hanassholesolo:


Really? Are you someone I know?

nah you dont know me but you normally mentioned this moniker "L3G3ND"

CEEcey:
Being an introvert/shy person really sucks


I recently met one nice guy on fb, we have being chatting for the past 6months but anytime dude ask to see me, am always giving an excuse.not because i dont want to see him


With ma phone u go think say i be one extrovert like that

Judging from your statement. So its safe to say 90% of people on Nairaland including the prolific ones like Benita27 is an Introvert in real life.

Now I know

Dasherz:


nah you dont know me but you normally mentioned this moniker "L3G3ND"

Yeah, I haven't seen that monicker in a long time, why the f#ck do you keep deactivating?

Darkseid:
The problem with the OP is not introversion but low low self-esteem. I'm an introvert too but still everybody wants to be around me. I don't talk much but when I do, I always put smile on people's face and I smile a lot too, I guess smile draws people closer.
So Mr. OP try to work on your self-esteem. I won't give up introversion for 10 million dollars. Extroverted life sucks.

Exactly,you nailed it,Introvert and shyness/low self esteem are two different things. Speaking from experience, I love my quiet nature but when I feel like talking(only to those am comfortable with), you would think am a comedian and other times,I just want to go into my shell. Introvert has to do with being reserved,doesn't mean you can't mingle but you just love your privacy

hanassholesolo:


Yeah, I haven't seen that monicker in a long time, why the f#ck do you keep deactivating?

just felt like deactivating it ....

Dasherz:
I swear given a choice I won't choose to be an introvert. .. it sucks .. really sucks

I can only get to express myself better when I think I'm quite comfortable with whoever is around me asides that I just try to live normally on the net..

but recently I've decided to defy my nature, step out there; make friends in school and church. . at least baby steps

Haha,my twinnie,in my opinion the best you can do is to embrace who you are and make it work for you. You can still be an Introvert and have friend's even socialise. Just try and see what works for you. It z well dear but most importantly, do not let introversion rub you of some memorable activities in life else you would regret it,and that's when you will begin to hate your introverted nature

Windflower:

Haha,my twinnie,in my opinion the best you can do is to embrace who you are and make it work for you. You can still be an Introvert and have friend's even socialise. Just try and see what works for you. It z well dear but most importantly, [b]do not let introversion rub you of some memorable activities in life else you would regret it,[/b]and that's when you will begin to hate your introverted nature

yea .. I just wrote down my bucket list I have alot planned out and I just hope this will work out. @bolded i've missed out on alot and I need to start having friends .. I am tired of an almost empty phonebook

Dasherz:


yea .. I just wrote down my bucket list I have alot planned out and I just hope this will work out. @bolded i've missed out on alot and I need to start having friends .. I am tired of an almost empty phonebook

Lol,Berra cos when people recounts all the fun they had in their school and nysc days,I had just be looking at them. In some way,I don't really have any regrets cos I had my own fun in my own little way.

Also,be careful of friends,I also enjoy my privacy because I don't like having issh with people,and trust me there is no way you will relate with people and not have qualms with them,so being an Introvert helps me in this aspect

Introvert from birth, introvert now and introvert forever
#Introversion rocks#
No regrets

Darkseid:
The problem with the OP is not introversion but low low self-esteem. I'm an introvert too but still everybody wants to be around me. I don't talk much but when I do, I always put smile on people's face and I smile a lot too, I guess smile draws people closer.
So Mr. OP try to work on your self-esteem. I won't give up introversion for 10 million dollars. Extroverted life sucks.

And what makes u to think such.

Lol
Little advice for guys who wanna reduce their introversion
* Try to stay outside a bit more.....
just come outside in the evening and hear what the neighbours are discussing, then chip in if necessary.... Introverts have deep knowledge so everyone will love your unexpected contribution

Also

Don't put on ear piece while walking on the street so that you can see and notice the few people that are smiling or greeting you.
Who knows, you could get a new friend just like that


btw...
Lemme go-and prepare the THUNDER that will faya d person sayig that Extrovertism Sucks.....

shuu

Dasherz:


I've also been ditching dates too. .. and unfortunately for me the last time Í managed to go for one the guy ended up being a blabber. . just kept talking and was extremely noisy. . I just gave up. .
from lecture halls to the hostel than to church .. that's just my life

.

No doubt after reading your comments I see that most people here who are introverts are comfortable and doing well with it while some are not.

Really, I would have loved to remained an introvert but my inability to create a conversation and to hold one, change it when becoming boring has caused much headache on me.

Could you imagine this morning I went to buy something then the woman was complaining after seeing a woman without bra. She was trying to engage me in a convo but my mind flies, and the woman could see my dumped mood. I was like what will, ok, so u dont like that she said no and I stopped, the convo died and I stood there till my change was brought and I left.

This has made me sit and sleep in my room while my neighbours chat outside. In fact, I was closer to my neighbors and learn how to come closer to them because their wives would always reach out to me for money and other things then their husbands now started coming closer to me.

Despite being an introvert I would have appreciated if I would have be able to keep a convo.

This is just my problem and I would have been just comfortable if I could have kept conversation.

I so love introverted girls. Especially the brainy ones
My wife must be an introvert

[quote author=deafeyez .[/quote]
I don't think the fact that you didn't start a convo with the woman is a bad thing.
Firstly,have you tried to understand the reason behind it cos if it were me,I would have done the same. The only comment I would utter is really,en en,na wa o
Why because am a fan of minding your business,if someone doesn't wear bra,does it add to the money in my account. I hate gossiping,I hate talking on frivolities. Even if I want to gossip about something,its would be with my closest pal like family, the same woman that gossiped about the woman not wearing bra will find something to say about you too to the next person immediately you leave there. So op,don't beat yourself up on this. Being an introvert has helped me in a way,cos I can't stand hypocrisy, so I prefer to keep to myself, even as introverts has its disadvantages, I had still be an introvert any day anytime,I might just have to adjust on some things.

if i were 2 b a man, I wl surely go 4 introvert, nagging is nt in dia blood, even wen dey ar at fault and u scold dem, instead of responding bak, dey wud rather begin to shed tears and d man may even b forced to start consoling dem, dey ar jst 2 romantic, bt men ar different in dat field, i dnt like introverted men

bpee:
I so love introverted girls. Especially the brainy ones
My wife must be an introvert

IAMSASHY:
if i were 2 b a man, I wl surely go 4 introvert, nagging is nt in dia blood, even wen dey ar at fault and u scold dem, instead of responding bak, dey wud rather begin to shed tears and d man may even b forced to start consoling dem, dey ar jst 2 romantic, bt men ar different in dat field, i dnt like introverted men

most introverted guys are the most romantic and they hardly cheat, they no get time to de pursue woman upandan

Cuteamigo1:
its embarrassing sometimes. let me give you an example. thier was a day at the bank i was on cue and when i got to the teller she said are we fighting, i said no she said why am i frowning and smiled and said that is my normal facial expression and we all laughed. then i went for my nysc clearance and my LI was like why you de bon face and i was just feeling very normal and i remembered my encounter at the bank and smiled again. then thier was a day i went to snap a passport photograph and the photographer was like oga smile now and i was KUKU KILL ME, this my introverted altitude will not conquer me anymore. av started smilling more, and that has earned me more friends both male and female.

omo Dats wat am suffering now.... People always complain dat I frown too much. As from yesterday, I started practicing a normal look in the mirror before going out.

[quote author=djpaparazzi post=61836393]omo Dats wat am suffering now.... People always complain dat I frown too much. As from yesterday, I started practicing a normal look in the mirror before going out.[/quote
Thats good. What i think you should also do is to smile a little bit more. That would open you up to people.]

[quote author=Cuteamigo1 post=61840943][/quote]thanks

Being an introvert rocks, but be careful not to act weird while at it.
I am an introvert,i love my privacy and I'm very reserved but I talk when necessary. I might not initiate a convo with a stranger but when they do, I can keep the convo going for as long as I deem necessary.

The best thing about being an introvert Is that it keeps you away from trouble, cos most problems starts with a dialogue.however,i repeat, while at it, don't act weird!!