In that case you will not be the kind of man for them either...everybody has a right to protect themselves, and they have a right to choose how to do that.
You choose to protect yourself from possible "gold/grave diggers" by not making any effort at wooing, and the women choose to protect themselves from possible use/misuse and heart break by playing hard to get...

True. Tie-break

Geez:

If she is re-living her past, she can tell me verbally instead of saying NO initially. There's nothing wrong in saying "I'm just out of a relationship and I want to be alone" and I will value that and thread differently, but not the typical bushe's attitude of NO, point blank!  

Hmmmmm...as if you will listen! Is it not people like you that lie that you are the knight in shining armour to wipe the girl's tears away and erase all her past pains? Only to add to the whole heartache! Ha!!!!

nicetohave:

@ IAH, and i presume the prey by now should "know" the smell of the predator.

Exactly! So when you smell predator and run, nobody should not call it playing "hard-to-get".

"hard-to-get" is not running from the predator, it is waiting/wanting to be preyed for the right price.

watz all dis!! y'all r juss makin d damn thang long!! gurlzz letz make them boyz work 4 it!! i’ma make, make, make, make you work
Make you work, work, make you work u'v gatt work harrrd 2 get wat(who) u want! hurd?? so don't think we gurlz r e-z 2 get!!

IAH, your characterisation is firm and not true with me. What is wrong in telling someone how you feel? Hard-to-get is taking a step to the days when marriages are arranged.  

@chillin, very passionate indeed, i just hope it doesnt turn out to be like the meat sellers who eventually resigned to "oga okay come pay"  

nicetohave, you're funning with terms......preyed for the right price. How much is the price?  

nicetohave:

i just hope it doesnt turn out to be like the meat sellers who eventually resigned to "oga okay come pay"  

uhmmm i don't get that

na dem know o Geez, which one is my own? na dem dey sell, i just dey price market__and im a reasonable (not expensive) buyer

@ chillin, meaning dont be too hard to get and dont be too expensive__dont be too cheap either

preach it sister!!!!..tell them...who wants to be with a broke ass man anyway?
what's all trhis about girls wanting guys' money anyway! you don't hear women complaining about the fact that guys are only looking for pretty girls! if you have the right to want a beautiful girl, then girls have the right to want a man that can take care of them..no girl wants to go out with a broke ass bloke..

i wont want my sister to go for a broke bloke too "e sa a rora" (tread gently)

nicetohave:

@ chillin, meaning don't be too hard to get and don't be too expensive__dont be too cheap either

ohh i c wat u mean!

ohhh 1 thang tho!!! ohh we sldn't b 2 hard 2 get n' nat 2 e-z uhh?? so wat we gonn pick? i guess we sld b in d middle rite lol lol lol lol abegg!! we ain't settlin 4 dat! mehn!! we'll surely make y'all work coz we'v gatt 2 game tight! datz how itz done bro!!

yes ma'am

Listen up, now you'll are making the thread difficult to read with the nija english.  

It is quite simple, women are born to be wooed and men are born to woo...the form that this wooing takes, varies and evolevs with time....we will not settle for anything less than we deserve...

2_die_4:

It is quite simple, women are born to be wooed and men are born to woo...the form that this wooing takes, varies and evolevs with time.we will not settle for anything less than we deserve...

You will make the gals mad about being born to be wooed.......

Geez..wooing is a word used to describe the art of courting....no woman should take offence at being courted, it is a more traditional form of what is currently being reffered to as "toasting"

nicetohave:

yes ma'am

no prob!!

Geez:

Listen up, now you'll are making the thread difficult to read with the nija english. 

nija english uhmmm i don't know about that!

Geez:

You will make the gals mad about being born to be wooed.......

geeeez! make d gurlz mad! that ain't gonn make us mad! guyz do your job jare!!

2die4!! please tell them one more tyme...juss so they know what d deal really is

I wonder if you guys have taken the time out to look at the oppinion poll on this issue you'd clearly see how a lot of people think. I don't know if thats the oppinion of guys only but it seems more people prefer simple and approachable babes, may be even the girls do prefer to be simple and approachable.

Its not just to play hard to get, sometimes ladies take pleasure in humiliating guys just for the fun of it, or just to show how HOT they are. This I believe is what most guys call hard to get. Simply, "sorry cant go out with you" can be said in a polite and civilised manner and the first time too. But NO the HOT headed would rather prefer to tell the world that I have just dicthed another and start a head count how many have asked her out today.

Hi Guys, I don't think there is something wrong with someone telling the other how he or she feels. I can do that if only I know what I want so there is nothing wrong.

Simple and approachable lady is all i appreciate.

welcome zenny, you're in for a treat on NL

Zenny beauty, welcome to NL. Wish u a nice time on this site.

I think Zenny removed her pix because of yemstrad, she's afraid of what you can do based on your recent posts

Meaning, she "wise up"

If i ask a girl out and she kind of says no.I will keep trying.and maybe see what happens ..but i will not take it personally with her even though i will be hurt.She might change her mind about u. However hard to get is not a good thing..One of my cousin is doing it right now..she has lost all her quality potentials and only one is remaining now and she does not like him as much as the ones that has gone..but she cant do anything about it than to start afresh..hard to get and piky girls take note

can i say it's okay if u play hard to get, but not use the word No. why not you keep coming while i thing of it and within 2 to 6 outings u'll be able to give your word with some sence of assurance that you want him or not.

hehehahahah... LADIES!

From all indications, guys love approachable girls.

I voted the "hard-to-get".. Which is just one vote (and it's not even from the guys.. cos i voted for it).

14 guys have obviously said they want the easy approachable girls. So ermm.. sisters, ease off the gas oo.

A word is enough for the wise

Personally, it depends on the guy n his personality. if he's really easy to get with as in talk to n all, i won't play hard to get with him, if i like him n i can't date him for watever reasons, i'll let him know so he dosen't feel bad or think i'm just mean. on the other hand, if he's stuck up n arrogant n feelin he's got all that, i will make him work(that's if i still want to play around). that's my 2cents.