I'd have my bedroom while my wife would have hers when i get married.

If she chooses, she could sleep in my room every nite but i need my privacy as well.

Yes, she's my wife n i love her but common, we need to do what'll work for us irrespective of societal norms or tradition

Yoighaman:

I'd have my bedroom while my wife would have hers when i get married.

If she chooses, she could sleep in my room every nite but i need my privacy as well.

Yes, she's my wife n i love her but common, we need to do what'll work for us irrespective of societal norms or tradition

What kinda space would you need after you have married.
if you need space and privacy, go out and chill and come back and sleep beside her . . . .privacy and marriage? i am sure you will soon line up on the other side in Las Vegas

Its good 4 couples 2 sleep in d same.it not only brings dem together but it also help 2 settle disputes.if a coupl hav a misunderstandin nd they sleep in diff rooms,they wil find it hard 2 settle their disputes but wen in d same they hav no choice than to settle

Fhemmmy:

What kinda space would you need after you have married.
if you need space and privacy, go out and chill and come back and sleep beside her . . . .privacy and marriage? i am sure you will soon line up on the other side in Las Vegas

Does this imply that marriage dispels privacy?

-I love late night study but she hates being disturbed at night; must i go to the study all the time 'cos my wife wants to sleep?
-I'm a 'shallow sleeper' and gets disturbed by any slight movement but oh! She snores at night
-I light things being properly arrange but she's a bit care-free about stuffs
-I'm not a TV person as such but she has the time-schedule for all TV programmes on her finger-tips
-I love very cold atmosphere but she catches cold easily
-I listen to music before I sleep but she detests ‘noise’ at night
-I cannot sleep with the lights on but she likes bright lights at night

I could go on and on and on.

Who is meant to compromise on the dislikes? my wife? me?

I’d rather be in a separate room, please.

Yoighaman, you said it almost the way I'd say it. I mean I watch little TV, read a great deal, dream and practice on becoming superman, sleep with lights OFF, I'm very organised. There'll be no compromise. Forget the 21st century stupidity and bible-induced deception; there's every reason, if you desire it, to avoid sharing a room on a permanent basis. Marriage is about two people who should at certain times accord each other the kind of complete respect reserved for strangers. Nice one, sir. That's my take.

Yoighaman:

Does this imply that marriage dispels privacy?

-I love late night study but she hates being disturbed at night; must i go to the study all the time 'cos my wife wants to sleep?
-I'm a 'shallow sleeper' and gets disturbed by any slight movement but oh! She snores at night
-I light things being properly arrange but she's a bit care-free about stuffs
-I'm not a TV person as such but she has the time-schedule for all TV programmes on her finger-tips
-I love very cold atmosphere but she catches cold easily
-I listen to music before I sleep but she detests ‘noise’ at night
-I cannot sleep with the lights on but she likes bright lights at night

I could go on and on and on.

Who is meant to compromise on the dislikes? my wife? me?

I’d rather be in a separate room, please.

There is nothing wrong with all those things you have said.
However, that is not enough to have a separate rooms.
You could do all those things and when you wanna have your shallow sleep, you go to same bed where your wife is lying down and sleep.
BTW . . . i was just kinda laffing at your definition of an Honorable man.

No, no, no for me. Share the bed and that's all for me. All other parts of your life stay in your own room. Period!!!

tmubee:

No, no, no for me. Share the bed and that's all for me. All other parts of your life stay in your own room. Period!!!

Na wa oh

Don't get me wrong o! I have a way with women when they come into my life. But living in a room with her is a no-no. She has to have her own room and we can share most of our intimate lives in the same room.

tmubee:

Don't get me wrong o! I have a way with women when they come into my life. But living in a room with her is a no-no. She has to have her own room and we can share most of our intimate lives in the same room.

I am not sure you really wanna settle down.
Gone are those days when women will settle for such, but then, i am sure some desperado wont mind

What days are you referring to? They'll settle for such when I provide the alternative room for her. Modernity will not make me pander to every 'modern' whim. It may seem like such an issue but, believe me, it is not. She'll know this before she even thinks about settling down with me. No yawa!

@tmubee: I completely subscribe to your views my dear. My room to me, I no need scatter scatter. Lol.

@deluxecad, thanks for the back up. I knew I wasn't alone. See, there are no right or wrong answers in this matter. To think that I'll go with the crowd in everything is not for me. I started thinking unlike the crowd by the time I was 10 years old. Happiness is when both work out their lives in the way that's comfortable for THEM. I like the way I tidy and orientate my room space; I won't abdicate on that responsibility. Rule your world!

tmubee:

@deluxecad, thanks for the back up. I knew I wasn't alone. See, there are no right or wrong answers in this matter. To think that I'll go with the crowd in everything is not for me. I started thinking unlike the crowd by the time I was 10 years old. Happiness is when both work out their lives in the way that's comfortable for THEM. I like the way I tidy and orientate my room space; I won't abdicate on that responsibility. Rule your world!

For real man!

I am having some makossa laff

My room to me, I no need scatter scatter. Marry scatter scatter wife and av scatter scatter room.

Lo-renz:

My room to me, I no need scatter scatter. Marry scatter scatter wife and av scatter scatter room.

So why would u wanna marry a scatter woman for a wife, only a scatter man would recognize one too

Women throw things around naturally, I'm not down for dat.

deluxecad:

Women throw things around naturally, I'm not down for dat.

I really wonder the kinda women you have dated, cos i think men does that more than the women, a man will leave his shoes anyhow and throw his socks anywhere, while a woman wanna arrange after him.

sead:

Its good 4 couples 2 sleep in d same.it not only brings dem together but it also help 2 settle disputes.if a coupl hav a misunderstandin nd they sleep in diff rooms,they wil find it hard 2 settle their disputes but wen in d same they hav no choice than to settle

So if you dont sleep in d same room you cant have issues settled? We wont sleep with issues unsettled, every issue must be settled there and then.

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Yes he must

It is good and natural for a husband and wife to share room, it breeds intimacy in marriage.Despite that, I will still have my own room to scatter as I want since am on care free side and my fiance is the one that arrange.So I have always told him I would like to have my own room for my things while we share the same bed every night.

Ogaga4Luv:

WHY ARE YOU SHOCKED?

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Is this a joke question? Lol, my husband not sleep with me in the same room? I laff in hindi. Altho i have notice this trend is common with naija guys living in naija but i think its madness. So when he want sex, he wud come to my room and he is done, he will go back to his room? I might as well be a sex-slave abi? i dont knw abt anybody else i loff my being cuddled n held by my partner in bed, its the best feeling in the world. It makes u feel SAFE. Lmao

If you can't share the same bedroom,how'd you manage to live in the same apartment
Incompatibility excuse is crap