I knew this man back when I was in secondary School. he was the talk of the street, had so many girlfriends he is well educated too.

everything was working for him as a single guy back then.

fast forward to now, this guy got married with kids and has a not too reasonable job, but can still keep food on the table but the problem I have is that he isn't properly dressed, he has even paid for his wife's higher education too.

with all the money this man has been making, you see nothing in him, but his kids are looking good and wife too.

my problem is that, is it a hard thing for the wife to remove a little money out of her allowance and buy some shirts and good shoes for this man, I know this man can be worked up and forget about doing most of those things due to the family constantly on his mind.

but why is the woman not even caring about the husband, I've noticed something of recent, they don't go to occasions together, makes me think that she's kind of ashamed of the husband.

should i Even talk to her, as in give her advice, I don't like what she's doing.

I need advice

How is it d woman's fault! If he cant take care of himself, yet earning d dole, how is his wife to blame?

ashjay001:
How is it d woman's fault! If he cant take care of himself, yet earning d dole, how is his wife to blame?

forget that thing, ive seen
ladies buy stuff for their man because they care and even if it's not from their cash, they could collect money from the man and buy it.

is she not in the University, that the same husband paid for, I'm believing she'll live one day or so but I doubt due to the kids

MyNewJackeT:


forget that thing, ive seen
ladies buy stuff for their man because they care and even if it's not from their cash, they could collect money from the man and buy it.

is she not in the University, that the same husband paid for, I'm believing she'll live one day or so but I doubt due to the kids

So, u tink d guy is normal, waiting for an ungrateful? lady to use his hard earned cash to buy stuffs for him?!


How do u get to reason that way?! Every month, unless I dont need anything, I stop by n get my self a gift!? If I get runs cash, too, I buy myself something!? If I dont, who will!



As I've told some of my friends, who find themselves in d same predicament, treat urself!? U earned it! U already spend d greater part on them!

Talk to ur friend, not d wife!

The cheapest I get for myself is a couple of beers n cowtail n get them takeaway!? I cant come n kill myself joor.

MyNewJackeT:
I need advice

you need advice? How is their problem your concern? No, what you need is mind your business

There must be a problem if a man's wife cannot even notice that he is looking haggard o

nosiebaba:
There must be a problem if a man's wife cannot even notice that he is looking haggard o

Most wives are like that!? They only notice during courtship or earlier in d marriage!?

Truth is, someone people are naturally not caring, they have this I-don't-care attitude, his wife is like that.

ashjay001:
How is it d woman's fault! If he cant take care of himself, yet earning d dole, how is his wife to blame?

To be sincere, its partially her fault, most men don't care about their look, its left for her to make him dress sharp and look neat and presentable. Its all about being caring.

MaritzaNL:
To be sincere, its partially her fault, most men don't care about their look, its left for her to make him dress sharp and look neat and presentable. Its all about being caring.

U probably are single? When a hubby doesnt earn mega bucks n d family have to make do with d little he earns, buying for d kids, d home n herself, whats left to buy for oga? Esp, when there is suspicions of a sidechick


The nigga needs to take care of himself!

MaritzaNL:
To be sincere, its partially her fault, most men don't care about their look, its left for her to make him dress sharp and look neat and presentable. Its all about being caring.

thank you

ashjay001:



U probably are single? When a hubby doesnt earn mega bucks n d family have to make do with d little he earns, buying for d kids, d home n herself, whats left to buy for oga? Esp, when there is suspicions of a sidechick


The nigga needs to take care of himself!

if the guy can feed and pay School fees of kids and fees of the wife too then there's no way that wife won't afford to buy his man some shirts at least

MyNewJackeT:


if the guy can feed and pay School fees of kids and fees of the wife too then there's no way that wife won't afford to buy his man some shirts at least

Honestly speaking , What ur noticing apply to most married men..They hardly have time for personal self. But once dey seperate or divorce u will see the difference .

Op, u and ur colleagues shud stop saying Wat u dnt no, besides, u dnt live wt dem. I hv a dad Dats like dat, Al D clothes we bought 4 hm ar al parked in 2 big bags,he wud rather wear old ones dan d new ones, he only touch d new ones wen dose old ones becomes weak, d last time I visited, I threatened hm dat I wl take dose clothes 2 d market and sell den, he laughed and sed, he wl even help me carry dem 2 d market. Pple may see hm and begin to judge d family nt knowing dat its neva d family's fault, it mayb same wt d man in question.

A family man is judged or appraised by the appearance of his wife and kids. You already said they are looking Behind and well fed. That is a responsible and selfless husband and father. You also mentioned that he does not have a very good job, yet he gives the family the best of what he gets.
What else does the Op want? the man should be commended for putting his wife and children's needs above his own.

Let the wife don't teach him how to dress
Cos when he starts dressing well with swags all these slay queens around with their piercing will start looking for how to devour the man

It's every wife's duty to ensure that her man dresses like a prince every blessed day. If a man is not well dressed, his wife should help him. But op, wetin concern you? You better don't talk to his wife if you don't want trouble

There's a difference between not dressing well and not wearing the latest.

Also there is a difference between how a married and a single man budget/spends money.

For most married men they tend to spend more on their wife and kids in as much as they are looking good that's we feel fulfilled.
The rest goes to cars maintenance, projects like building a new house, saving towards the next house rent, school fees etc. Most times all you actually spend on yourself is that 2 bottles of Big Legend and a plate of hot pepper soup at Mama Gees place. (Even at that you still get take away for Madam)

He might not be wearing the latest and best of designers this ... and .. that. but if he is not looking tattered. He is happy!
My advice for you, let them be!

MaritzaNL:
To be sincere, its partially her fault, most men don't care about their look, its left for her to make him dress sharp and look neat and presentable. Its all about being caring.

I've been following ur posts for some time now and I'll say this is the most sensible of them all


Don't call me monitoring spirit o

gist4real:
There's a difference between not dressing well and not wearing the latest.

Also there is a difference between how a married and a single man budget/spends money.

For most married men they tend to spend more on their wife and kids in as much as they are looking good that's we feel fulfilled.
The rest goes to cars maintenance, projects like building a new house, saving towards the next house rent, school fees etc. Most times all you actually spend on yourself is that 2 bottles of Big Legend and a plate of hot pepper soup at Mama Gees place. (Even at that you still get take away for Madam)

He might not be wearing the latest and best of designers this ... and .. that. but if he is not looking tattered. He is happy!
My advice for you, let them be!

yeah that plate of hot pepper soup, but I still remember him in his glory days, and it seems quite a lot has changed.

or this could be his best days apart from the other days being days of vanity.

but no one has talked about the wife's act of shame towards the husband.

MyNewJackeT:


if the guy can feed and pay School fees of kids and fees of the wife too then there's no way that wife won't afford to buy his man some shirts at least

Go n marry, 2yrs later, lets have ds convo again!? U think say na by semantics!


He was well dressed b4 marriage, why did he stop? Same way we complain abt wives that tie wrapper after one or two kids. U need to look good, maybe not great sha

Just talk to ur guy.

ashjay001:



Go n marry, 2yrs later, lets have ds convo again!? U think say na semantics!

guy Wetin you dey talk, so your wife no fit go market see small Okrika shirt or polo buy for you at least make you dey get changes.

which kind wife be that.

MyNewJackeT:


guy Wetin you dey talk, so your wife no fit go market see small Okrika shirt or polo buy for you at least make you dey get changes.

which kind wife be that.

As I said; go n marry!? Just try to be exceedingly loaded!?

The anambra people said that the way their wife dress is the way they(the husband)will be address.so if the woman and children dress good then the man is good too.secondly wives are the ones that takes care of their husband's dressing too.

What's wrong with you discussing with the man in question?
What's your business with his wife?
Are you also eyeing her?
If you're really so concerned, you can even buy him some clothes or offer to take him to where he can get nice clothes to wear

What's your own sef?

pu7pl3:



I've been following ur posts for some time now and I'll say this is the most sensible of them all


Don't call me monitoring spirit o

I hope am entertaining you, this one you don turn monitoring spirit .

MaritzaNL:
I hope am entertaining you, this one you don turn monitoring spirit .

Thought I told you not to call me a monitoring spirit

pu7pl3:


Thought I told you not to call me a monitoring spirit

You obviously are, to think that you are not even following me on nairaland. Its because of monitoring spirits I deactivate my account every time. I don't like being monitored.

MaritzaNL:
You obviously are, to think that you are not even following me on nairaland. Its because of monitoring spirits I deactivate my account every time. I don't like being monitored.

Oya it av do..seems like the little praise went to your head and uve reverted back to senseless posts