5 truths you *have* to accept if you’re going to be friends with an ex Warner Bros. And now for the touchy topic of the day: being friends with your ex. Some people are of the belief that this arrangement is impossible, asking for trouble, or both.

Like, why on Earth would anyone want to become pals with a person they used to be intimately involved with?
A 2016 study found that people who make friends out of an ex have various motives, like staying close in the hopes of resuming a romantic relationship, hanging around to get revenge on their exes (#savage), or simply because they started off as friends and genuinely value that bond. Regardless of whether your former lovers fall in the friend or foe category, we’re all adults here — we get to choose who belongs in our inner circle, even if it includes someone from our romantic past.

Above all else, don’t go into the situation uninformed or ill-prepared. You’re not obligated to hate your ex, but there are some undeniable truths you *have* to accept if you’re going to be friends.

1 Becoming friends with an ex is a process.

2 They may be mum about their current love life

At least for a while! Again, if you and your ex are going to be friends, there’s no need to rush the situation. One day, both of you may feel comfortable enough to start swapping dating horror stories, but don’t force anything just for the sake of trying to prove that you’re ready for a friendship.
Accept that your ex may not want to give you a play-by-play of what’s going on with their love life (and feel free to speak up if they’re actually oversharing in that department).

3 Your friends may not approve.

It’s not their relationship, but that will definitely not stop your friends from throwing a bit of shade at your decision to be friends with your old boo. Even if you’re confident in your choice, understand that it might be really weird for them. Give them time to adjust, and hopefully they’ll come around. 4Your mutual friends may be kind of awkward.

4 Your mutual friends may be kind of awkward




5 Their new partner may be suspicious of you.

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People are accustomed to former couples being petty or vengeful after they part ways, so don’t be surprised if your ex’s new boo isn’t so keen on you still being in the picture. They might think you secretly want that old thing back, or maybe they still have beef with their ex, which informs the way they treat you. Either way, tread carefully.

Source: http://www.xirkings.com/2017/10/7-truths-you-have-to-accept-if-youre.html?m=1

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