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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by jclassiq(m): 9:27pm On Sep 14, 2017
soberdrunk:
My dear i am going to be blunt and honest with you, dont listen to all these 'aunty feminists' screaming 'give him deadline', that is what put you in this situation in the first place because no man likes to be pressured to do anything, especially 'marriage'. '6 years' is a long time to throw away and it is obvious you truly love him so read the following tips very carefully and follow them if you want to marry this year. Normally i will have charged you one crate of gulder for advice but am feeling generous----


1) kill the topic--- Dont mention anything about marriage again, dont even think of giving him deadline beacause even if it works it might still come up later in the marriage how you pressured him into marriage and whenever you guys have issues you will always hear it.

2)Operation become unavailable!!-- It is no secret that absence makes the heart grow fonder so you have to reduce the time you spend with him, let him crave you more. Let him realize how much he needs you, it is not everytime he dials ur number you will deliver like dominos pizza

3)Competition---- It is time you create competition whether 'imaginary' or 'real', show him that your 'market is selling' and that he has to fight to keep you. We men tend to take women for granted when we realize that there is no competition. Let him no there are options and he is expendable.

4) Go spiritual--- whatever way you worship, you need to talk to the higher force about it


If you do all these any he doesnt marry you in the next 6months-1 year then there is more to the situation than the ordinary eyes can see.... angry

Definitely not when she is steady fornicating, or is it?
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by otitokoroleti: 9:28pm On Sep 14, 2017
Truepee:
Start Calling HolyGhost..
yinmu
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by 400billionman: 9:29pm On Sep 14, 2017
LordKO:


Unassumingness is sexy but pretense isn't. Literally,there's nothing like desperation about her thought process. She's just being factual.

@OP

Be bold to tell your BF that you in particular aren't getting any younger and that you long to marry sooner rather than later, therefore, ask him where your relationship with him is heading to. If he indicates interest to marry you, demand for an exact time frame from him when he intend to make that happen. If the time frame he will give you is OK for you you stay put with him and plan together for the marriage, while in the event that he fails to keep to his promise at the agreed time frame, you walkout of his life honorably.




They broke up and stayed apart for one year and the guy later came back.

The question is what did he come back to do ? Is it to start dating again or get married ?

He is not ready. Ur style can't get him do jack.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Nobody: 9:32pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
Six years and you are still waiting? Oh darling!! Sorry to tell it to you plainly but he's not going to see your parents. Not now, not anytime! He's not interested in making you his wife. He just doesn't want to tell you straight off for obvious reasons. Run, sweetheart run!!
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by LordKO(m): 9:41pm On Sep 14, 2017
400billionman:


They broke up and stayed apart for one year and the guy later came back.

The question is what did he come back to do ? Is it to start dating again or get married ?

He is not ready. Ur style can't get him do jack.

LOL. Don't worry they came back together to form a music group. Come on! They continued where they stopped before, therefore, it's only humane for them to define their long term wish for each other before another wasteful six years will occur.

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by dopemama(f): 9:47pm On Sep 14, 2017
soberdrunk:
My dear i am going to be blunt and honest with you, dont listen to all these 'aunty feminists' screaming 'give him deadline', that is what put you in this situation in the first place because no man likes to be pressured to do anything, especially 'marriage'. '6 years' is a long time to throw away and it is obvious you truly love him so read the following tips very carefully and follow them if you want to marry this year. Normally i will have charged you one crate of gulder for advice but am feeling generous----


1) kill the topic--- Dont mention anything about marriage again, dont even think of giving him deadline beacause even if it works it might still come up later in the marriage how you pressured him into marriage and whenever you guys have issues you will always hear it.

2)Operation become unavailable!!-- It is no secret that absence makes the heart grow fonder so you have to reduce the time you spend with him, let him crave you more. Let him realize how much he needs you, it is not everytime he dials ur number you will deliver like dominos pizza

3)Competition---- It is time you create competition whether 'imaginary' or 'real', show him that your 'market is selling' and that he has to fight to keep you. We men tend to take women for granted when we realize that there is no competition. Let him no there are options and he is expendable.

4) Go spiritual--- whatever way you worship, you need to talk to the higher force about it


If you do all these any he doesnt marry you in the next 6months-1 year then there is more to the situation than the ordinary eyes can see.... angry
ur head dey Dere joor
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by mumexcellency: 9:48pm On Sep 14, 2017
Ok. He came back begging after a year to start afresh and within that one year you didnt find another man. My dear no dulling, keep him hanging there and give someone else a chance. Untill you are married you are still single. Anyone that proposes first is your husband. Chikena.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Babyurgly1(f): 10:02pm On Sep 14, 2017
Just five steps
1. Rush to the market
2. Buy a rope
3. Tie it round his neck
4. Drag him to ur house
5. Force him to do the knocking.
C'est plus simple.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by dalass(f): 10:05pm On Sep 14, 2017
Get the book or the movie of Steve Harvey... Act like a lady, think like a man. . Read watch, apply and smile to the altar.. But pray very well too
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Chidinmaluv22(f): 10:06pm On Sep 14, 2017
he is simply needs a sweet 16

don't be surprise when he will bring his wedding card.... he tried a year relationship it didn't work that's why he bounce back to you. and accepted him back
he will still leave you when he meets another sweet 16 ..better give another matured guy chance

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by birdsview(m): 10:06pm On Sep 14, 2017
6years That's enough time to get married and be done with child bearing...wake up sis...wake up....how many times did I tell u? Walks away
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by ayamprecious: 10:06pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
@KingRex1: he actually already met my parents on "casual" occasions.The problem is that he never came "officialy" with his own family.

@eezeribe: he never proposed "movie like" for sure but when he talks about us starting a family all the time, makes plans about our future life together...He actually wan'ts a child and I told him to marry me before.

@ariyebaba: maybe i'm not marriage material. if that's the case, I would really want to know why because I think I've done everything a young lady is supposed to do to fit the "good catch" category
About that "buying the cow..." if you're talking about intimacy, I don't think that's the problem. 99% of my married GF had sex with their husbands before and still got married.

maybe he's just not that into me after a cryll


WHAT IS GOD PLAN FOR YOU CONCERNING MARRIAGE, I CAN BET THAT YOU HAVE NEVER ASKED GOD, INASMUCH AS THE ADVICES GIVEN ARE GOOD N LOOK NICE, SIMPLY GO BACK TO GOD, IT Z NEVER A WASTE OF TIME


humanly speaking, the guy z scared of something about you, check yourself, maybe attitude u will put on after wedding, or he wants to use u for ritual n doesn't want your parents tracing him hence he z scared To come grin
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by thunderbabs: 10:08pm On Sep 14, 2017
All these girls wdnt just let a man ve peace. Ahaaahaaa

Marriage talks- morning and night like its a dose you mustn't miss
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Toks2008(m): 10:22pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided

Tell him you are ready for a low key wedding...he just might be scared of elaborate wedding ceremony.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Halo22: 10:25pm On Sep 14, 2017
My dear..... it z not easy to settle down nowadays even at 40. Am a man and i know whatsup. He may be planning for a great marriage plan in terms of wedding and may be TM, but you need to convince him that it is not about those jamboree but your future after marriage. Sit him down and make plans towards it. Promise to support him and later stand completely by him. Am sure he will think like a man e
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Nobody: 10:27pm On Sep 14, 2017
Babyurgly1:
Just five steps
1. Rush to the market
2. Buy a rope
3. Tie it round his neck
4. Drag him to ur house
5. Force him to do the knocking.
C'est plus simple.

This made me giggle.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Orpe7(m): 10:33pm On Sep 14, 2017
Na untill him slack ur tootoo come go find another smallie ur eye go clear abi
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by MrsAnyanwu(f): 10:46pm On Sep 14, 2017
When you give benefits meant for marriage to a man that isn't your husband, he would drag his feet for marriage, this is the honest truth, I don't know what you are still doing with someone of 6 years and he hasn't even seen your parents, time is of essence ,except he isn't ready financially, physically, emotionally etc
PS: let go and let God

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by joyandfaith: 10:51pm On Sep 14, 2017
you are just friend. he is not ready for you.

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by attention007(m): 10:54pm On Sep 14, 2017
KingRex1:
Invite your parents over, invite him too.. Start from there

Love this!
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Mypeople2(m): 10:59pm On Sep 14, 2017
Florblu:
There is no point pushing him.If he is not ready to meet your parent for no reason after all this years ,Babe please take a walk,
Isn't it obvious you've been dating yourself all this while?
ooo babe, you harsh o
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by arnold123: 11:10pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
confront him, ask him to stop banging your kakus and do what's right, in other words ask him to stop thinking with his dicck and stand on his toes cos you will not be taken for granted by anyone lol
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by SURElee(f): 11:11pm On Sep 14, 2017
Six years and a guy hasn't made the move? Did you notice he left and came back to meet you where he left you? It's because he now sees you as a local drug store where he can go get medications for malaria and blah blah and only return after six months when he needs another drug for cold or headache or typhoid. Chemist/drug store no dey change address.

Biko, let him define your friendship abi na relationship, all these long relationship all for nothing no dey sweet me for belle. He shouldn't waste your time dearie.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by InvertedHammer: 11:18pm On Sep 14, 2017
yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met smiley

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ?? undecided
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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by davillian(m): 11:19pm On Sep 14, 2017
He doesn't want to settle down he still has time but you don't.
Get bele grin things will happen quick.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by ceejay80s(m): 11:34pm On Sep 14, 2017
Nazeren:


You are silly. Which identity are you changing? I'm just teaching how to mind your biz cos for outside na slap you go collect.
u must be stupid for calling me silly
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by kobijacobs(m): 11:45pm On Sep 14, 2017
6years? that is almost two terms in politics, yet nothing has happened. Imagine APC ruling for that long and they havnt done anytin, Nigeria for don scatter....sister ur bf is more ruthless than APC

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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by princessayesha(f): 11:46pm On Sep 14, 2017
What is this love that people keep talking about sef? mtsw. Abeg mek I go find Kanu first.
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by princessayesha(f): 11:49pm On Sep 14, 2017
Florblu:
There is no point pushing him.If he is not ready to meet your parent for no reason after all this years ,Babe please take a walk,
Isn't it obvious you've been dating yourself all this while?
Bitter Truth smiley
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Shinapraise(m): 12:56am On Sep 15, 2017
I have been in your shoe before so I know how it feels but on my own issue the lady and I broke up due to her secret details of hiding behind the curtains I will advice you to talk to him give him ultimatum that if he did not come at so so time you will leave the relationship if he likes you he will do the needful but if he doesn't then he is a Casanova so I will advice you to take heed and move out if the relationship as quickly as your feet can carry you
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by crackhouse(m): 1:37am On Sep 15, 2017
Tell him u have a surprise for him and close his eyes with a scarf then drive him straight to ur village and open the eyes in front of ur parents, Maybe he will say sth afterwards.

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