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Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Emma5097: 3:08pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Nairalandsss: Easier said than done. |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Cooleasy(m): 3:19pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
LaEvilIMiss:This is a very intelligent and objective analysis coming from a lady. Well done. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 3:32pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Lalas247: I'm calling hubby ryt away...You will hear from me.. |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by wildchild02: 3:37pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
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Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by kennykendo(m): 3:39pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Nairalandsss: As much as there are beasts, wizards, draculas and vampire in men, there are women who are created or carved out for doom towards men. Psychologically speaking, the character of humans are as a result of 3 issues: 1. Experience: you see people could be angels at certain points in their lives, but change when their weak spots or psychology have been tampered with. For instance, a lady could be an angel today, she loves to the core, gives her all, breaks her policies and all that all for love to prevail. In the end she’s either cheated on or disregarded like an animal. After a number of relationships or sometimes after one relationship, depending on her psychology, she could become the total opposite of herself. Now the next relationships, she could handle them like hell even if the guy(s) are angels. The same goes for men too, no one is left out. There are men who face abuse from women, but cannot come out to speak for fear of societal rejection or caricature. 2. Psychology: some persons have a horrible background, like a guy who grew up in a home where his father beats his mother, will grow up with such mentality to beat ladies up and down e.g Chris Brown, likewise a lady who grew up in a home where her mum is always being beaten up, will hate men. Check out a lady who was sexually abused at an early age, she’d hate men too with passion. Psychological growth and background can play a lot of role in someone’s lifestyle. 3. Hear say: this is common among youths; ladies and guys. For the guys, your peers will tell you ‘guy, no dey give am money, no dey call am steady,na you be the man no be she or guy you never fvck am, guy you dey dull oo, another manchi go dey nyash am steady’, for the ladies ‘babe don’t give him sex until he buys you a new car, babe don’t cook or wash for him, you’re his girlfriend not his wife or mother, babe he must get you your own apartment if he loves you,’ and all that. When you listen to your peers and they give you the wrong information about something, you’re doomed to fail. Couples seeking marital or relationship advises from singles, only end up ruining things the more. What you find as a fault in a man, you find in a woman too. Sex: yes men love sex, but you haven’t heard of nymphos have you? Abuse: yes men batter women psychologically and physically, you need to see what some women do to their partners these days, the abuse level of men by women is skyrocketing everyday. Organizations are handling women abuse with the tag of ‘weaker vessel’, but men hardly speak and rather die in silence. Request: Men can request sex or sometimes money or other stuff, can be unseeingly jealous, but do not even talk about women because there are some who make it a specialty. I am in no way condemning or supporting any gender (as you can see my careful choice of words), I simply believe everyone has a role to play in all these. If you’re in a relationship and your partner abuses you in any form (both psychologically, emotionally and physically for guys and ladies) and you have tried making them see how you feel plus the level of hurt you deal with and they don’t change, walk the hell out. If it is in marriage, deal with it because you should have seen your partner’s flaws before wedding. If your partner didn’t buckle up while dating, they would not change when they are married, rather the hidden things in them suffice. Like i earlier said, i'm in no way championing a gender over the other. |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 3:47pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
[quote author=Nairalandsss post=59806033]True love is something that all people search for, especially when they are young. It should be mentioned that men and women have different attitude to love. It is a well-known fact that boys love with their eyes and girls love with their ears. That means all the words we hear from our guys are very important to us and we take everything serious. Being trustful, women can easily fall in love and give their heart away to those men who don’t deserve their great affection. Don’t let your feelings and emotions prevail over your mind or finally you will get disappointed and frustrated. Consider the following reasons why you shouldn’t give your heart away so easily and you will manage to avoid big mistakes in your life. Men Are Lustful It’s not a secret that men are lustful and we can’t do anything with this. Due to this fact you shouldn’t trust them so quickly. Surely, I don’t want to say that all men are the same, but it is quite natural that most of them at first pay much attention to our face and body and only after that they fall in love with our personality. If you want to build a strong and long lasting relationship physical attraction will not be enough for you. So, you need to wait a bit before you give him your heart and open your soul. Maybe You Just Try to Fill a Void Perhaps you’ve just broken up with your ex or you suffer from some troubles in your life, in such case your new love will be nothing more but the way to get rid of your sadness and fill the emptiness in your heart. If you don’t get enough attention from a man and don’t feel his kindness that is a clear sign he is not the one you need. All your feelings to him are deceptive. You don’t love this boy. The only reason why you are with him is your desire to get some warmth and care from him. Foundation is one of those things that will help you make your relationship happy and successful. Even to build a good house you need a foundation, so when it comes to love the one is extremely important. All lovers have to go through certain steps before they will become closer to each other. Everything starts from small talks, after you begin to trust your partner and discover numerous common things that both of you have. If you have passed these stages of your relationship successfully now you are ready to give him your heart and become a part of him Decide What You Really Want The first thing you should do when looking for a guy is to draw an image of your ideal and perfect man in your mind. It is necessary to know what qualities you expect to see in your boyfriend in order to realize your plans and make your dreams come true. So many girls often change their decision about the kind of man they want to find and such uncertainty generally results in choosing the wrong person. This is one of the greatest reasons you shouldn’t fall in love so easily and lose your mind. Make sure you set your goal and figure out which characteristics in a partner are the most valuable for you. If you are lucky to meet the one date for some time and then you can move to something more serious. You Will Get Hurt Unfortunately very often we can get attached to handsome guys just because of their appearance and as a result our heart may be broken and we stay alone. When you see that a boy doesn’t love you sincerely you’d better not rush into this relationship as it will never finish happily for you. Lots of women hope that real feelings will come with the time and they will be able to change the situation. But I think there is no need to begin love affair only because you want that and you are tired of being alone. If you meet a nice man and you like him, first of all you should find out if he has all the qualities that attract you in a partner. At the beginning of a new relationship we are overwhelmed with excitement and positive emotions. When you meet a handsome guy who seems to be a good person you can fall in love quickly without revealing his flaws and negative qualities. Such carelessness may lead to undesirable consequences and your heart will be broken. To prevent this you should always control the situation and keep patience. http://www.naijabroad.com/reasons-shouldnt-trust-men-easily/ . Easier said than done. Human beings are complex in nature there r gud n bad ones. U sound like girls r always d victims. There are girls that have dealt with guys also. Girls cn follow all these write up and still fall victim. U need divine guidance n direction simple n for dat you need to b spiritual minus dat u r just wasting your time. Wen ur village people dey follow u,u dey here dey follow motivational theory. Time for church Don reach. |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 3:55pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Divay22:Don't worry dear I offer spiritual guidiance for 5k per consultation there are still good people but to get them u nid higher authority from above 1 Like |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Cyberdroid: 3:55pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
their are different group's of women,slay Queen's, Gold diggers e.t.c..But in life we must take risk's, so trust her and whatever you see,you take. |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 3:58pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Rorachy:Kai u play Mortal combat before? See undercut |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Shaw007(m): 4:00pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
counter thread ejor . . . acant shout |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 4:00pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
jashar:U concour abi? |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by jashar(f): 4:13pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
vbang: i concur oooo.... sly peeps |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Penboy: 4:22pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
zenil1:Ehen... Was she a nurse? Story sounds familiar |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 4:33pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Ehen... Was she a nurse? Story sounds familiar @penboy, nope... she's a student... just graduated last year |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by shestrong(f): 4:35pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
I love ur post,thank u |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by sheffyUTD(m): 4:44pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
bettercreature: Might be true but, they say watch out when it is 'too good to be true' Have you experienced this I used to trust everything and anything that comes my way, but I have been bitten several times. |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 5:34pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
tosyne2much:never thought i'd see the day you'll make sense Just kidding. Sensible comment. |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Hades2016(m): 5:42pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Rorachy:too much of nollywood .. stop watching that crap, it’s will make you lose a lot ..... |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 5:47pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
@sweetboyfriend, :oabeg who do u dis tin |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by e13sina(m): 7:01pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Rorachy:That's good for you. So I assume you don't believe in GOD, because if you do then you actually do trust someone (not GOD) |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by tosyne2much(m): 7:14pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Jobia:You ehn |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by ladykolly(f): 10:32pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
handsomebanana:when I said man I wasnt only talking about male,it was a general term I used,know one deserve a 100% percent trust,,, nd y must an insult pulp out of your mouth like we were debating on it |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by handsomebanana(m): 10:33pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
ladykolly:I'm sorry |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Rozaytee: 12:42am On Aug 26, 2017 |
Another reason why u shouldnt trust men easily..is becuzz some men arent sincere about wat dey want from u.... |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 12:52am On Aug 26, 2017 |
iyam not lustful i jus love the fairer sex |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by xerxes456(m): 6:10am On Aug 26, 2017 |
No matter how you preach women are not wired that way hence it's almost impossible for a woman to think when she's in love... all things been equal women are wired to Love easily, their problem is submission which can be learned... men are not wired to love just like that, men can decide to love or not hence for a man Love is a choice, hence men are admonished to Love unconditionally just as Jesus Loved the church and gave his life for it... so for women even if the guy has the worst physic ever and the worst behaviour, once they fall in love it takes so much to break that love, even after they break up if she doesn't fall in love with another guy whenever they meet, the bad guy always have a certain effect on the lady... Just my observation... |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 8:28pm On Aug 26, 2017 |
Mac2016:I hear u |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Nobody: 8:29pm On Aug 26, 2017 |
Mac2016:I hear u |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Mac2016(m): 8:00pm On Aug 27, 2017 |
muminatmustapha:Hope you had a sweet weekend? |
Re: Reasons You Shouldn’t Trust Men So Easily by Amuochicha(f): 11:21pm On May 31, 2021 |
I hate men |
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