I will go straight to the point there is this girl we met like five months ago and she is in love with me and i also love her. Have told her once that am no longer interested in the relationship she felt so sad that she was hospitalize due to my decision later I felt so lonely that I have to reconcile with her and we are continuing our relationship for now, though she is not a graduate she just have ssce but knows how to make hair and she doesn't joke with her job. Have told my best friend about the issue but he scolded me warning me not to marry that girl. Am currently doing my MSc and I feel everything should be alright once I finished my program, My dad is a prof of geophysics and my mum is the proprietress of her own school. I really love that girl but am thinking about my Mum and what she wants age is not on my side again please advice

Why don't you encourage the girl in question to further more?

Only do the this that will enhance/promote your happiness

I won't advise that girl to marry you.

why can't you enroll her to further more if you are capable

Oma307:
why can't you enroll her to further more if you are capable

someone said you shouldn't that to a girl you want to marry it is expected of the parent to do that

U are left with no choice. Just marry ur mum

What does being a graduate have to do with sustaining a union?

Most of the self-employed people earn more in few weeks than most graduates in a month.

If she can read, write and communicate well, I don't really see the issue here.

And if you love her enough and think you both can make it work, so go ahead.

She can still take part time classes. Your mum has enjoyed her own marriage, she should let you be.

You are a graduate, don't marry her, she will become a liability to you. Go for a working class lady. Be with someone from the same social status as yours or not too far off.

You're old enough to take decisions

Better don't marry her. An average afonja is a woman beater so if she is not a graduate then that's all the more reason for you not to respect her. Better break her heart now than send her to her grave later.

Wahala..... Don't allow anyone to push u into what you will regret. Follow your heart.

Asses her now, is she a liability?
Is she seeking to further her education
Is she smart enough to learn a skill quickly
Can she speak eloquently
Is she confident enough

Finally, can you in all honesty tell her to meet someone on your behalf.

If yes to 80% of these, talk with your parents and go ahead with the marriage

Marriage is about mutual understanding. You have to decide for your self first before you market her to you family and friends.

Questions you should ask yourself.
1. Are you at peace within you with her.
2. Are you proud of her (you're not ashamed people see you together)
3. Those she make you happy?
4. Those she fear God?
5. Those she love you and you love her?
6. Do you have mutual respect for each other?

When you can sincerely answer these questions in affirmation. Go and marketer to your mum. You're a guy we always to. how make our mum support our desires.

Let me say, she is not a graduate because of one circumstance or the other. And she has right to find love. Please, don't thrown away someone that is celebrating you to take the one that will be tolerating you. Don't miss your own wife.

oloyeagbaakin:



someone said you shouldn't that to a girl you want to marry it is expected of the parent to do that

since your parent said you should marry a graduate and the girl in question is someone you love but not a graduate, my opinion is that you can help seek admission and proceed by marrying her

Why don't you help or encourage her to continue her studies e.g any distance learning school