KNEELING TO PROPOSE: LOYALTY OR BAITING

Through the ages, men (and women) used several means to ask for hand of the woman (or man) they love or cherish in marriage. From parents match-making their children, some offering their daughters as gift to the rich and influential, to some literary selling their daughters in the name of marriage.

Marriage proposals has however changed since the advent of civilization with men now taking more direct approach to propose rather than using the backdoor of enticing the bride to be parents with money and wealthy where most brides especially in Africa, meet their husband for the first time on wedding day.

The present day Norm is for couples to have dated for a while (if they are not religious) to know if their relationship will go beyond the boyfriend/girlfriend status, to a life time commitment when one of them (man in most case) will pop the question. Men are getting more caring, advance and romantic day by day and so is marriage proposals which is what led us to the most celebrated way of proposing in this century; kneeling to propose.

HISTORY NOT HELPING

History fails to tell us where or when the trend of kneeling down to propose started from, as there are several theories and presumptions as to why men who has natural ego and sense of authority decides to go against their nature in order to have their woman. However, with my little research on what ladies feel about the method of proposals, it was discovered majority of modern day ladies (both secular and religious) will love to experience the kneeling down to propose method. Around 60% of those I interviewed strongly love it while 20% were indifferent towards it but won’t mind experiencing it, with below 20% preferred their men to just ask without any paparazzi. Can we now conclude that men are only dancing to the tunes of ladies as per how they wish to be proposed to, by kneeling down with one leg up while raising the diamond ring or there is more?
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WHY DO MEN KNEEL TO PROPOSE?

We can give many reasons, personal or general, good or bad, as to why men proposes that way but let’s look at the act of kneeling down itself since at least history got plenty to offer in that regard. So when do men (human) kneel?
- In religion: Most religious people kneel while worshiping or praying to God, which is a sign of respect and acknowledgment that they are surrendering all to Him. It can also be a way of passionately begging Him or calling His attention to their case.
- Knighting: When an emperor or a king is making knight out of people, they kneel down (in the same manner men propose marriage with one leg slightly raised) as a sign of respect and loyalty to the king. Same goes for when a king accolades chieftaincy title on men, they kneel to receive the symbol of the title as a sign of respect, loyalty and total obedience to the king.
- In War: Apart from raising the two hands which means “don’t shoot” or “I give up”, kneeling down in war means surrendering to the opposition. It also means “I’m all yours” or telling the opposition “you win”.
- Punishment: Parents, teachers, and elders (especially in Africa) use kneeling down couple with other gymnastic positions as punishment to correct erring children.
- Culture: Lastly, in African culture (Yoruba to be precise), kneeling down is a sign of greeting the elders by the female folks while the male folks prostrate. Wives also kneel to present food to their husbands just as slaves or servants do to their masters. A child that kneels to greet is regarded as one with proper home training.

From all the reasons above, we can conclude that kneeling means submission. It means giving all to the person standing and also means coming down to elevate the person standing. It’s an act of loyalty to the person standing.

MY POINT EXACTLY

Now that it has been established that kneeling is an act of surrender, loyalty and submission, noting we also establish from that small survey that most women believe it to be romantic and would prefer it to other methods of proposing, we can categorically say behaviors in relationship/marriage after the proposals is in direct contrast to the stated reasons. Men, naturally egoistic, tends to go back to their orientation of being in control and forget totally how they surrender all to the lady while asking for her hand in marriage. Well it is in man’s physiological and psychological buildup to be the one protecting and providing for his family which is his wife in this case, thereby assuming authority.

MY CONCLUSION

Loyalty should cut across all areas and not just when proposing. The act in itself is good and romantic as some will say and acting it publicly is announcing to everybody, you love the lady, but the main work and the real deal actually staying loyal in marriage. Kneeling down to propose while treating the woman (or man if it’s the wife) with less respect in marriage is like baiting fish. Nobody give food to a fish after it’s been caught for consumption. Be loyal but don’t be stupid. Loyalty is not stupidity rather is it losing your ego as a man, not at all, you are still in charge!

In addition, kneeling own to propose or proposing generally should be romantic. It’s supposed to be a great day to remember for both party and not a day of dejection. It is therefore important to be very sure the lady (or guy if the lady is the one proposing) is eagerly waiting for your proposal before you embark on it, to avoid emotional damaging public humiliation due to proposal rejection, which is capable of destroying one’s orientation about proposing later in life or even loving ever again. It is better to be sure and have it in mind that not all relationship leads to marriage. If it will lead to marriage, the green light is usually too bright to go unnoticed.

~ BABSOPEY
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olatex25:
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hmmm.. Well this is quite educating and informative..


Kneeling down with one leg to propose to a lady is categorically the same as Delilah saying sweet words to Samson so as to know his weakness..


All i know is, wether u, propose Kneeling down with one leg up, or u stoodDOWN, or u do frog jump, or u do PushUPs, even if u like go and sit on top transformer to propose to her... If she's not ready, no Jury can convict her, and If she is ready for you, you don't hav to sing tru out a whole day like Indian's do, or buy her some exortic flowers like the americans do, buh just as the Op hav rightly said, THE GREEN LIGHT is too obvious to Ignore..


anyway.. Thanks 4 diz informative thread Babsopey

TheBlessedMAN:
hmmm.. Well this is quite educating and informative..


Kneeling down with one leg to propose to a lady is categorically the same as Delilah saying sweet words to Samson so as to know his weakness..


All i know is, wether u, propose Kneeling down with one leg up, or u stoodDOWN, or u do frog jump, or u do PushUPs, even if u like go and sit on top transformer to propose to her... If she's not ready, no Jury can convict her, and If she is ready for you, you don't hav to sing tru out a whole day like Indian's do, or buy her some exortic flowers like the americans do, buh just as the Op hav rightly said, THE GREEN LIGHT is too obvious to Ignore..


anyway.. Thanks 4 diz informative thread Babsopey

On point bro. The lady got the final say. It's better to understand the person you are dealing with before proceeding with mouthwatering proposal. Disappointment if not properly checked can even leads to suicide.

Its Stupidity.

Babsopey:


On point bro. The lady got the final say. It's better to understand the person you are dealing with before proceeding with mouthwatering proposal. Disappointment if not properly checked can even leads to suicide.

u are absolutely right bro... Tankz 4 diz educative thread