Davindal:
Good day, great Nairalanders.

My elder brother 29, now feels insecure about his relationship with his girlfriend of 5 years.

It all started, after his now 24 years old girlfriend passed out from NYSC2015 Batch A) last year, and luckily enough, she got job with a tobacco company(Benson & Hedges) as a district manager(after undergoing 1 month training in the company). The company gave her Hilux Jeep kind off pickup van, and hired an apartment for her. In addition, she receives N350K as salary excluding other allowances.

On the part of my elder brother, who graduated from the university 4 years ago, with no job, only hustling since then to make ends meet; he was very exited over his girl's successful employment, but things changed.
The lady that, hitherto, wouldn't do anything before informing him, is now wanting, now lording it over him.
She now commands my brother like a small boy of 12. She asked my brother to move in with her into her new apartment, he refused, which prompted her to rain all sorts of accusation on him about following other girls, because he has enough time attributed to his joblessness.

After much nagging, my brother moved in with her. Although, she promised to fix my. Brother in another company soon, my brother stays at home most times. Before she goes to work, she would drop N5k for his flexing. One day, my brother strolled down the street, and decided to chill out at a bar. There she met one of our family friend's daughter, who just stopped her car by the road side to buy roasted fish. They met and exchanged pleasantries, and even sat closely over a few bottles of drinks and plates of pepper soup on the same table as they conversed deeply. Not too long, my brother's girlfriend arrived the bar in company of two teenage ladies that assist her to deliver stocks from the Hilux van to shop outlets, to do some Benson Switch supply; upon sighting my brother with the lady on the same table, she shouted his name, attacked both of them with broken bottle of beer. My brother and the lady had to run for their lives. After moment of rage, she and her two assisting teenagers drove off.

Not done yet, she effected the arrest and detention of my brother for 2weeks. All plea to release him fell on deaf ears. Later, she asked them to release him after the prove that my brother was not dating the lady or any woman aside her.

She cried bitterly and apologized to my brother - saying she didn't know what that came over her. My brother forgave her, subsequently, she demanded that he should move into her home again; but this time around, my brother is reluctant about doing so.

Guys, my brother is in dilemma. Should he quit the relationship. And find another lady?

What should he do? Candid advice please.

nuruoniwo:
I think your brother can manage her, and start saving 50% of the daily allowance for as long as necessary to start something meaningful maybe after a year, the lady will be amazed and respect him. Most ladies will do the same if the case is the other way round.
Thank me later!

Davindal:
Good day, great Nairalanders.

My elder brother 29, now feels insecure about his relationship with his girlfriend of 5 years.

It all started, after his now 24 years old girlfriend passed out from NYSC2015 Batch A) last year, and luckily enough, she got job with a tobacco company(Benson & Hedges) as a district manager(after undergoing 1 month training in the company). The company gave her Hilux Jeep kind off pickup van, and hired an apartment for her. In addition, she receives N350K as salary excluding other allowances.

On the part of my elder brother, who graduated from the university 4 years ago, with no job, only hustling since then to make ends meet; he was very exited over his girl's successful employment, but things changed.
The lady that, hitherto, wouldn't do anything before informing him, is now wanting, now lording it over him.
She now commands my brother like a small boy of 12. She asked my brother to move in with her into her new apartment, he refused, which prompted her to rain all sorts of accusation on him about following other girls, because he has enough time attributed to his joblessness.

After much nagging, my brother moved in with her. Although, she promised to fix my. Brother in another company soon, my brother stays at home most times. Before she goes to work, she would drop N5k for his flexing. One day, my brother strolled down the street, and decided to chill out at a bar. There she met one of our family friend's daughter, who just stopped her car by the road side to buy roasted fish. They met and exchanged pleasantries, and even sat closely over a few bottles of drinks and plates of pepper soup on the same table as they conversed deeply. Not too long, my brother's girlfriend arrived the bar in company of two teenage ladies that assist her to deliver stocks from the Hilux van to shop outlets, to do some Benson Switch supply; upon sighting my brother with the lady on the same table, she shouted his name, attacked both of them with broken bottle of beer. My brother and the lady had to run for their lives. After moment of rage, she and her two assisting teenagers drove off.

Not done yet, she effected the arrest and detention of my brother for 2weeks. All plea to release him fell on deaf ears. Later, she asked them to release him after the prove that my brother was not dating the lady or any woman aside her.

She cried bitterly and apologized to my brother - saying she didn't know what that came over her. My brother forgave her, subsequently, she demanded that he should move into her home again; but this time around, my brother is reluctant about doing so.

Guys, my brother is in dilemma. Should he quit the relationship. And find another lady?

What should he do? Candid advice please.

QueenSuccubus:



I wonder what SmellingAnus ' thought about this...

Michellla:
So he collects 5k daily allowance from her
Your brother is a sissy

Homeboiy:
ur bro no get brain

a lady is trying to help his life n his questioning

those telling him to quit wont if its them

d lady reaction was based on anger

even if na u, u go do worse

ur bro should do anything wey de his mind

comedynaija:


You are 100% right. A friend of mine did that too.