ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully

lebrotin:


Hey Woman, I will not judge you but tell you the truth...YOU HAVE COME TO THE WRONG PLACE FOR ADVISE.
You want to crash your marriage already by allowing dem 1999 children to give you wrong counsel on nairaland. An unmarried man or woman will never give you a good advise here.
Do not blackmail your husband with your emotions. Something tells me you are not a saint either. Your last statement says it all.
Both of you need a grounded matured male or female counsellor and not all these end time youth pastors for proper counselling...

sammydirectly:


So sorry. I think your husband knows you best and he is protecting you. Also, he knows you don't really know what you want. You dabble from one thing to another most times. You are not good with money. You are not quite compatible and he doesn't want you to either disgrace him, embarrass him or land in trouble that he would come and settle later. He learnt this by experience. He probably married you out of pity and because of church courting, he did not really know you before your wedding.
The summary is that you have low IQ. He is a good man, he is trying to make the marriage work the best way he can. What he noticed you do are unspeakable and he feels he would keep the marriage the best way he can. Others can't understand, even you because of your low IQ. That's why you call him a bully.

You can call me a prophet.

ominirajj:

Walahi u are mad for daying i have low IQ

sammydirectly:


what else would you say? You won't know nah. That's how people like that are. They are usually stubborn and can't explain why they act on emotions. But they think they are right and will continue doing the same thing even though they know it doesn't change anything. And are at lost why things are like that.
Such people, i mean people with low IQ, should not marry at all. The man go hear wheeeen.

sammydirectly:

And i say it again
what else would you say? You won't know nah. That's how people like that are. They are usually stubborn and can't explain why they act on emotions. But they think they are right and will continue doing the same thing even though they know it doesn't change anything. And are at lost why things are like that.
Such people, i mean people with low IQ, should not marry at all. The man go hear wheeeen.

sekundosekundo:


Sincerity is the key my dear. The day I proposed to my wife, I told her that I have a son out of wedlock, though her countenance changed but in few days time she accepted. She said that I am better than her elder sister's husband that didn't open up to her sister only for her sister to find out later that he has a son out of wedlock.

Marriage is the sweetest thing on earth. Just be sincere to your husband or wife.

ominirajj:

What do u mean am not a saint? Anyways letd addume am not a saint but i know myself and who he is
So do me a favour by not calling names

ominirajj:

What do u meanam not a saint? Anyways letd addume am not a saint but i know myself and who he is
So do me a favour by not calling names

OLUJOSHINS:




When all the gentle & shy brothers were approaching U earlier shebi U were turning them down joyfully.

missyadorable:


That was good of you to open up.
My ex had a daughter outside wedlock and hid it from me till we started planning wedding,somehow I found out.

I called off the wedding,we broke up.
I never wanted to marry a man who already had a child outside wedlock

sekundosekundo:



A particular lady also turned down my proposal because of this, saying that it is forbidden but got married to another guy who later impregnate a young girl outside his matrimonial home and the man went ahead and marry the girl. In fact, I mocked her when I heard it.

missyadorable:


That wasnt nice of you.People have their choices
I cannot marry a divorced man / baby daddy...
Baby daddies can also impregnate young girl outside and marry the girl.
She was just unlucky to marry the man she did.Simple

ariklawani:
.my dear marriage is different frm dating.most time they don't show the beast in them while dating....the heart of man is wicked no one can understand.

mastermaestro:
I am curious why you want us to have your email. This explains why your husband is uncomfortable letting you go out alone. I ain't judging you already, but I think you sound like an insincere person, and he knows this. You just are looking for freedom to go where your soul longs for. Hey, you are married now! Marriage comes with restrictions and loss of some freedoms.

ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully