mediocre:
There's this very good friend of mine, I don't think its fair to call him a bad boy but lets just say his relationships never end well and he ends up leaving the girl messed up and hurt. His love life is like a never ending unhappy cycle, in the beginning he's all optimistic, enthusiastic and convinced that he has met THE ONE. Weeks, or months (if he really likes the girl) into the relationship, he starts to lose interest, he starts to notice her flaws and magnify them, suddenly he can't make him happy anymore, the urge to explore other options overwhelm him and he gives in. He starts cheating on her, couldn't be bothered if she found out, eventually she does, they break up, he finds another girl aka THE ONE and its the same old shite all over again.


The problem now is, he has eyes for my cousin and unfortunately she's also into him like crazy. Of course he thinks he's in love and he has found THE ONE, and he'll never hurt her cos she's different. Truth is, those are just empty words, he might think he means them but he doesn't and that's his default line whenever he finds a new girl, maybe I'll feel more comfortable if he used another line


Anyway yesterday my cousin told me he asked her out and she asked me if I thought he was a good guy, and I said an emphatic yes. Just after I did that I started feeling bad, but really it's not in my place to decide that someone is not a good person, it's not like I'm any better, maybe I should've stylishly evaded the question.

And even if, because we're family, i choose to tell her about his track record with girls, there's a very good chance that she won't listen to me and date him anyway. She's not the type that listens to advice and when she sets her mind on something it's hard to talk her out of it.


So if i tell her and she doesn't listen, she snitches on me and I lose a friend, something like this has happened before and that shït wasn't pretty . If I don't tell her, he breaks her heart and I end up feeling like crap. Damned if I do, damned if i don't.

Should I hold my peace and watch her make this mistake or snitch on my guy.

IamKashyBaby:



Here's what u got to do:

STAY OUT OF THEIR BIZNAAZ & STAY IN UR LANE

But if the shii is goin down, juz guide ur cousin..

mediocre:
There's this very good friend of mine, I don't think its fair to call him a bad boy but lets just say his relationships never end well and he ends up leaving the girl messed up and hurt. His love life is like a never ending unhappy cycle, in the beginning he's all optimistic, enthusiastic and convinced that he has met THE ONE. Weeks, or months (if he really likes the girl) into the relationship, he starts to lose interest, he starts to notice her flaws and magnify them, suddenly he can't make him happy anymore, the urge to explore other options overwhelm him and he gives in. He starts cheating on her, couldn't be bothered if she found out, eventually she does, they break up, he finds another girl aka THE ONE and its the same old shite all over again.


The problem now is, he has eyes for my cousin and unfortunately she's also into him like crazy. Of course he thinks he's in love and he has found THE ONE, and he'll never hurt her cos she's different. Truth is, those are just empty words, he might think he means them but he doesn't and that's his default line whenever he finds a new girl, maybe I'll feel more comfortable if he used another line


Anyway yesterday my cousin told me he asked her out and she asked me if I thought he was a good guy, and I said an emphatic yes. Just after I did that I started feeling bad, but really it's not in my place to decide that someone is not a good person, it's not like I'm any better, maybe I should've stylishly evaded the question.

And even if, because we're family, i choose to tell her about his track record with girls, there's a very good chance that she won't listen to me and date him anyway. She's not the type that listens to advice and when she sets her mind on something it's hard to talk her out of it.


So if i tell her and she doesn't listen, she snitches on me and I lose a friend, something like this has happened before and that shït wasn't pretty . If I don't tell her, he breaks her heart and I end up feeling like crap. Damned if I do, damned if i don't.

Should I hold my peace and watch her make this mistake or snitch on my guy.

IamLEGEND1:
Let your cousin proceed to date the guy.
It's not like she is stupid and can't find out about his track record with women from other sources if wanted to.

Sometimes you need to let a child get burned to teach him about the dangers of playing with fire. I'm sure she's not a child but you get my point.
They'll date, he'll leave her fucked_up, emotionally scarred and twisted on the inside...... Then she'll learn her lesson not to jump into relationships with just anything that shows an interest in her.

But what do I know? Maybe it'll work out and they'll live happily ever after.... Stranger things have happened.

IamLEGEND1:
Let your cousin proceed to date the guy.
It's not like she is stupid and can't find out about his track record with women from other sources if wanted to.

Sometimes you need to let a child get burned to teach him about the dangers of playing with fire. I'm sure she's not a child but you get my point.
They'll date, he'll leave her fucked_up, emotionally scarred and twisted on the inside...... Then she'll learn her lesson not to jump into relationships with just anything that shows an interest in her.

But what do I know? Maybe it'll work out and they'll live happily ever after.... Stranger things have happened.

XendersPride:
Hmmm

mediocre:
Lol. Last paragraph is very unlikely

And even if, because we're family, i choose to tell her about his track record with girls, there's a very good chance that she won't listen to me and date him anyway. She's not the type that listens to advice and when she sets her mind on something it's hard to talk her out of it.


So if i tell her and she doesn't listen.

makydebbie:
OP I'm more concerned on how many mentions you get a day with your moniker.


I think you should let her be because you said this. And she's in love already.



Bro, experience is the best teacher. Now back to the question.

Lalas247:
If she was your sister what would you do ?

That's you ans

Sips tea .....

mediocre:
30 give or take , and I usually don't come here everyday. Imagine my frustration when I login, after a three day break, to see 150-something mentions

Lalas247:
If she was your sister what would you do ?

That's you ans

Sips tea .....

makydebbie:
I can imagine that alone from the literature section. I'm sure I've given you some myself. Pele.

mediocre:
Nawa oo. There's no consensus, wetin mans go do. Maybe we should conduct a poll

iamDaisy:
kikikiki minding my business mode activated.

mediocre:
There's this very good friend of mine, I don't think its fair to call him a bad boy but lets just say his relationships never end well and he ends up leaving the girl messed up and hurt. His love life is like a never ending unhappy cycle, in the beginning he's all optimistic, enthusiastic and convinced that he has met THE ONE. Weeks, or months (if he really likes the girl) into the relationship, he starts to lose interest, he starts to notice her flaws and magnify them, suddenly he can't make him happy anymore, the urge to explore other options overwhelm him and he gives in. He starts cheating on her, couldn't be bothered if she found out, eventually she does, they break up, he finds another girl aka THE ONE and its the same old shite all over again.


The problem now is, he has eyes for my cousin and unfortunately she's also into him like crazy. Of course he thinks he's in love and he has found THE ONE, and he'll never hurt her cos she's different. Truth is, those are just empty words, he might think he means them but he doesn't and that's his default line whenever he finds a new girl, maybe I'll feel more comfortable if he used another line


Anyway yesterday my cousin told me he asked her out and she asked me if I thought he was a good guy, and I said an emphatic yes. Just after I did that I started feeling bad, but really it's not in my place to decide that someone is not a good person, it's not like I'm any better, maybe I should've stylishly evaded the question.

And even if, because we're family, i choose to tell her about his track record with girls, there's a very good chance that she won't listen to me and date him anyway. She's not the type that listens to advice and when she sets her mind on something it's hard to talk her out of it.


So if i tell her and she doesn't listen, she snitches on me and I lose a friend, something like this has happened before and that shït wasn't pretty . If I don't tell her, he breaks her heart and I end up feeling like crap. Damned if I do, damned if i don't.

Should I hold my peace and watch her make this mistake or snitch on my guy.

scooby12:


Makky!

makydebbie:
What's up?

scooby12:


Nothing much..what's up with you?

makydebbie:
Kinda busy, tomorrow is my nephew's one year birthday celebration so we kinda busy at home.

scooby12:


Oh oki. Happy birthday to your nephew

IamKashyBaby:



Here's what u got to do:

STAY OUT OF THEIR BIZNAAZ & STAY IN UR LANE

But if the shii is goin down, juz guide ur cousin..

LoRdCaT:
Are you confused? First you said "stay out of their business", then you say "guide your cousin". How is he supposed to guide her if he stays out of her business? Nairalanders be getting you more confused than you initially were *rolls eyes*

IamKashyBaby:



No..u are the one who is confused ..keep rolling ur big eyes..nobody gives AF about those eyes..

My msg is very simple..if u cant get it, its because ur hungry.