Would really like to get ur input on this. I just broke up with my 1st boyfriend. it lasted 8 years and down the line i lost track of why i was even hanging on. he was a habitual cheat. the type thats all about promises and sweet dreams but runs after d nearest girl whenever he feels he has a chance of doing so without getting caught. i turned into ashley cole. Marking him so much i lost track of me and concentrated on keeping him from cheating. Pathetic se? i think i hung on because i truly believed your first relationship is supposed to be special in a way.i've heard so many sob stories from friends that were burnt d 1st time. i've never heard a story as stupid as mine though. i think we are all naive and vulnerable the first time and tend to tolerate much more than we usually would. i'm just so angry with myself for staying so stupid for so long.

Sorry about the experience. I think "love" itself is over-rated. The idea that it is all that matters is very wrong.

People tend to act foolishly the first time they experience reciprocated affection from the opposite sex. It's normal.

But, 8 years? You must have been doing something else with your life during that period. Like getting educated?

ha ha. seun. i do hope so too.

I wonder if Seun has ever dated a girl!

Oh alas what Love will cause, losing your First love is always painful, i have been a victim jilted by my first love, but as luck and God will have it be, i met a more special woman in fact more special than the first, take heart all will well in a very short time.

I wonder if Seun has ever dated a girl!

Yes, and I did act very foolishly at the time. Never again will I do things that way!

Stuff like that teach you how to balance your emotions in relationships. You learn to separate sentiment from emotions after you go through such, you learn to use your head too, not only your heart. Shame it took you 8 years to realise, pele.  I guess youre stronger now right?

Yes, Love is overrated, first love even more so. Especially by girls, but i guess it is normal. Every girl hopes the first person she dates will be the one she will eventually end up with and that can make them take a lot of bull**** from a guy. Instead of trying to make a bad relationship work, just because he is your first love, you should spend that time looking for more reliable and responsible guys , Like me, (Just Kidding )

Anyway, you'll eventually meet someone that will deserve you. Just use this time to reflect on the relationship, what you liked and hated about it, it will prepare you for your next one.

i'm not THAT silly. finishd school and started my masters. At least i still have a career to concentrate on.i actually met him when i was 15. guess i was too idealistic.

Pele I feel ur pain,

Hav a similiar xperience, and haven't dated a guy since that time.
The first cut is the deepest, u know. I hope u're strong now, yes?

Good luck

I acted foolish too. Fortunately my friend stopped me before I could I could touch the depth

Seun:

Yes, and I did act very foolishly at the time. Never again will I do things that way!

lol, are u serious or u are just pulling our legs? if you are, i'm curious n i want to know more,,,,what happened to her n y did y'all break up? _{*i kno it's ur bizness, but most peeps who've been on NL long enough would feel my pain*}

Sorry. Losin d first lov is always painful. I lost mine 10 years ago and i still feel d pain till now. But i have learnt 2 livf with it. Take heart and go ahead with yor life. U can get someone better.

i feel 4 u girl,chit happen at times.most girls always think dey re gonna get married to their first love.
piss out

my first love was too gud to be true,too romantic,too nice,he was like the perfect guy,till i caught him, guess?

my first love!!!
hmmmmm it took me more than 5 yrs to get over our "break up".
We're just friends now, we've learnt to live with the fact that we may not really be meant for each other anymore despite the fact that we tried so hard to get back together in 2004 after a 6 yr break up!

Now we tease each other about our girl or boy! She's involved with someone else now and they may be getting married. Seeing her happy with the guy is probably the best thing i could have wished for her!

@ topic i have a similar experience to yours my 1st love was a cheat ,a chronic cheat! hang in there you will get over him like i did mine and believe me a better love will always come your way and yes 1st love is overrated!

wow,
wot can i say. wel, it cool sha, especially wen it happens wen u r young. bt, d hurt always remains d same, but truth is, life goes on!

thoutmy dear, every disappointment is a blessin. the best man in d world is coming to u.God wld never shut ones door without opening anoda one.

My first relationship didn't last up to a year, say 10 or 11 months (likewise the subsequent ones). Can't even remember why I left her (. . . like, she was a talkative?). Well, I guess it was more of lust than love, and she would've stolen my V thingy. . ., but thank God she was paying her bloody monthly bill that night . . . LOL!

In most cases first love is overrated.I did it in my own case only to regret it.

Lol

Girlie, first cut is the deepest but I think I can survive if he turned out to be such an asshole

first love is definitely overrated.i know cos am still with my first love and it feels like hell.the only reason why am still in that relationship is that am scared cos he keeps telling me that i'll be miserable if i leave him and how everyman is just out to have a good time with bad intention.God knows that i don't want to marry him,he's excessively jealous,insecure and is easily influenced.imagine telling me he can't help me do something cos his brother has never done it for his girlfriend.@ poster count urself lucky that u decided to break off this silly illusion,i only wish i have guts like u do.

@hazel eyed

i won't be surprised if your really young at heart. don't allow that guy brainwash you, if you know he is not the best thing that happened to you dump him. don't allow him ruin your chances of being with a man who truly loves you and would respect you as a woman.

you don't allow your heart overshadow your logical thinking. a guy who tells you you would be miserable if you leave him, does not love or hold your interest at heart, he only does it for his selfish interest, after all he thinks he's got a dummy he can control.

he's telling you these things because he wants to scare you from making a move, and he would keep telling you lies because you don't have the courage to stand up to him. you need to create the courage and leave him because if you end up marrying him, you might be making a mistake you would end up regretting for the rest of your life.

@topic

it sure is over over rated.

gat a lot of foolish ladies here. sorry y'all.

@thoniaslim thanks.you are very right about me being young at heart, i know what to do but i just don't know how to do it, everyday i pray to God to give me the will to break off.

@ Poster,
I'm glad you finally snaped out of it. It sure isn't easy.

Break ups with first love could indeed be painful but very few people actually end up with their first.

yes it is over-rated. i hardly remember my first love.