I've a female friend whom I once expressed my love for but we didn't enter into a relationship because neither of us was ready to commit to it at that time. We met in school and we've had some ups and downs in the past.

There's this attitude of hers that bothers me and I had made up my mind to let go of her. Sometimes, she seems all nice and good but all of a sudden, she begins to act differently. I've experienced this in our face-to-face conversations and online chats (which is the most annoying). Could it be personality disorder, mood swing, dishonesty or friendzoning tactics on her part? Or is it me overreacting? Or there's something wrong with me in some way that turns her off?

Whatever be the case anyway, I already decided from December last year to FINALLY erase her. Take note of the word 'finally' because similar decisions were made once or twice before, only for her to return and it seemed good until shit happened again. There was a time she appeared to have taken such stance also and I broke it off and then we went back to point zero. Well, it's not as if I'm hating her or kicking her out of my life; I simply don't want any emotional/psychological torture caused by her attitude. Until she comes clean and straight before we can be good.

So last December was the last straw as earlier said. She never returned any of my calls; I chat her up and complained, only to get an unconvincing excuse. It appeared I was being too "pushy" and I concluded it has got to be the time to back off completely. I couldn't afford to start the new year with old, unimproving, discomforting and insincere friendships/relationships. Though I'd still be her friend but I'd drastically reduce the ties, maintain my composure much better and get involved with other things.

Now she's back. She jokingly asked why we weren't close as before and apologised if she did any wrong. This is the usual drill, so I smiled and made her realise I had moved on. We got chatty for a bit till she ignored me and I've not heard a word from her since then. This is pissing me off and I can't take it anymore which is why I'm humbly seeking your help.

Should I:
a) Talk to her and let her realise the hurting attitude? But wouldn't that make me look somehow?
b) Forget about her and if at anytime she beeps me, I should ignore her too? Or
c) ..... (please help me fill it)


Thank you...

Lol. Just imagine how a girl's playing ball with your feelings.


It's obvs she doesn't give a rat's arse bout you. Do sth meaningful with your life. Truss me tomorrow when you make it, she'll come pleading. they all do.

B and make sure you collect your mumu button from her.

Inanna:
Screw her. For your own sanity. Just forget about her until she's figured out her issues.

True but I doubt she'd admit that she has any issue though...
It's so annoying

Inanna:
Screw her. For your own sanity. Just forget about her until she's figured out her issues.

True but I doubt she'd admit she has any issue though...
It's so annoying

I just wonder why some guys enjoy being tossed around emotionally by ladies. That girl ain't got your time; wake up and smell the coffee!

Take a long, final hike away from her & get extra-busy! That girl's got TIME-WASTER written all over her.

...But you may persist if it's just a taste of the cookie you want.

VargasVee:
Lol. Just imagine how a girl's playing ball with your feelings.


It's obvs she doesn't give a rat's arse bout you. Do sth meaningful with your life. Truss me tomorrow when you make it, she'll come pleading. they all do.

My guy, you can imagine. See as the thing pain me. And I usually don't accept anyone's rubbish when they play games with me.

The sad part is, she's a devoted Christian girl and she appears all nice to everyone but perhaps her smartness is shifting her moral brain. Like you said, I believe she'll bite her fingers someday

ObaKlaz:
I just wonder why some guys enjoy being tossed around emotionally by ladies. That girl ain't got your time; wake up and smell the coffee!

Take a long, final hike away from her & get extra-busy! That girl's got TIME-WASTER written all over her.

...But you may persist if it's just a taste of the cookie you want.

Thanks bro but cookie keh? Lailai, I'll let her pass and not near me. Moreso, you know my faith is against it

NairalandCS:
B and make sure you collect your mumu button from her.

chai you cun insult me join. Thanks though

This one pass me

0079jaBond:
I've a female friend whom I once expressed my love for but we didn't enter into a relationship because neither of us was ready to commit to it at that time. We met in school and we've had some ups and downs in the past.

There's this attitude of hers that bothers me and I had made up my mind to let go of her. Sometimes, she seems all nice and good but all of a sudden, she begins to act differently. I've experienced this in our face-to-face conversations and online chats (which is the most annoying). Could it be personality disorder, mood swing, dishonesty or friendzoning tactics on her part? Or is it me overreacting? Or there's something wrong with me in some way that turns her off?

Whatever be the case anyway, I already decided from December last year to FINALLY erase her. Take note of the word 'finally' because similar decisions were made once or twice before, only for her to return and it seemed good until shit happened again. There was a time she appeared to have taken such stance also and I broke it off and then we went back to point zero. Well, it's not as if I'm hating her or kicking her out of my life; I simply don't want any emotional/psychological torture caused by her attitude. Until she comes clean and straight before we can be good.

So last December was the last straw as earlier said. She never returned any of my calls; I chat her up and complained, only to get an unconvincing excuse. It appeared I was being too "pushy" and I concluded it has got to be the time to back off completely. I couldn't afford to start the new year with old, unimproving, discomforting and insincere friendships/relationships. Though I'd still be her friend but I'd drastically reduce the ties, maintain my composure much better and get involved with other things.

Now she's back. She jokingly asked why we weren't close as before and apologised if she did any wrong. This is the usual drill, so I smiled and made her realise I had moved on. We got chatty for a bit till she ignored me and I've not heard a word from her since then. This is pissing me off and I can't take it anymore which is why I'm humbly seeking your help.

Should I:
a) Talk to her and let her realise the hurting attitude? But wouldn't that make me look somehow?
b) Forget about her and if at anytime she beeps me, I should ignore her too? Or
c) ..... (please help me fill it)


Thank you...

Block and delete as it is hot... Don't give anyone d power to toil with ur emotions

Nma27:
Block and delete as it is hot... Don't give anyone d power to toil with ur emotions

Nma27:
Block and delete as it is hot... Don't give anyone d power to toil with ur emotions

Nma27:
Block and delete as it is hot... Don't give anyone d power to toil with ur emotions

Hmmm you're right. But won't I be seen as immature and insecure if I disconnect her from my social channels?
I wish to set a standard and make her and/or any other intending girl realise that I can't be taken for granted

0079jaBond:

chai you cun insult me join. Thanks though

Lool no be insult. Me sef never collect my mumu button from one girl like that but we no dey the same location so the the button no dey work.

Don't forget about r please I beg of you. Try and talk to r and in fact use sweet words. Once you fork r,just smile and behave in thesame way and manner she behaved to you then. Look for a better chick and move on with life.She is only playing with your feelings so you too play with hers

0079jaBond:

Hmmm you're right. But won't I be seen as immature and insecure if I disconnect her from my social channels?
I wish to set a standard and make her and/or any other intending girl realise that I can't be taken for granted

Please don't do this because it would only make you immature.Just pay her in her own coin full stop. Knack the akpako and move on.. letting r go just like that go pain you. But never over spend on her

0079jaBond:

Hmmm you're right. But won't I be seen as immature and insecure if I disconnect her from my social channels?
I wish to set a standard and make her and/or any other intending girl realise that I can't be taken for granted

My dear, ur happiness and peace of mind should b your priority.... I block and delete without looking back. I have just one life to live, can't let any baga frustrate it

NairalandCS:


Lool no be insult. Me sef never collect my mumu button from one girl like that but we no dey the same location so the the button no dey work.

make God deliver us from all this type of girls oo lol

gunners160:
Don't forget about r please I beg of you. Try and talk to r and in fact use sweet words. Once you fork r,just smile and behave in thesame way and manner she behaved to you then. Look for a better chick and move on with life.She is only playing with your feelings so you too play with hers

Omo, u be real gunner o and e be lyk say u cari correct ammunitions wit dis special technique wey u dey teach me. Mbok I still be virgin

But thanks though

My man flee... she doesn't care about you. Why else would she be joking with your emotions. She does this on purpose. U can thank me later.

Nma27:
My dear, ur happiness and peace of mind should b your priority.... I block and delete without looking back. I have just one life to live, can't let any baga frustrate it

True. Life can be cruel sometimes sha

Dandiaz72:
My man flee... she doesn't care about you. Why else would she be joking with your emotions. She does this on purpose. U can thank me later.

Thanks man. But I'm tempted to ask; have you experienced or seen/heard a similar situation like mine? There was a time I read some stuff about personality disorder but a friend advised me not to confront her with it otherwise it may piss her off. Moreover, could there be a slight chance that this is all a mere misunderstanding between us?

I wish to know your thoughts and from others too, and if I sound silly, please let me know! Thanks...

0079jaBond:


Thanks man. But I'm tempted to ask; have you experienced or seen/heard a similar situation like mine? There was a time I read some stuff about personality disorder but a friend advised me not to confront her with it otherwise it may piss her off. Moreover, could there be a slight chance that this is all a mere misunderstanding between us?

I wish to know your thoughts and from others too, and if I sound silly, please let me know! Thanks...

I understand how u feel, i've been there, i'm sure she is seeing another guy. email me for more pieces of advice

0079jaBond:

make God deliver us from all this type of girls oo lol

Amen o.

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DavidTheGeek:
I once had a friend like that. Guess what i did.... The opposite of what you're doing.

You're here reporting to us instead of tackling her.

In my case, i told her clearly i don't want a friend who does this and that.

She'll apologise and later repeat the ish.

So i simply told her to leave me the f alone.

Don't allow anyone toy with your emotions. Be harsh if that's the only language she'll understand.

Don't just ignore her. If you do, she won't know you're ignoring her bcuz of her attitude.
You have to tell her point blank, without blinking.

You guys will later make up but still maintain the distance.

I'll call this '007 action style' which I like and ur point is another reason why I like understanding differing views so that I won't rush anything.

But now, how do I go about it so I won't fall again? ''once beaten twice shy, and if I'm beaten a second time, then kuku kee me", you catch?

VargasVee:
Lol. Just imagine how a girl's playing ball with your feelings.


It's obvs she doesn't give a rat's arse bout you. Do sth meaningful with your life[b]. Truss me tomorrow when you make it, she'll come pleading[/b]. they all do.

Did you have to bring this up? I'm a guy, yes! But it's senseless when you guys think a girl has to come crawling to a guy she rejected when he's on money.


Abi girls nor de follow hammer?!

iamadonis2:


Did you have to bring this up? I'm a guy, yes! But it's senseless when you guys think a girl has to come crawling to a guy she rejected when he's on money.


Abi girls nor de follow hammer?!

It's the bitter truth, one way or another, even if they achieve whatever it is, they'll still realise how they messed up. Deal with it!

Let her know the attitude is bullshit...let it lead to a fight if needed just to place your point, because this is the only way u could have peace of mind, let ur feelings out...then cut ties completely...ignore her subsequent calls nd all

VargasVee:


It's the bitter truth, one way or another, even if they achieve whatever it is, they'll still realise how they messed up. Deal with it!

The world does not revolve around your balls, Bro. You're fuckinggg expendable; so is any gir you date. If you breakup, wish yourselves well and be on your way.