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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by canalily(m): 8:59am On Jul 30, 2017
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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 9:01am On Jul 30, 2017
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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Free4man: 9:09am On Jul 30, 2017
Psoul:
Let us take this write-up to married couple, cos it's best fitted there. This girlfriend and boyfriend of a thing these days are just for fun and a complete joke.

If you are really determined to build a "home" ur level of maturity and forgiveness must surpass that which u have when you were courting or doing ur so called boyfriend and girlfriend things.

Forgiveness is highly needed in a relationship. The only factor that can make u forgive easily is love. That is why u should try as much as possible to marry who u truly love. Not who u love cos of money or cos of facial or bodily beauty.

Another thing u need is sacrifice. Sacrifice without mumbling. Most times, problem in the family starts when one partner feels he/she is sacrificing more than he/she think is too much. No sacrifice is too much to keep ur home peaceful. If u think otherwise, try a broken home.
The time u start feeling giving too much, forgiving too much or sacrificing too much, you have created a hole for ur family to start sinking.
Young boys and young girls will not understand this, hence they will condemn what i am saying. They will tend to label u Jew man when u behave this way, but never mind them. When they grow, they will understand it.

I love my wife so much and love my family so dearly. When i look forward and think of not bn wt them, i have a great fear and thereby try all i could to enjoy the absolute peace i enjoy with them. This include, most times, saying sorry even when i am not supposed to. Sometimes When i wait for that apology to come from her and it is not coming and the silence is growing, the communication gap is widening, strange feelings are coming in all i do is to go to her and pls let us forgive each other and lets be the way we were. That solves the problem. It doesn't reduce who i am. I doesn't make me less than a man, rather it makes me more matured man and makes her to love me more cos most times in her sober mood, she will say to me; Honey, do u kw that no other man can love me and treat me the way u do.

So if i think i am giving too much and stop this character that God blessed me wt in this relationship, the next thing is that just a minor quarrel will tear us apart.

So don't think that multiple forgiveness coming from u to keep ur relationship is bn a weakling.
Matured man! If your wife is been laid by another man you need to think twice. And forgiving might not be the best option because it is a deliberate act. You can forgive on other issue relating to you home development and and such but cheating is another thing entirely. Someone who forget about your kids, sacrifice and other things and get laid by another man after getting married deserve no forgiveness to me . Don't get an honest fellow into the loop of infidelity. The loop tends to infinity.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 9:36am On Jul 30, 2017
bamisepeters:
i mentioned you, now i see reasons, you have broken everything into pieces with the bolded.
Are you tracking my comments
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Justdare: 9:44am On Jul 30, 2017
austinosita:
Very true!

Men can easily forgive. Atleast matured men! But ladies.....whether matured or not, can never easily forgive.

I'm saying this from experience, ask me why or reasons and I'll give you enough!
I "very" disagree with you and your position on this matter. Guys don't forgive easily especially if it's infidelity.
On the contrary the women folk forgives us a zillion times more than we do them.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 10:10am On Jul 30, 2017
Rorachy:
Are you tracking my comments
oh! Now you just know, i might be quiet in the sections but i mention everyone when my topic is based on what they usually talk about when they reply on post, it will be someone else's turn next time.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 10:13am On Jul 30, 2017
Psoul:
Let us take this write-up to married couple, cos it's best fitted there. This girlfriend and boyfriend of a thing these days are just for fun and a complete joke.

If you are really determined to build a "home" ur level of maturity and forgiveness must surpass that which u have when you were courting or doing ur so called boyfriend and girlfriend things.

Forgiveness is highly needed in a relationship. The only factor that can make u forgive easily is love. That is why u should try as much as possible to marry who u truly love. Not who u love cos of money or cos of facial or bodily beauty.

Another thing u need is sacrifice. Sacrifice without mumbling. Most times, problem in the family starts when one partner feels he/she is sacrificing more than he/she think is too much. No sacrifice is too much to keep ur home peaceful. If u think otherwise, try a broken home.
The time u start feeling giving too much, forgiving too much or sacrificing too much, you have created a hole for ur family to start sinking.
Young boys and young girls will not understand this, hence they will condemn what i am saying. They will tend to label u Jew man when u behave this way, but never mind them. When they grow, they will understand it.

I love my wife so much and love my family so dearly. When i look forward and think of not bn wt them, i have a great fear and thereby try all i could to enjoy the absolute peace i enjoy with them. This include, most times, saying sorry even when i am not supposed to. Sometimes When i wait for that apology to come from her and it is not coming and the silence is growing, the communication gap is widening, strange feelings are coming in all i do is to go to her and pls let us forgive each other and lets be the way we were. That solves the problem. It doesn't reduce who i am. I doesn't make me less than a man, rather it makes me more matured man and makes her to love me more cos most times in her sober mood, she will say to me; Honey, do u kw that no other man can love me and treat me the way u do.

So if i think i am giving too much and stop this character that God blessed me wt in this relationship, the next thing is that just a minor quarrel will tear us apart.

So don't think that multiple forgiveness coming from u to keep ur relationship is bn a weakling.
marriage will definitely start from somewhere, you know tree cannot be climbed from the top and it is what you do now you build upon. Everything in life us stage by stage.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Prince16: 10:14am On Jul 30, 2017
Talk2Bella:



he many times do u forgive a cheat?

How many times did Christ ask us to forgive?

Matthew 18:21-22

Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.


70*7= 490 times

If forgiveness for a spouse infidelity cannot be forgiven, then celibacy is d only option:

Matthew 19:3-12

The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it
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EOS
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Prince16: 10:24am On Jul 30, 2017
bamisepeters:
lol, i can swear with anything i wrote thise within 15 minutes as a blog reader requested for it. For your information, relationship topics ngba lorimi ni o. Check my blog i never do that, as in, i detest copy and pasting. And please don't accuse without concrete evidence, it is punishable and it has extremely positive effect on someone who work hard to achieve a thing. I don't even know that woman you mentioned let alone copying her work,God forbid.

U must've listened to Ebenezer Obey's Kétékété (if not, go listen to it). U can't please d world. Even d son of man who came, healed and fed d ppl was also crucified by d same ppl he came to comfort.


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RE: MOST WOMEN RESPECT SPIRITUAL LEADERS THAN THEIR HUSBAND
.......I remember listening to one religious leader who said that you have given him poison when you respect him while you disrespect the man that tied the knot with you on the altar.

He said if you cannot kneel down for your man don't kneel for him as this is common among women......

#on_point!

Who is ds religious leader pls?
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 10:41am On Jul 30, 2017
austinosita:


@the emboldened......Maybe you're referring to you in particular! My dear, I've dated some unforgiving she-devils, who still nurses hatred in their hearts towards me....even the one married with kids!
So speak for yourself, not ladies
The truth is I don't have soft mind neither am I emotional but I forgive easily and I don't forget.


And I have seen guys that refuse to forgive no matter the amount of pleading, if she sincerely loved you, she would have forgiven you, if she don't forgive after several attempts of pleading with her, its best you just let her go her way..


Dating someone that doesn't have forgiving spirit is very difficult. They are difficult people.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 12:01pm On Jul 30, 2017
jacyhelen:


well written.
Thanks smiley
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jul 30, 2017
Rorachy:
The truth is I don't have soft mind neither am I emotional but I forgive easily and I don't forget.

I think it's usually ladies with a soft heart and that are emotional that easily forgives. And how come you don't forget and you forgive?......you've not really forgiven if you can't erase it from your memory
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 12:51pm On Jul 30, 2017
pocohantas:


Men EASILY forgive infidelity? LOL!
This has to be the joke of the decade...

Is infidelity the only issue in relationships?
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 12:52pm On Jul 30, 2017
austinosita:


I think it's usually ladies with a soft heart and that are emotional that easily forgives. And how come you don't forget and you forgive?......you've not really forgiven if you can't erase it from your memory
I like to remember what people did to me.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 12:56pm On Jul 30, 2017
Rorachy:
I like to remember what people did to me.

Do you think you need it? It'll only hurt you the more! If you truly love that person deeply, you should be able to forget, let go and move on!
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by djgrafiti(m): 1:29pm On Jul 30, 2017
bamisepeters:
Our intention most times determines the success of our relationship, not what anyone says.

Like we know that it is never possible for two people who are blood related to stay with each other for little period of time without offending each other.

So also, it is paramount that we know that two who are not related by blood nor gender can never be together in the name of love and expect an offense-free relationship.

Personally, i feel when your partner go wrong it makes you know more about them and how to handle them in the future.

I understand there are some offense that are hard to forgive, but love knows no offense as it even forgives before any offense is committed.

I have heard, read and witnessed some extremely bad situations whereby the partners of those involved still overlooked the sin and moved on happily.

One thing i used to tell those who care to listen to the sense making relationship nonsense that i say or write especially when they need to forgive their partner is that it can be anyone's turn, and it can be the other way round the next minute because we are humans and not spirit.

In a relationship, which other offense is greater than seeing your partner whom you have sacrificed all for moaning in confirmation of a great sexual experience under someone else?

For your information, I have seen couples who still moved on together after the above happened.

Believe me, it is never easy to forgive one's partner after such experience, in fact, many people will tell you to even run as far as possible from such partner.

Most times you take some decisions on your own when it comes to relationship because other are blind when it comes to what you see in your partner as they don't know your desires and the point of attraction.

This is not about the sacrifice or desperate measures you've taken to sustain the relationship, but the love making you to be as foolish enough to see reasons why you must forgive your partner.

This post is not just about cheating, it can be anything else apart from cheating.

The fact is that offense and forgiveness is what makes many relationship or marriage to be as strong as they are.

Remember, you are not a perfect man, neither is she a better woman, we are all striving to be the best to our partner.

And as your partner is trying all to be better for just you, you need to be ready to give room for mistakes.

I don't want to give some of the examples I have witnessed so as not to look as if I am on the side of one gender, because to me we are all the same, what is good for one goose is good for another goose.

As I am preaching forgiveness, it should make us to try harder at achieving great union free of scandal and divorce which is rampant this days.

This should make those that cheat see reasons why they must stop as it harms the partner emotionally.

Those that abuse their partner physically and mentally should also stop as the pain inflicted on your partner is more than your understanding, don't take the spirit of forgiveness which accompanied the love for granted.

In case you don't know; the day your partner stops forgiving you is when they stop loving you.

Don't abuse the spirit of forgiveness, don't do it to the point that your partner will see nothing attractive in you anymore.

Love is blind they say, you may not be the one to share the experience when the blindness receives healing.

Cc: Talk2bella, Rorachy, tosyne2much,

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/relationship-is-for-those-who-are.html
In a satanic point of view....if a man slap u on one cheek,smash him on the other,an eye for an eye,a blow for blow,give pain for pain with compound interest,love those who love u and hate those who hate u....now back to the topic...I will only forgive if she is ready to forgive me when I offend her too.She don't forgive,I don't forgive.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Eluwilussit(m): 2:00pm On Jul 30, 2017
Free4man:

And she will cheat on you again. You may think you are strong but in the real sense you are weak(you are afraid to leave her because you believe you we be empty and find no love again) If you continue with someone who cheat on you several times then you are nothing but a fool. You are not God, you are covered with flesh. I believe you are saying that because nobody cheated on you before.

I know so many people that their wives cheated on and even had kids for other men and they forgave them and moved on to live a happy and healthy life.

Nobody likes to be cheated on but if we are honest, we will all agree that most people cheat on their spouses. It is very common than we realize. It is happening and people find ways to handle it.

There is no guarantee that the next person will not do the same. While we are not God by any means, we are his children and are expected to emulate Him. Forgiveness is key to living a great life. If you don't forgive, you get bitter, and bitterness is poisonous to the soul, spirit and body.

Yes, I will forgive and appear weak than live in bitterness and anger. Relationship is much more than sex. Love does not count wrongdoings. cool cool cool cool cool

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by emzeezlee(m): 2:55pm On Jul 30, 2017
shinarlaura:

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I slept like a baby.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 3:11pm On Jul 30, 2017
austinosita:


Do you think you need it? It'll only hurt you the more! If you truly love that person deeply, you should be able to forget, let go and move on!

But they might repeat the same thing, so you need to remember it for you to remind them when they do it again.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by shinarlaura(f): 3:17pm On Jul 30, 2017
emzeezlee:

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by ndifonsimon(m): 3:20pm On Jul 30, 2017
So u mean if u can't forgive, u can't go into a relationship? Have u been offended before Mr/Mrs writer? Have u tasted the agony of pain before? I mean the kind that u hardly forgive your own self let alone your offender? I totally disagree with this write up
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 3:47pm On Jul 30, 2017
djgrafiti:
In a satanic point of view....if a man slap u on one cheek,smash him on the other,an eye for an eye,a blow for blow,give pain for pain with compound interest,love those who love u and hate those who hate u....now back to the topic...I will only forgive if she is ready to forgive me when I offend her too.She don't forgive,I don't forgive.
that is why i said it could be anyone at fault as humans, this is why you should learn that forgiveness spirit as its importance in marriage sustainance cannot be over emphasized.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 3:53pm On Jul 30, 2017
Prince16:


U must've listened to Ebenezer Obey's Kétékété (if not, go listen to it). U can't please d world. Even d son of man who came, healed and fed d ppl was also crucified by d same ppl he came to comfort.

Thank you for this, i was speechless when i saw that comment and something moved in me which i controlled. I just remember that something that is about to be great will face stones and thorns.
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#on_point!

Who is ds religious leader pls?
you know joo.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 3:57pm On Jul 30, 2017
ndifonsimon:
So u mean if u can't forgive, u can't go into a relationship? Have u been offended before Mr/Mrs writer? Have u tasted the agony of pain before? I mean the kind that u hardly forgive your own self let alone your offender? I totally disagree with this write up
you are free to disagree but know that most times i have experienced what i write through some people. I read my posts like a normal reader because what i write most times isn't with my understanding. I write them and when i read i feel like i didn't do this. It goes even beyond muy understanding, we are all learning.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Psoul(m): 4:03pm On Jul 30, 2017
Free4man:

Matured man! If your wife is been laid by another man you need to think twice. And forgiving might not be the best option because it is a deliberate act. You can forgive on other issue relating to you home development and and such but cheating is another thing entirely. Someone who forget about your kids, sacrifice and other things and get laid by another man after getting married deserve no forgiveness to me . Don't get an honest fellow into the loop of infidelity. The loop tends to infinity.

I kw you'll say a thing like this. I'm not surprised. Why do we always talk about a woman bn laid by another man. Whatever u do, will one day come back to you.

If you have bn sleeping around wt multiple women or other ppl's wife, ur wife will be laid by others. By the time it happened, you may have forgotten about ur own sin.
Let me tell you, a man is as guilty as the woman he commits adultery wt. Let us stop making women more guilty.

If you sleep wt women other than ur wife and u catch ur woman in the act and refused to forgive her, ur punishment will be unimaginable. This is because u just showed God that u don't deserve forgiveness.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Psoul(m): 4:09pm On Jul 30, 2017
bamisepeters:
marriage will definitely start from somewhere, you know tree cannot be climbed from the top and it is what you do now you build upon. Everything in life us stage by stage.

My brother you are correct but why I chose to take it to married ppl is dat marriage is a more serious affair than boyfriend and girlfriend relationship.

A partner in boyfriend girlfriend relationship may chose to walk out of the affair et any flimsy excuse and no one will worry much about it. You may decide not to forgive many things in such affair and ppl will find no problem wt dat.
In marriage you have more stake and tend to endure what u may not ordinarily endure.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 4:21pm On Jul 30, 2017
Psoul:


My brother you are correct but why I chose to take it to married ppl is dat marriage is a more serious affair than boyfriend and girlfriend relationship.

A partner in boyfriend girlfriend relationship may chose to walk out of the affair et any flimsy excuse and no one will worry much about it. You may decide not to forgive many things in such affair and ppl will find no problem wt dat.
In marriage you have more stake and tend to endure what u may not ordinarily endure.
i get your point sha.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by emzeezlee(m): 7:36pm On Jul 30, 2017
shinarlaura:

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Free4man: 9:24am On Jul 31, 2017
Psoul:


I kw you'll say a thing like this. I'm not surprised. Why do we always talk about a woman bn laid by another man. Whatever u do, will one day come back to you.

If you have bn sleeping around wt multiple women or other ppl's wife, ur wife will be laid by others. By the time it happened, you may have forgotten about ur own sin.
Let me tell you, a man is as guilty as the woman he commits adultery wt. Let us stop making women more guilty.

If you sleep wt women other than ur wife and u catch ur woman in the act and refused to forgive her, ur punishment will be unimaginable. This is because u just showed God that u don't deserve forgiveness.
It appears to me clearly now. I won't continue with such woman because I don't cheat. You will forgive her because you also a cheat. I believe infidel will marry and infidel. And in a situation whereby a good soul meet an infidel that continues to dwell in his or her sin, it is better for the soul to part from such negative individual. I rest my case.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Psoul(m): 1:37pm On Jul 31, 2017
Free4man:

It appears to me clearly now. I won't continue with such woman because I don't cheat. You will forgive her because you also a cheat. I believe infidel will marry and infidel. And in a situation whereby a good soul meet an infidel that continues to dwell in his or her sin, it is better for the soul to part from such negative individual. I rest my case.

I neither glory nor honor fools

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