend to prefer to patronize females than males because of issues such: Delay in delivery, Lies, Bullying, Poor Customer Service amongst many others.


If we now go to the social lifestyle; We now have more irresponsible young men now than in other generation ever. We now have the laziest of men living today than ever.

Never has there been a time when 8 out of 10 guys wake up each day and all their activities of the day, week and month circles around Gambling, Drinking, Chasing Women and Having sex randomly and moving aimlessly around with any purpose.

We now have more guys thinking it is 100% Okay to sit at home all day long while their girfriend(s ) and wife(ves) go out there under the rain and sun to make a living for the home.

Never have there been a time when a guy feels comfortable getting up from bed around 12noon, stroll down to the betting shop down the road, order for a few shot of paraga or bottle of beer, stroll down to go gist away with his fellow jobless friends, and then go back home around 11pm. He expects to get home to meet pounded yam and egusi stock with bush meat wating on the table to welcome him.

So many men now have stooped so low to stealing from their girlfriend or wife only to spend same money on another woman and his jobless friends.


Before you abuse Linda Ikeji, Genevieve or Rota Dominic of being single at their age; please ask yourself a very honest question, are you responsible enough for such women.


Yes! You might not be as rich ad your wife (i.e. Folorunsho Alakija and her husband) but what are you bringing to the table in terms of advice, emotional, mental and physical support, financial management, domestic assistance and many more.

It is not okay to just have a B.Sc and feels the world owes you a job. First degree is now going extint. Further your education, learn a skill, be responsible, watch less TV and READ MORE BOOK.



It is so pathetic are most men are just mere sper*m donors and nothing more. They will be the worst mistake to make a role model.

Women are not saints we know. But most men have decided to be followers instead of leaders due to their laziness and wrong orientation
.

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Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by babyfaceafrica: 10:53pm On Mar 04, 2017
Too many generalizations..females are more dedicated,females are more trustworthy,females are more this and that than men.....no source,no stats ?...every gender has both the good and bad Ines equally...don't come here praising one over the other...with these cheats all over the social media!!!.....if you like marry dangote,if you like marry yahoo boy,if you like marry okada rider......its not by force to get married,if you think you ate yo big to marry someone lower than you social status,na you sabi....it is not how you start,it is how you end!!!....labelling most guys lazy and not condemning the increasing number of runs gals is appalling.yahoo boys and runs gals is now on the increase. Our values has humans have dropped!!..it is not a gender thing!!

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Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by ipobarecriminals: 11:02pm On Mar 04, 2017
undecided undecided undecided wic female are more dedicated? Those one that use 40 minutes to use crayons/watercolor paint their face in toilet? or those one that runs b4 5pm/come late to work @ 8.30AM come write 7,12AM and on 2nd day write close @ 6.48pm?

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Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by obiorathesubtle: 11:02pm On Mar 04, 2017
In conclusion..


Men are on average, more ambitious than women..


Of course.. And we do it to attract them..
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 11:03pm On Mar 04, 2017
babyfaceafrica:
Too many generalizations..females are more dedicated,females are more trustworthy,females are more this and that than men.....no source,no stats ?...every gender has both the good and bad Ines equally...don't come here praising one over the other...with these cheats all over the social media!!!.....if you like marry dangote,if you like marry yahoo boy,if you like marry okada rider..all that matters is happiness and there are poor people that are happy!!


I doubt you read the writeup "withinn" lines.Anyway you are entitled to your opinion. Cheers!
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by TosinDru: 11:04pm On Mar 04, 2017
A lot of good points and also several fallacious remarks.
I actually hate when somebody says millennials are lazy (I might state my reasons later), and what category of guys are you talking about?. Cos I don't see them around.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 11:04pm On Mar 04, 2017
obiorathesubtle:
In conclusion..


Men are on average, more ambitious than women..



Of course.. And we do it to attract them..


Go back and reread the write up. Only this time READ IT CAREFULLY AND DON'T RUSH.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 11:06pm On Mar 04, 2017
ipobarecriminals:
undecided undecided undecided wic female are more dedicated? Those one that use 40 minutes to use crayons/watercolor pant their face in toilet? or those one that runs b4 5pm/come late to work @ 8.30AM come write 7,12AM and on 2nd day write close @ 6.48pm?

LOOOL!!! you are just being sarcastic.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by wtfCode: 11:07pm On Mar 04, 2017
Op, now what are u insinuating angry
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by babyfaceafrica: 11:08pm On Mar 04, 2017
Ask4Info:



I doubt you read the writeup "withinn" lines.Anyway you are entitled to your opinion. Cheers!
what is there to rread in a one-sided write up meant to demean guys and praise ladies.. To each his own
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 11:09pm On Mar 04, 2017
TosinDru:
A lot of good points and also several fallacious remarks.
I actually hate when somebody says millennials are lazy (I might state my reasons later), and what category of guys are you talking about?. Cos I don't see them around.


The Yahoo boys, Ponzi lovers, gamblers, lay about guys all fall under the above category. They are all around you but you possibly overlook them because of their cars, gadgets, clothes...
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 11:12pm On Mar 04, 2017
babyfaceafrica:
what is there to rread in a one-sided write up meant to demean guys and praise ladies.. To each his own

No one is demeaning anyone. We are only stating the obvious truth here as it relates to today's average Nigerian male.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 11:12pm On Mar 04, 2017
wtfCode:
Op, now what are u insinuating angry

What can you comprehend from it?
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by ipobarecriminals: 11:14pm On Mar 04, 2017
Ask4Info:


LOOOL!!! you are just being sarcastic.
which one be sakiru? That is fact.The first thing they do after makeup if there's no meeting nah to gossip, play game on the system,spend one hour to eat rice/dodo.As for female marketers, those one will go home to sleep and come back to office @ 3.20pm.Ask customer care services if there's any account opening they'll "steal" and register down
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by babyfaceafrica: 11:16pm On Mar 04, 2017
Ask4Info:


No one is demeaning anyone. We are only stating the obvious truth here as it relates to today's average Nigerian male.
it is not demeaning to say 8,out of 19,guys wake up without doing anything serious..is that suppose to be a compliment?... Imagine 8 out of 10..na u sabi sef!!!
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by H2Ossss(m): 12:10am On Mar 05, 2017
Ask4Info:


What can you comprehend from it?
Nice write... IMO I feel you are wrong because we have more working men than ladies, both white and blue collar jobs, we got a very low number of lazy men but we got tonnes of lazy women aka slay queens waiting for men to give them money... And you said you employ more women? Well I won't do such knowing I'll have to give them a 3 months maternity leave... And yea...women hardly travel and are not fit for rigours of the daily business world
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Nobody: 1:19am On Mar 05, 2017
The attributes u attached to guys are based on ur personal experience and counter-thread. If u really nid a responsible man or any lady in need of a responsible man should examine herself first... The type of pple u mingle wt, ur dresses, u dress like club girl, Surely club boy will come to u, don't expect a responsible man clubbing, nd don't expect a responsible man from a responsible home to marry actress or someone who live a flamboyant lifestyle, u live a flamboyant lifestyle, Surely a yahoo guy or gold digger will approach you. Even if u r rich, don't carry it on ur head, someone bought a house of #500m, range of #40 nd shared it on social media for pple to see, 100s of gold diggers will approach her bfr a responsible man will say "hello". live a normal nd simple lifestyle, free with everybody around u, Surely a normal, cool headed nd simple guy will approach.

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Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Backinfront(m): 1:24am On Mar 05, 2017
Op is right.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 10:53am On Mar 05, 2017
ipobarecriminals:
which one be sakiru? That is fact.The first thing they do after makeup if there's no meeting nah to gossip, play game on the system,spend one hour to eat rice/dodo.As for female marketers, those one will go home to sleep and come back to office @ 3.20pm.Ask customer care services if there's any account opening they'll "steal" and register down

They are just being women. Lol!
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Kolababe: 10:57am On Mar 05, 2017
I see no sense in all you've written. I just don't think i have the time to start analysing due to my busy nature at the moment as a man.

And please don't call what you have written above facts or truth. Just call them your opinion


You are probably saying all this crap because you have been able to amass a level of comfort in the Labour market and i don't blame you, i blame many of those randy dudes in the HR departments who would mostly favour a not too qualified but endowed lady over young better qualified males. Who doesn't know how those HR guys melt whenever a pretty endowed lady walks into their offices, yet their hard faces whenever a man walks in says it all? This scenario has been happening in many cases.

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Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 12:10pm On Mar 05, 2017
Kolababe:
I see no sense in all you've written. I just don't think i have the time to start analysing due to my busy nature at the moment as a man.

And please don't call what you have written above facts or truth. Just call them your opinion


You are probably saying all this crap because you have been able to amass a level of comfort in the Labour market and i don't blame you, i blame many of those randy dudes in the HR departments who would mostly favour a not too qualified but endowed lady over young better qualified males. Who doesn't know how those HR guys melt whenever a pretty endowed lady walks into their offices, yet their hard faces whenever a man walks in says it all? This scenario has been happening in many cases.



The problem with the average Nigerian is that they think All successful career women achieved that feet through being promiscuous. I am not ruling out some woment sell their bodies for positions. But come on, a lot of successful career women worked their head off.

You want me to give you example? I have 2 Ph.D holders, 4 with minimum of 2 Masters and only about 2 with just a First Degree (but planning for their masters) in my family. Now i don't want to talk of female friends and other people.

Common guy, this thread isn't to rule out men's hardwork, it is just to point out the vices of the average today's generation young man.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Nobody: 1:28pm On Mar 05, 2017
H2Ossss:

Nice write... IMO I feel you are wrong because we have more working men than ladies, both white and blue collar jobs, we got a very low number of lazy men but we got tonnes of lazy women aka slay queens waiting for men to give them money... And you said you employ more women? Well I won't do such knowing I'll have to give them a 3 months maternity leave... And yea...women hardly travel and are not fit for rigours of the daily business world
Are you a misogynist? IMO, there are more lazy men than women in south/south...again, IMO.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by H2Ossss(m): 11:17am On Mar 06, 2017
Qhazel:

Are you a misogynist? IMO, there are more lazy men than women in south/south...again, IMO.
Call it what you want... But that's what happens in the corporate world... I was only correcting the op's point of view that people tend to employ more ladies than they do men with those points, though wrong... It is the truth and what happens, think about it... Even you will rather employ a man to manage your business knowing he is readily available than a lady who needs will take three months of 12 for maternity leave, close real early cuz of kids... And won't be as free to travel like the men folks
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 12:11pm On Mar 06, 2017
Qhazel:

Are you a misogynist? IMO, there are more lazy men than women in south/south...again, IMO.

I think it as gone beyond the South South region, it is equally rampant in other regions, except maybe core Northern states where don't allow their wives to go out to fend for the family.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 1:35pm On Mar 06, 2017
Backinfront:
Op is right.

Thank you my Brother. The guilty ones will not like this one bit.

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Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by gprincead(m): 7:44pm On Mar 06, 2017
Ask4Info:
Whenever i see on social media the way guys rain insults on ladies especially those who bluntly say they can't settle with a broke guy, or those who insist on marrying a well to do guy, or even see unmarried ladies in their 30s and 40s, i can't just help but marvel at the caliber of insults reigned on the female gender.

Now, before you misunderstand me, i am not advocating for young or mature ladies to be gold diggers or too selective, but really, why should a lady who earns LEGALLY building a career or skill over the years suddenly settle for someone who is not only currently broke but without no determination to improve his current status.
Your English is so bad dude. Wait again...what's that u claim of doing? Sourcing of best brain for multinational companies? U must be kidding me.

My career path has taken me far and wide and as someone who has been privileged to source for brains and manpower for small, medium and multinational companies i will layout some extremely bitter but true facts of statistics gotten over the years from direct surveys:


* Most Human Resource Executives WANT more females to feel the vacant jobs they have than their male counterparts due to the following reasons:

i) Female are more dedicated and tend to stay longer than their male counterparts in an organization.

ii) Females on the average are more trustworthy than males.

iii) Females tend to build on a specific career path over very long time than a men who are usually motivated by money and tend to change careers over the years.

iv) Females are usually more satisfied with a salary range over time than males who usually determined for increase in salaries within short period of time.


Now the above was basically to point out a few points why we have more working class ladies than men (on satistics of employed individuals across certain counteries. Nigeria included).


If we now go to the Blue collar job, the above will almost likely be the same. Most people tend to prefer to patronize females than males because of issues such: Delay in delivery, Lies, Bullying, Poor Customer Service amongst many others.


If we now go to the social lifestyle; We now have more irresponsible young men now than in other generation ever. We now have the laziest of men living today than ever.

Never has there been a time when 8 out of 10 guys wake up each day and all their activities of the day, week and month circles around Gambling, Drinking, Chasing Women and Having sex randomly and moving aimlessly around with any purpose.

We now have more guys thinking it is 100% Okay to sit at home all day long while their girfriend(s ) and wife(ves) go out there under the rain and sun to make a living for the home.

Never have there been a time when a guy feels comfortable getting up from bed around 12noon, stroll down to the betting shop down the road, order for a few shot of paraga or bottle of beer, stroll down to go gist away with his fellow jobless friends, and then go back home around 11pm. He expects to get home to meet pounded yam and egusi stock with bush meat wating on the table to welcome him.

So many men now have stooped so low to stealing from their girlfriend or wife only to spend same money on another woman and his jobless friends.


Before you abuse Linda Ikeji, Genevieve or Rota Dominic of being single at their age; please ask yourself a very honest question, are you responsible enough for such women.


Yes! You might not be as rich ad your wife (i.e. Folorunsho Alakija and her husband) but what are you bringing to the table in terms of advice, emotional, mental and physical support, financial management, domestic assistance and many more.

It is not okay to just have a B.Sc and feels the world owes you a job. First degree is now going extint. Further your education, learn a skill, be responsible, watch less TV and READ MORE BOOK.



It is so pathetic are most men are just mere sper*m donors and nothing more. They will be the worst mistake to make a role model.

Women are not saints we know. But most men have decided to be followers instead of leaders due to their laziness and wrong orientation
.


Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by popefuse(m): 9:39pm On Mar 06, 2017
Ask4Info:




The problem with the average Nigerian is that they think All successful career women achieved that feet through being promiscuous. I am not ruling out some woment sell their bodies for positions. But come on, a lot of successful career women worked their head off.

You want me to give you example? I have 2 Ph.D holders, 4 with minimum of 2 Masters and only about 2 with just a First Degree (but planning for their masters) in my family. Now i don't want to talk of female friends and other people.

Common guy, this thread isn't to rule out men's hardwork, it is just to point out the vices of the average today's generation young man.
u need not to cancel pples opinion. If what u posted is realy genuine. Even if u write a book pple would still counter u.
Re: ... Why Ladies Can't Settle With A Broke Guy by Ask4Info: 1:02am On Mar 14, 2017
popefuse:
u need not to cancel pples opinion. If what u posted is realy genuine. Even if u write a book pple would still counter u.


NOTED!!!

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