KanwuliaExtra:


Ok.

But. . .

1. High career status does not usually equate to “rich”.

2. Only a man can preserve his “masculinity” in any circumstance. A woman can only enhance it.

3. I think men or women of average socio-economic status are avoided mainly due to personality issues, more so than status.

3. It is one thing to “want” something or someone, but a totally different matter to have what it takes to appreciate and KEEP it.

4. I don’t live off attention, only empirical FACTS!

5. Yup! Everyone must guard their emotions at all times. No need entrusting them to careless hands.

The bolded is actually a great point. At the end of the day, we are the guardians of our own masculinity and if we are well secured in our shoes and strong in our spirit, a woman can hardly disoriente us in our journey.

Great topic with very matured replies even when in disagreement (except 2 who will not be named! ) This is how Nairaland used to be years ago.

pabostt:
The potential threat the career of a woman can cause to her marriage especially if her husband isn’t as successful as she is has always been a point of discussion. Moreover, some single men are even afraid to marry a woman who is successful in their chosen career than them. Some believe that the norm is husbands “should” hold higher job status relative to their wives. When this norm is violated, and wives hold the higher status job, negative consequences can follow: Women are more likely to be targets of husbands’ aggression, and the risk for divorce increases.

Question
is it a crime for a woman to succeed in her chosen field or earn more?

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High status career women or HSC women for short will struggle with getting spouses because they are not easily docile or submissive. I didn't say they are not submissive at all but rather it doesn't come easy to them. African men in general prefer docile women, submissive women. The good African men will empower their wives in a manner consistent with sustaining the home and improving the wellbeing of the family. She will be empowered but yet submissive to her man. The horrible African men want docile women so that they can have a toy to manipulate. A HSC woman on the other hand has already chosen a path that has been cemented by years of success. It is difficult for her to be malleable to the dictates of a traditional husband. Even in Western societies where we claim men are more liberal, this is also an issue. HSC women assume marital equality off the bat, seek rare men with a higher status and see marriage as a business contract and not a commitment to serve. This may explain why HSC women hardly have spouses or successful marriages.

Look at the end the day,

A man is a man


And a woman is a woman.


We all need each other just as we have been wired to do so.

I disagree with u.

My wife is a chartered banker with close to 13 years experience.
She earns good salary yet she still the woman I married.

This is not true and believe me,it is not!

Even women with no jobs or low profile jobs have more trouble with their marriage

Ardar:


There's no such thing. It is the husbands insecurity and ego that feeds him the narrative that his wife is disrespectful.



Why would you want to control another living breathing human being like you? Again, this toxic mindset of the average Nigerian man is very dangerous.



A rich and successful woman would only wish for a richer and more successful man because she doesn't want to walk around on eggshells because of an insecure and egoistic man.

Nobody wants all their movements, words and actions to be misinterpreted as disrespect and seen as something unbecoming of a wife.



Yeah, because of my response to point 1 and 3.



Again, my response to point 1 and 3.

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pabostt:
The potential threat the career of a woman can cause to her marriage especially if her husband isn’t as successful as she is has always been a point of discussion. Moreover, some single men are even afraid to marry a woman who is successful in their chosen career than them. Some believe that the norm is husbands “should” hold higher job status relative to their wives. When this norm is violated, and wives hold the higher status job, negative consequences can follow: Women are more likely to be targets of husbands’ aggression, and the risk for divorce increases.

Question
is it a crime for a woman to succeed in her chosen field or earn more?

Source

Every woman and man has problems with their marriages.



Stop being ridiculous

eyinjuege:
Even women with no jobs or low profile jobs have more trouble with their marriage

Loool I was about to say this.

A lot of times the problem is not necessarily from the high status of the woman.

Same way I see people say the husband is not treating a woman right because she contributes nothing but we have hundreds that are contributing and are not being treated right while we also have those that don't work, earn nothing have zero financial contribution to their family and are being treated right by their husband's.