update: i met her over lunch, we discussed the issue, and i made her talking, she said the first gift of nokia n97, he had never made his intentions known, that is why she accepted it]
that this second gift he intends giving her, he has made verbally his intentions and she told him she has a boyfriend hence why she asked for my opinion about whether she should collect it etc

i gave her my own mind, and told her she should not collect any gift from the guy because as she already knows, collecting it will pass across another message.

What i am doing now is a siddon look attitude, and damn it she is going to be tested, i will definitely update this thread again in some months time.


Pple who adviced me on moving on with my lyfe,it was a lovely advice, but i am just going to shine my eye more, i am cutting down on the giving, if she goes she goes, if she stays she stays, as earlier adviced a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, time will tell, it will really tell

but what i am going to do now is to have a lot of female friends, but i will never date them or sleep with them, i am just keeping my options wide open, that way if the relationship catapult, i would know whom to woo, because when a female knows you are just friends, she is her normal self, and i understand and know her better, but if my present one ends badly, i woo my female friends to be my number1 gal, is it a good strategy>>>>

@lordreed
inbetween she said it was my personality that won her over, i never used money to woo her to become my girlfriend,i was just givin her things generally,if i can do a lot for my male friends, much more my girlfriend, that is why i never thought twice when i want to do something for her that i feel is necessary

the funny thing about this my girl is she a very nasty girl, i am sometimes shocked the way she make friends with males and when she wants to run them down, i pity them, some of them are even suprised she is in a relationship, hmmm time will tell.

Now i am going to face my book, watever will be will be, but i will be more smarter now than ever, nairal land u rock


whatever happens, i am not gonna regret my actions later in lyfe, i am not going to be d first and the last to leave a relationship, and if ends bad will still enter my nxt relationship the same person i am, am not going to take the path of making girls useless, it is not my being,it wont make me focused and i will never derive any inner joy in doing that,

Go for it dude!

nairaxchan:

but what i am  going to do now is to have a lot of female friends, but i will never date them or sleep with them, i am just keeping my options wide open, that way if the relationship catapult, i would know whom to woo, because when a female knows you are just friends, she is her normal self, and i understand and know her better, but if my present one ends badly, i woo my female friends to be my number1 gal, is it a good strategy>>>>

As for this strategy, it's distracting. Rather do it one step at a time. Finish (or not) wit the current business at hand. If it works u've got a winner if not then u can look again. Don't put the cart b4 d horse.

Lord_Reed:

Ok lets say personality won in the 1st place. Wen he starts to give her n she starts to demand wat then? He should stop giving?

Well. they shouldnt give like as if they are stewing in money. Thats the mistake some guys make, they stunt about when infact they are soaking garri at home

Uhmmm she is a nasty girl but you are still with her? Well as long as she gives you some between the sheet you will manage right? [list]

@ eboneyes
the issue is dat girls like fake lyfes, and that what attracts most girls to boys, and they use that fake lyfe to deceive them, sleep with them and dump them, but men i am not cut out for that, i am a silent decoder,an attribute i got from my mum
i am with her, because she has a kind of hidden personality she is trying to hide,and from my findings she has had some bad relationship earlier on which involved her been beaten etc,and some family issues,


@ lord reed, i will take your advice

@ poster,
pls be very care ful,u might have female friends,but pls dont let it go beyond that.in my own opinion,i think u should just be the guy u have been b4,so that the blame will not come from u.there is a saying,he who laughs last,laughs best.

@ echo beee

Thanks i will do just that, i will give it another full shot, b the same me, once again with her, i just wanna b happy thats all, u know dat kind of hapinness that u might be having a bad day, and u just remember in dat bad time or mood, u have sum1 who just loves you without playing mind games,

@ poster,
just be ur self,u know what i understand what u re going through,because i have been through that b4.it is just matter of time.

guy, its obvious that she is materiaslitic,
am not against girlfriends having toasters but from wat am seeing, her demands r becoming too much