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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by ConcernedNL: 2:07am On Sep 15, 2017 |
yasmina85: He doesn't want to marry. What's the point when he has enjoyed every possible benefit of marriage with you. This is what might happen. You guys will break up and he will find a new girl he will marry within a short while cos she still get him excited. Your relationship probably came back cos he missed the free sex. You can't force a man. Everything a man does is calculated, nothing unintentional. If you force him you will regret it. Give him a time frame in your mind, after that start looking for another man. And don't allow yourself to be used, also don't give him too much info about your previous relationship (how you smashed, belittle why you broke up, baby abortion). |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Nobody: 2:30am On Sep 15, 2017 |
For 6 years, ur guy don dey enter door wen suppose be for married people, what is he going to knock again The door is already wide open. You may hv even missed ur Mr. Right clinging on to Mr. Wrong. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by akino(m): 3:53am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Hello, The last comment sums it all. Heed to the advice and see the result. When a lady provides all the comfort a man needs and the man does not reciprocate and ask for marriage after 3years,something is wrong. Except when the man has challenge with getting employment or finance issue. We can manage this together if you give me opportunity as relationship expert. Mail me on Akindeledaodu@gmail.com. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Diso60090(m): 5:13am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Who parents epp as far you muderfuckers are happy no level enjoyaself |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Sirwoo(m): 5:37am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Mehn 6 years is a long time, as a guy wen we c anoda guy hovering around our woman we feel threatened, I think providing competition weda real or fake is necessary, plus time is no longer on ur side let him know that other suitors are coming |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Derushah(f): 6:26am On Sep 15, 2017 |
soberdrunk: Best comment / advice ever. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Roseey0(f): 6:36am On Sep 15, 2017 |
soberdrunk:Said it all But you see that number 2 That's the most important But you hv to do it intelligently Don't mk it seem like you aren't interested in him anymore. You can communicate regularly but don't go physical with him for a while. Stay away. You give too much of yourself. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by GAZZUZZ(m): 6:50am On Sep 15, 2017 |
ariyebaba: sums it all up. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by mufex(m): 7:01am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Some guys get mind. 6 years and both of you are in your thirties. ..when I proposed to my wife after three months of knowing her and it is my best and greatest decision in my entire life. Your boyfriend loves you and cares for you. But you haven't given him the reason to propose or take a step in the relationship. If you don't stir up in his curiosity when happens if i lose his lady in his thoughts he will never propose. Be brave. Pray and ask God for direction and follow your inner voice. ...or follow the easiest route, "Get pregnant for him." |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by momohsteve(m): 7:11am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Me wey I dey force to know my woman parents for like 4months wey we don dey date nko? She dey tell me the time is not near. I don know her for like two years as our love life together dey 4 months I wan quick do intro before she go service cos those useless guys for camp or for PPA fit brain wash her. I trust her sha but I no trust my fellow men. We know how to suck orange,eat the kanda come trowey the body. Any man wey near my woman nah God go do am strong thing as I never for once double date for my life. So help Lord,amen. Back to the topic, sis, don't force him cause if you do he would definitely put the blame on you as the rash talks might weigh you down to thinking that he's right. How can one date for that and still be saying he's not ready? After all he has all the necessary tools to make it work. You need to start putting him in prayers and stop giving him all that he needs from you if he can't give you what you need too. Learn from other people's stories and not yours cause if you do, had I know will make your heart heart broken. God will see you through my sis. It is well. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by KingsleyCEO: 7:20am On Sep 15, 2017 |
yasmina85: The reason could be the fee attached to the door knocking process, my Igbo guys knows better. Then another thing is he may be scared of the responsibility ahead, if so you can link him up with somebody who is there already for some advice. You can also come out plain to inquire if there is something he is hiding, like his family not in approval of your relationship and he doesn't want to really let go. But he can't keep you as his girlfriend forever. Just reason with him. Best of luck dear. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Nobody: 7:39am On Sep 15, 2017 |
@yasmina85 ,My orientation changed when I watched single ladies, that gave me the motivation I needed to leave my ex who I dated for five years.Op to tell you the truth, he didn't even wait for me to shut the door behind me before entering into another relationship. A man doesn't need a decade to consult his ancestors weither he should marry or not, I was lucky, that is how I would have turned 30 and be waiting. Don't be shocked if he meets another lady and proposes after 4 months. And by the way, just like you, I broke up with my ex and got back with him after 8 months, but that didn't change anything,i ended up wasting another two years making it 5 years. So my dear, be wise, you stand to loose should the relationship go south again. He can marry at 60 but that will not be feasible for you, so as far as this issue is concerned, be self centered and put your first |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by shineeye1: 7:53am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Deny man the main benefits of marriage before marriage and he would go scrambling for woman thru marriage at all cost. But when these benefits abound outside marriage , men may as well take their time and absolute convenience to do the needful -- if at all they will. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by mecussey(m): 8:04am On Sep 15, 2017 |
yasmina85: Just start making babies for him, get pregnant and tell him to come and see your parents. To make move for marriage is so scary to an average guy. Is so scary like getting pregnant and giving birth out of wedlock. One of you must take the risk, you either get pregnant for him and allow him to decide if you are gonna be the wife or mother of his children. I advise you not to force yourself to him. Marriage no be childs play ooo, just make up your mind that u want to have a child for him and start acting like you gonna take care of the baby alone. If you cant dare try this, then take a walk. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by paule: 8:42am On Sep 15, 2017 |
soberdrunk: Spot on, nothing to add. This is epic. Please do these things & do them now |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Vincad: 8:44am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Billyonaire: In this era of babymamas that is the worst advice you can give her. It doesn't matter how many kids she has for him, if he does not want to get married she'll only be his babymama. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by jobbers: 8:49am On Sep 15, 2017 |
he's not ready |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by OMEGA009(m): 9:18am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Your BF be like ....... Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free??
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Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by tosyne2much(m): 10:01am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Chukazu:Nawa 4u oooo |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by yasmina85: 10:10am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Thanks to all of you for taking time to answer. Reading all the comments helped me a lot. Of course they are 2 sides to a story and he obviously has his reasons but he never complained about anything so I don't know. Now to sum up what you guys brought up, it could be: 1- religion/tribe issues: we are from different backgrounds but my family is mixed (Muslim Nigerian father, Christian Ivorian mother) We are 4 siblings and my brother and 2 sisters are all married to people from very different cultures, religions even skin colors and it’s 100% fine. So I told him that I would be fine practicing Christian faith and raising children in that faith. I met his sisters and they're all rooting for me so I don't think that's the problem 2- Not wife material: this one is really difficult since I can't tell exactly what it means. It's probably different from one man to another anyway But I'm educated, independent, hardworking and God fearing. I'm respectful and pretty much submissive. We really get along, make each other laugh and are best friends. That's what we were in college for a long time before dating. 3- No incentive: that's probably one of the biggest problems. I didn't pressure him when I needed to, when the relationship was still "fresh" and when he was still excited about me. I was too shy and wanted it to come from him. Now we've been together too long so he probably doesn't feel the passion anymore. And yay, you're right, he will probably marry the next one within a year It happened to one of my GF. BTW, she had a baby for this guy she dated for years. He had an excuse (no job) for the most part but he eventually got the job and kept dragging his feet. She got pregnant and he went on to marry a younger girl after few months of knowing her. Now my GF is married and had another baby but things could have turned really ugly for her so no, I won't get pregnant to trap him 4- Commitment issues: Now that I think about it, he probably has an issue. For the past 5 years, he has been talking about buying a place. He has the means, the time and opportunity but can't bring himself to do it. I think he wants to live like a teenager, free and burden less. 5- Not into me: it boils down to that. He loves me, I know he does but not enough or not in the way he dreams of loving his wife. Maybe I'm his best friend with benefit and he wants the thrill and passion and just doesn't picture me as his wife. So thanks to all of you for validating my feelings, I needed that to be more confident in my decision. As someone said, it's very difficult to throw 6 years in the bin but it's for the best. It’s time for me to move on. I still have decent suitors. I don't want to play games (try to make him jealous) or cheat so I'll break up and move on. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Sectis(m): 10:21am On Sep 15, 2017 |
Since u affirm sexual intimacy and he is waiting 4 u to take in, u must v committed several abortion 4 him and now he doubt if u can ever take in again. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Amigos12(m): 11:01am On Sep 15, 2017 |
yasmina85:That's the best decision to take.May God guide u... |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Analee(f): 11:04am On Sep 15, 2017 |
yasmina85:d best advice is nothin else dan goin on u knees call God,locate a powerful man of God eg OPM,mfm dat wil break dat yoke,if u use force my sister na one chance b dat ooo,js allow God to do his wok,DNT FORCE HIM. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by Nobody: 11:56am On Sep 15, 2017 |
yasmina85:I hope you will stick with your decision; you've been reluctant to let go of him b/c you've been dating for 6 years. That you've been dating for 6 years doesn't mean he's your God-ordained man. Like someone said up there, you can miss out on Mr. Right while being with Mr. Wrong. Don't wait around for this nigguh any longer. Live your life and find someone else who's on the same page with you. |
Re: How Can I Get My Man To Do The "Door Knocking"? by CioAngels(f): 7:24pm On Sep 15, 2017 |
You better lose him now that you are in your early 30s and free yourself to start again. Taking your parents to him will mean begging him to marry you and it will always be a reference point from him. He could have somebody he is grooming in your stead, just thinking. Why not seriously stay away from him for awhile. Make sure pregnancy wont be reason to marry you. please fine the courage to move on. |
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