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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 3:10pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Kosy79(f): 3:11pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BabaCommander:It's obvious u are stupid no doubts. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by omooba969(m): 3:13pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Longcucumber: You know nada! 1 Like
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by SirVintageCock: 3:14pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:Damn if I care. You sound so controlling by the way. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by pchukwudi: 3:15pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
I think the girl may be having a family isdue you are not yet aware of. But somehow you are too impatient to figure it out. Seriously, I think your lashing out on her on her traditional wedding day was too imature of you. You probably forgot that others who care about her (and probably know her better) were watching. Your action may have been interpreted as a huge red flag. And I believe it is. In the final analysis, it's either you have errornously seen yourself as the girl's alpha and omega or you really feel she's a burden to you. In any way, I will advice you to first admit rhat you have some serious personal anger issues which you must come to terms with and deal with BEFORE anything else. Good luck. BuariCopyPaste: 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Werehkpe: 3:16pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
This is a serious matter o. I suggest u stay clear of her and her family. When reality dawns on her she will come back humble to beg you knowing she has learnt a lesson. I also dont think you should start any divorce process. Marriages all have bumps here and there. By the power vested in you by God you are the head of the family and ONLY you have the responsibility to the final decision you want to direct your family to. Not her family as long as you have fulfilled all requirements o. Again, marriage is about compromising. It seems your wife is hot tempered. You should be slow to anger but strong in any decision you take. I pray God gives you d direction and you make d right choice here. Blessing be upon you and your household. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Kosy79(f): 3:17pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Apollux:I support u, i feel the marraige isn't right for them probably two of them aren't meant to marry, how can the lady leave the house for 2-3 days without letting her newly hubby to know about her whereabout? And when she was asked about her whereabout she responded "Where did he expect her to be" according to the Op. The lady need to apologise first that's my own point. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 3:19pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Forget all the aso ebis, parties and fun fares for a minute and ask yourself this honest question, does she make me happy? Is she a good mother to my son? Herein lies the answer to your question. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Werehkpe: 3:21pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Fifthcolumnist: Its not about who is to blame here. its about saving a young marriage. I dont think apologising to her family is the solution. Once you do this. U are likely to encounter similar situation in future. So fight the battle well from the beginning. U can apologize to her alone and not her family. Once she returns home. U guys should have a long friendly chat. Its both of you that will build your family and not her family and you. For all u know it might be her family making her act the way she did and so apologising to them is giving them the upper hand. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Omoboy(m): 3:25pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Good questions Op answer. In my opinion you knew the way they are and you should have monitored things to the letter. You fall their hand bigtime 46arcadez: |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by BALLOSKI: 3:27pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
@buaricopypaste Don't take my advice please. I'm mad as well and won't give you the right advice. If it happened to me, I won't cut the marital tie. But I won't call her back neither am I going to apologize. If she comes back , fine! If she doesn't, fine! My happiness and survival won't depend on anyone. I don't know what women want us to do. Let her her go to see if it's easy to find a man who's ready to settle down. She's after one; let her try and see if any man will take her seriously. Don't beg her , she'd come back by herself. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 3:28pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Werehkpe: I only said apologise to them so cos I think the lady is being influenced heavily by the family especially the mother. The apology in this case would only be a ploy to deescalate the situation at the moment. Once she's back, I would advise the guy to put his foot down and talk sense to his wife about the future of their relationship. She needs to alienate herself from that kind of mother if not the marriage is gone. Cos I don't quite see the lady herself as bad person. It's just the mother |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by BabaCommander: 3:29pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Kosy79: You have a couple of things in common with the op: pathological anger born outta low self esteem. You can hook up with him.....he can atleast afford to feed you with eba and buy a better footwear than that herdsmen rubber shoe you are putting on. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by AdeniyiA(m): 3:30pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
They're actually dealing wt u for taking their daughter for 2yrs without performing your responsibility to them amd through out the 2yrs you did not take of them probably because you were saving money the event... We need to hear their own side of the story 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by AceRoyal: 3:33pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:If you lower your standard, you will be used! Your initial move will determine how they'll treat u. Go beg and you'll always find yourself begging. You have your shortcomings(anger) but your wife and her family might have a game plan.#MyOpinion |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Maxvasia(m): 3:34pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
baibrown:You will live long. Nice one. I feel like giving u a hug. Peter please pass me two chilled bottles of Bailey's 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by omooba969(m): 3:36pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Philpham: And what is the essence of this epistle, why bother when there are more important issues of life. Africans & bullsh!t are like Siamese twins. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 3:37pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
catlova2:You already know which one makes you a bastard |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 3:43pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Vikky014:thank o You |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by veneza(f): 3:43pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
OP if you are still reading,I am a young married lady ,I have to tell you the truth. Your wife has not made up her mind to be fully settled, and her mother knows and supports. she might have wanted it in the earlier stage but change is always constant. I have seen couples dated and live together for 12years from a young age but after a year of marriage with a little baby princess they had yet it didn't work out. please cool yourself down and allow things go back to normal and go back to work, if she realise her wrong and come back home accept her with open hands,if other wise let her be and with time you will be able to know how best to tackle the issue,but don't feel bad about anything God knows the best. 3 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Omotayor123(f): 3:45pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:I guess you must have enjoyed living together with her for you to make the marriage moves. if she's good personally, forgive and forget the matter. You guys should continue to live in peace and stay away from family issues. plus, consider your son. I hate single parent ishh. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Fearcom(m): 3:47pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: You Haven't Found A Wife. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Fearcom(m): 3:49pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
NotOfThis: Precisely 3 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by vislabraye(m): 4:08pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: You have every right to be angry as a result of the shabby arrangement of the traditional wedding. On the second occasion, she should have explained why she couldn't make it that same day. It show irresponsibility on her part( that's if what you're saying is true. There are 2 sides to a story). You need to relax and call her. Speak to her why you got angry and see how she'll respond. Funny thing is that, she should be the one to be eager to get married. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by henocherry18: 4:10pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:You have a mum dnt you? That girl is not ready to change and I will advice you to move on with ur life cos is too early and since she has made up her so be it and pls take ur son to ur mum |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by killfear(m): 4:13pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
My brother, marriage your is more important than the ceremony, the decorations, the harsh response of your wife and whatever is making you angry.Call your wife, sit her down and resolve matters.Dont go to prove who was right, rather convince her on why peace should be. The journey is too long to start afresh and you are not even guaranteed perfection on a second try.Divorce is not the solution, it's a complication of the problem. Goodluck. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by henocherry18: 4:13pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Werehkpe:That girl may never change and her mum is another problem and I believe she listens to her mum a lot |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Kosy79(f): 4:15pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BabaCommander:Lol! U really went through my profile Well u are a nobody so i got no time to run through an irrelevant like you. About those shoes trust me i can feed u and ur entire family with the price. Poor forming rich guy i wonder where ur miserable self and wretched family hid when the forbes were counting the richest people lol i guess the poverty canopy helped. Don't quote me again cos i tried by giving u 2minutes fame just go and enjoy the fame before it flare down. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by rosalieene(f): 4:15pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:in summary, I think you have anger management issues which I believe you should work on. Your wife was wrong but you shouldn't have shouted at her. Ooh! seems like u didn't call her to know her whereabouts. you should have done that on the day of the trad. Someone like myself I don't like to be shouted out because I would end up using hurtful words on you that I might regret later. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by crisisexpert321(m): 4:22pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Kindly send a private mail or call. Everything will be well. Check signature |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by BabaCommander: 4:29pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Kosy79: Take a look at the door you are 'posing' with: -\\ A slave like you must always act like one no matter how mush you try to hide. Concentrate your effort on defending people like the op, hopefully, one day you will see a damn frustrated one desperate enough to take you in to save you from the brothel you are trapped in. We know your type. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by frubben(m): 4:37pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
limamintruth:iff they have not come to a compromise dey will not hav be able to stay for that 2 years. Sometin external is involve for the babe to be acting I can't cope 1 Like |
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