She has been complaining that I don't have time for her, she probably expects me to be on the phone with her throughout the day, or to be chatting with her all day.

Don't you ladies realise that we work?, my work is so engaging, I rarely have time for myself, plus I live in an ever busy place, where traffic gridlock holds you down for hours.

Life is stressful Mehn, I'm rarely online anywhere, be it Facebook, Nairaland or Twitter.
I told my male colleague about this complaint from my girl, he said life is all about priorities, nd he gave me the usual sermon of how you're supposed to make out time for your girlfriend no matter how busy you are

I strongly disagree with that, the only time I can remember that I was so loving or caring according to my girlfriend, was when I just finished school, nd was waiting for my NYSC, I wasn't working then.

She also complained , because I was very careful in my expenses, she said I was becoming stingy
I Taya for girls self.

You may have to be jobless to have time for some girls

I think I will end this relationship!! Make I get peace focus on my work nd career

Ftc

horlahsunbo225:
Ftc

Lwkmd.
Baba niyen?
Aye mi

Lalasticlala come see

Kowalskiq:

Lwkmd.
Baba niyen?
Aye mi

Lalasticlala come see

you beta call the girls
CX lalas247,divay22,optional1,rorachy,iamkusgubaby

Kowalskiq:

Lwkmd.
Baba niyen?
Aye mi

Lalasticlala come see

you beta call the girls
Cc lalas247,divay22,optional1,rorachy,iamkusgubaby

Case of another jobless chic pele

Dump her and move on you are clearly not ready ... neither of you are
Cause if you really wanna make time you can .. but your career won't let you so focus on that till you make enough to start dating simple...

Lalas247:
Case of another jobless chic pele

Dump her and move on you are clearly not ready ... neither of you are
Cause if you really wanna make time you can .. but your career won't let you so focus on that till you make enough to start dating simple...

horlahsunbo225:
you beta call the girls
Cc lalas247,divay22,optional1,rorachy,iamkusgubaby

Op should receive sense

Your friend is right. You should make out time for her, no matter how short the duration is.

And if you're going to be too busy, nothing stops you from notifying her. A simple text will do the magic.

When ittiz time for you people to woo now, you'll know how to frustrate someone with incessant calls and messages. Abeg, shift.

Lalas247:
Case of another jobless chic pele

Dump her and move on you are clearly not ready ... neither of you are
Cause if you really wanna make time you can .. but your career won't let you so focus on that till you make enough to start dating simple...

Lol, funny reasoning
So you feel I don't make enough to have time to for my girlfriend

And you actually think that there is a direct correlation with how much you make to how much *time* you have for dating
It's not about the money, my dearie, it's about the type of Job, job description.
My job is very engaging, doesn't mean I am paid peanuts
Believe me, I have seen busy men who are getting paid in millions, nd the don't even have time for their wives, you'll not understand, Madame there are different types of Jobs ooo
Just say you're not used to such jobs, your job is probably flexible

tosyne2much:
And when you break up with her and focus on your career, you will return back to her when you slay girls ruin your finances and then you go begging for come back when she's already married with kids

Oniranu ni eee

LMAO,
Slayers can never see me ooo, my girlfriend is turning into a slay queen, that's amongst the reason I wanna leave her.
I pay my tithe monthly, nd one of my prayer requests is not just for open Windows of blessings, I also pray for protection against slay queens and mamas.

But my girlfriend is a nice girl, I love her though, but Mehn, my work is more important "honestly"

Yes too.much time for her is joblessness

You really dont know the value of time and money until you start working. Someone who has never worked a day in their life can never relate. I understand you OP. Your life and your future comes first.

Why won't she complain
You don't give her money, you don't give her time
She's loosing at both end...
You can take her out on Sunday (if you don't go to work)
Even if you're so busy, Text msg ain't bad....
It's hard, but pls try.

Blackhawk01:
Your friend is right. You should make out time for her, no matter how short the duration is.

And if you're going to be too busy, nothing stops you from notifying her. A simple text will do the magic.

When ittiz time for you people to woo now, you'll know how to frustrate someone with incessant calls and messages. Abeg, shift.

Hey, no need for curses on this thread.

And now, for how long will I keep sending this type of text.
My work is Monday-Sunday, including most HOILDAYS, though it's on a shift bases.

And I can never remember frustrating any girl with incessant calls, Infact I have a history of girls, even family members saying "I don't call, I don't care"

I'm not just built like that, especially now I'm stressed out from work.
Recently, there are times when I am a bit free, I call her to come over, she will be like you're not always available when I need you, so me I'm also busy,
Like wtf, it's now a competition.

Kowalskiq:


LMAO,
Slayers can never see me ooo, my girlfriend is turning into a slay queen, that's amongst the reason I wanna leave her.
I pay my tithe monthly, nd one of my prayer requests is not just for open Windows of blessings, I also pray for protection against slay queens and mamas.

But my girlfriend is a nice girl, I love her though, but Mehn, my work is more important "honestly"

But now that she's evolving into a slay queen, no be make you borrow legs grab race?

Problem about we guys.
when we are looking for something we can promise heaven and earth. Once we get it, we start to they form.
Be grateful she seeking/asking for your time.
Many babes full here(Lagos) wey no dey send guys at all no mata how much you spend/care about them.
Which stupiid career you they build in this 21st century wey be say na la cram la pour wey know/sabi.
After building the career and making much money na people like you they mistakenly fall for wrong hand.
Wey go collect saturday from you and give you sunday.

If you can't balance your love life and your working life, then you have no business dating.

Women love care and attention, if you can't provide it, she will cheat on you or dump you.

Bye.

Kowalskiq:

Hey, no need for curses on this thread.

And now, for how long will I keep sending this type of text.
My work is Monday-Sunday, including most HOILDAYS, though it's on a shift bases.

And I can never remember frustrating any girl with incessant calls, Infact I have a history of girls, even family members saying "I don't call, I don't care"

I'm not just built like that, especially now I'm stressed out from work.
Recently, there are times when I am a bit free, I call her to come over, she will be like you're not always available when I need you, so me I'm also busy,
Like wtf, it's now a competition.

Don't remember cursing and if I did, sorry.

There's no point making you see reasons anymore because from one of your posts, you're harbouring the thought of leaving her already. Just let her know as soon as possible.

Kowalskiq:

Lol, funny reasoning
So you feel I don't make enough to have time to for my girlfriend

And you actually think that there is a direct correlation with how much you make to how much *time* you have for dating
It's not about the money, my dearie, it's about the type of Job, job description.
My job is very engaging, doesn't mean I am paid peanuts
Believe me, I have seen busy men who are getting paid in millions, nd the don't even have time for their wives, you'll not understand, Madame there are different types of Jobs ooo
Just say you're not used to such jobs, your job is probably flexible


LMAO,
Slayers can never see me ooo, my girlfriend is turning into a slay queen, that's amongst the reason I wanna leave her.
I pay my tithe monthly, nd one of my prayer requests is not just for open Windows of blessings, I also pray for protection against slay queens and mamas.

But my girlfriend is a nice girl, I love her though, but Mehn, my work is more important "honestly"

If you don't hear , you will feel it
I don wash my hand comot... do as u please don't come running back

No be u talk say 'she complains of money you are stingy' so maybe if you had the funds she will keep mute since she doesn't work ...
Cause she if did she too won't have time everybody's happy

tosyne2much:
But now that she's evolving into a slay queen, no be make you borrow legs grab race?

Padi mi, I don start with jogging, na small small.
I do warm up nd press up last week

Lalas247:

If you don't hear , you will feel it
I don wash my hand comot... do as u please don't come running back

No be u talk say 'she complains of money you are stingy' so maybe if you had the funds she will keep mute since she doesn't work ...
Cause she if did she too won't have time everybody's happy

She works, but her job is not like my own.
And I said she complained I was becoming stingy WHEN I JUST FINISHED SCHOOL AND WAS WAITING FOR MY NYSC.
This was a long time ago, NOT NOW.
Don't get me wrong, even now I don't regard myself as being rich, I have seen men with money, real wealth, I am still a BEGINNER, but I'm not also doing bad.

Now, she is not complaining about Money, it's about TIME, saying I don't have her time, I don't listen to her, all those una Zee world inspired talks

a bird in hand is worth more than 10k in d bush, we never know the importance of a breath until you loose it, now that she has the whole tym for u, you are not appreciating it, i pray you wont come back to nairaland one day with topic like ROMANCELANDERS PLEASE HELP, MY BEST FRIEND IS SLEEPING WITH MY GIRL..!

Divay22:
Why won't she complain
You don't give her money, you don't give her time
She's loosing at both end...
You can take her out on Sunday (if you don't go to work)
Even if you're so busy, Text msg ain't bad....
It's hard, but pls try.

I give her money "reasonably".
We are not married
I'm not her sponsor or father

I have my own immediate family, nd the always come first in my life, at least for now

She is not complaining about money, she is lamenting that I don't care about her, I don't call her, all those touching stories

Kowalskiq:

She works, but her job is not like my own.
And I said she complained I was becoming stingy WHEN I JUST FINISHED SCHOOL AND WAS WAITING FOR MY NYSC.
This was a long time ago, NOT NOW.
Don't get me wrong, even now I don't regard myself as being rich, I have seen men with money, real wealth, I am still a BEGINNER, but I'm not also doing bad.

Now, she is not complaining about Money, it's about TIME, saying I don't have her time, I don't listen to her, all those una Zee world inspired talks

Who be una .. no confuse me with ur bae nansense

So maybe you don't love her like you think you do .. do the needful you may still end up back together if it's meant to be but career first

Rorachy:
If you can't balance your love life and your working life, then you have no business dating.

Women love care and attention, if you can't provide it, she will cheat on you or dump you.

Bye.

I think you're right about that in a way.
But even armed robbers still get women who love them.
Me, I am supposed to also get a lady who can love me like this, I'm.

I don't really know what you mean by Care and attention.
I don't want to share this detail, it's looks childish nd unnecessary, but for the sake of this conversation, I will.

Few months ago she did her birthday, it was on a Tuesday, on a freaking working day.

I told her to shift the celebration to at least Sunday afternoon, so I can be available, she refused, she said she must celebrate her birthday the day she was born that I should make out time for her special day
As if my Workplace understands what special days are

Now, the activities for her birthday included going to studio to take pictures, going for boat ride , going to cinema with her friends and family, then final celebration in her family house
And I was meant to be available nd involved in all this, Kilode naa
How possible, I even told her cinemas are not really fun on weekdays, she refused.
What I did was to send her 40K, nd I jejely dey my work, work finish I go home, go sleep.
She said I am wicked, that I abandoned her

I thought she will vex and send me back the 40K, but she didn't

Lalas247:

Who be una .. no confuse me with ur bae nansense

So maybe you don't love her like you think you do .. do the needful you may still end up back together if it's meant to be but career first

I love her.
Not that I love my job so much, but that's what gives me a sense of belonging and also part of my source of income.. So I don't joke with it

Kowalskiq:


I think you're right about that in a way.
But even armed robbers still get women who love them.
Me, I am supposed to also get a lady who can love me like this, I'm.

I don't really know what you mean by Care and attention.
I don't want to share this detail, it's looks childish nd unnecessary, but for the sake of this conversation, I will.

Few months ago she did her birthday, it was on a Tuesday, on a freaking working day.

I told her to shift the celebration to at least Sunday afternoon, so I can be available, she refused, she said she must celebrate her birthday the day she was born that I should make out time for her special day
As if my Workplace understands what special days are

Now, the activities for her birthday included going to studio to take pictures, going for boat ride , going to cinema with her friends and family, then final celebration in her family house
And I was meant to be available nd involved in all this, Kilode naa
How possible, I even told her cinemas are not really fun on weekdays, she refused.
What I did was to send her 40K, nd I jejely dey my work, work finish I go home, go sleep.
She said I am wicked, that I abandoned her

I thought she will vex and send me back the 40K, but she didn't

Your presence on her birthday would have meant a lot to her, little things matters, it's not all about money.

Nedfed:
Problem about we guys.
when we are looking for something we can promise heaven and earth. Once we get it, we start to they form.
Be grateful she seeking/asking for your time.
Many babes full here(Lagos) wey no dey send guys at all no mata how much you spend/care about them.
Which stupiid career you they build in this 21st century wey be say na la cram la pour wey know/sabi.
After building the career and making much money na people like you they mistakenly fall for wrong hand.
Wey go collect saturday from you and give you sunday.

Speak for yourself
La cram La pour doesn't apply to my Course of study nd to me.
And don't call my career stupid

Having a good job is a better achievement to me and my family, than having a girlfriend!!!
Different priorities Sir!!!

You can't decide what's more important for me.

I'm not so young, I have had experiences with Lagos babes, I'm from Lagos, born and bought up

Ogbeni relax jor!!

For this harsh Economy, she want make I play with my Job