hello everyone...

I am a 26 yr old guy, and i'm not writing this thread in a bid to get any attention, but rather because its actually happening to me, and i have tried my best in so many ways to over-come this nasty addiction that has been eating at me for years....

I started masturbating at the age of 14, a habit that i picked up from a fellow student in boarding school. The habit actually started-off as a fun thing, but as i grew older, it started getting worse, worse in the sense that i moved from jerking off once a day to several times daily.

This has been going on since i was 14, but it never gave me any real concern because i was so young and naive, and also because i enjoyed it, and it never did cost me anything, unlike gambling, or smoking, or alcoholism, until i became 21.

At 21, I started noticing that my addiction was affecting my sexuality in more ways than i can count, it was even interfering with my sleep patterns. Infact the addiction became far more difficult to control, because i now had the internet at my disposal and also an extra addiction to porn which tripled my problem.

I have fasted and prayed, i have even put shame away and discussed it with a pastor, i have also tried out different rehabilitation programmes i found on youtube. But yet, i cannot seem to keep my hand away from my manliness.

I am confused, and in desperate need of help, because i cannot keep living this way.

Will appreciate any advice i can get.

thanks

Wait I dey come...




Ehen I don show...


Brother... Truth is ...you cant stop it. Just fuvvck yourself to death.

Hahahaha bruhhhh get a girlfriend who'd fucck you regularly

Should work

Sorry OP, try to be strong and resist the urge. Set your goal and always remember your goal when the temptation comes it will give you the strength to resist temptation.

Emmmm.. ..take ur time.. .pray for a good wife... Stop staying alone. ..get room mates

bruh just try masturbate with a chinese balm..i swr dat 'd be ur last time!

Regular sex will keep u away from it. At least having sex every day will help. If ur girl friend is equal to the tacts.

Op go an get a girlfriend or a fuk buddy bikonu

Whenever the thought comes, you should try engaging yourself in activties that will take your mind off it. Play games, read books, go out.
Try being around people always and maybe get a babe that wont deny you sex..
Continue praying as well.

ogoloray:
hello everyone...

I am a 26 yr old guy, and i'm not writing this thread in a bid to get any attention, but rather because its actually happening to me, and i have tried my best in so many ways to over-come this nasty addiction that has been eating at me for years....

I started masturbating at the age of 14, a habit that i picked up from a fellow student in boarding school. The habit actually started-off as a fun thing, but as i grew older, it started getting worse, worse in the sense that i moved from jerking off once a day to several times daily.

This has been going on since i was 14, but it never gave me any real concern because i was so young and naive, and also because i enjoyed it, and it never did cost me anything, unlike gambling, or smoking, or alcoholism, until i became 21.

At 21, I started noticing that my addiction was affecting my sexuality in more ways than i can count, it was even interfering with my sleep patterns. Infact the addiction became far more difficult to control, because i now had the internet at my disposal and also an extra addiction to porn which tripled my problem.

I have fasted and prayed, i have even put shame away and discussed it with a pastor, i have also tried out different rehabilitation programmes i found on youtube. But yet, i cannot seem to keep my hand away from my manliness.

I am confused, and in desperate need of help, because i cannot keep living this way.

Will appreciate any advice i can get.

thanks

If I can survive masturbation of over 21 years, you can survive as well. I masturbated to the point that mere immoral thought will make me cum. Sometimes I masturbate 5 times in a day. At a point, I became afraid when I noticed that I ejaculate almost nothing, my manhood became shrink, weak erection became my companion coupled with internal heat. It looks as if there's a force pushing me to do it. Immoral thought, lust of the flesh and eyes ate me up. When I was about to get married I was seriously afraid that I might not impregnate my wife fearing that I might have low sperm count. But that was not to be as I impregnated her without delay. But alas, I seek the face of God in the Lord's Chosen Church as the pastor prayed, the yoke was broken. SHALOM.

kunlesufyan:
Whenever the thought comes, you should try engaging yourself in activties that will take your mind off it. Play games, read books, go out.
Try being around people always and maybe get a babe that wont deny you sex..
Continue praying as well.

Bros, these things doesn't work. At a point you'll still find yourself bn lonely and masturbate again. Only prayer and total surrendering to God helped me.

Slimzjoe:
Lol...you only believe you have a problem because society makes it appear so.

There's nothing wrong in you masturbating. You have the right to explore that aspect of sexuality to the apex. You'll get control over it with time and be able to decide when you jerk off without guilt. Gradually, it won't be a problem to you and die a natural death maybe or you'll realise it's the not the cos of your problems

Ogoloray pls don't take this advice. Masturbation is evil. Don't allow atheists to deceive you. Seek the face of God.

ogoloray:
hello everyone...

I am a 26 yr old guy, and i'm not writing this thread in a bid to get any attention, but rather because its actually happening to me, and i have tried my best in so many ways to over-come this nasty addiction that has been eating at me for years....

I started masturbating at the age of 14, a habit that i picked up from a fellow student in boarding school. The habit actually started-off as a fun thing, but as i grew older, it started getting worse, worse in the sense that i moved from jerking off once a day to several times daily.

This has been going on since i was 14, but it never gave me any real concern because i was so young and naive, and also because i enjoyed it, and it never did cost me anything, unlike gambling, or smoking, or alcoholism, until i became 21.

At 21, I started noticing that my addiction was affecting my sexuality in more ways than i can count, it was even interfering with my sleep patterns. Infact the addiction became far more difficult to control, because i now had the internet at my disposal and also an extra addiction to porn which tripled my problem.

I have fasted and prayed, i have even put shame away and discussed it with a pastor, i have also tried out different rehabilitation programmes i found on youtube. But yet, i cannot seem to keep my hand away from my manliness.

I am confused, and in desperate need of help, because i cannot keep living this way.

Will appreciate any advice i can get.

thanks

No amount of rules can bring you out of masturbation even though you have to be disciplined and be decisive about it. Jesus said " Come on to me all ye that labour ( to overcome sin) and that are heavy laden ( with sin and its guilt), I will give you rest .You can't seek God whole hearted and you will not find him. The first step to victory is '' Submit to God and resist the devil". The total submission of your life to God is the first thing, total willingness to start living a life of holiness not only in the matter of masturbation will open the door of victory for you. After this, be sure that God will always stay by your side to overcome this 'devil'. God bless you

ogoloray:
hello everyone...

I am a 26 yr old guy, and i'm not writing this thread in a bid to get any attention, but rather because its actually happening to me, and i have tried my best in so many ways to over-come this nasty addiction that has been eating at me for years....

I started masturbating at the age of 14, a habit that i picked up from a fellow student in boarding school. The habit actually started-off as a fun thing, but as i grew older, it started getting worse, worse in the sense that i moved from jerking off once a day to several times daily.

This has been going on since i was 14, but it never gave me any real concern because i was so young and naive, and also because i enjoyed it, and it never did cost me anything, unlike gambling, or smoking, or alcoholism, until i became 21.

At 21, I started noticing that my addiction was affecting my sexuality in more ways than i can count, it was even interfering with my sleep patterns. Infact the addiction became far more difficult to control, because i now had the internet at my disposal and also an extra addiction to porn which tripled my problem.

I have fasted and prayed, i have even put shame away and discussed it with a pastor, i have also tried out different rehabilitation programmes i found on youtube. But yet, i cannot seem to keep my hand away from my manliness.

I am confused, and in desperate need of help, because i cannot keep living this way.

Will appreciate any advice i can get.

thanks

dude go get a girl, the only way out is you having a girl, try have regular sex with her.

Try not to be alone, engage yourself.

The urge to masturbate comes from the energy in ur body. Your mission is to kill that urge.
Here’s my 1kobo
THE PHYSICAL SOLUTION:
-Try as much as possibe to stay away from any sex content, anything that would fuel the urge, stay away from porn, stay away from the internet(If possible and if not, u avoid topics that are sex related.
-Always get urself exhausted by ur schedules and routines, in such a way that only sleeping would come to ya mind.
-Try fasting alot, Try to fast on very light food and break ur fasting with light foods also, i.e fasting on #50 bread and water only and breaking with a cup of garri. (The mission is to weaken d energy that runs in ur body, cause it’s that energy that fuels the sex urge). And yeah u will so feel weak to channel ur energy to do other things, but u gotta endure.
PSYCHOLOGICAL SOLUTION
-Have this strong belief that you will overcome it.
-Never let the fact that u failed once eat u up, get up and start over again.
-Never let the fear of u getting sexually aroused and going back to masturbation get to you. Be like:Bitch I ain’t fvcking coming back to you”
-Always try to forget the fact dt you have a problem(Masturbation)
-Stop counting the abstination days using days, the urge would make tge days slow in ur eyes, count in weeks instead.
-U should know that the more u abstain from masturbation, the more the hunger for it will grow(Usually around the fourth to the fifteenth day, if u successfully pass this stage, my brother u are done with masturbation)Here’s the solution, try telling urself from day one that u got a wicked and cruel enemy waiting for u and u gotta prepare real hard.
-See masturbation as a very evil, ruthless and callous person, one who doesn’t want u to succed in this life, are u gonna act like a boy and let it whoop ur ass or u are going to act like the man ur father believes he can defeat any evil, the man ur mom firmly believes he could tear a lion with his bare hands, when in trouble, ur siblings would run to u for a safe abode, they believe u can help the overcome any evil, if ur family thinks so high of u why let them down by thinking lowly of urself, common make ur family proud and truimph over this enemy!!
SPIRITUAL SOLUTION
-Since God created you, and he love you, why not carry your problems to him and let him fight your battle for you. Pray bro, pray real hard, pray to your lord to save fmyou from masturbation just as you would pray to him to save u from hellfire.


Lastly, slowly and steady wins the game, if u are a five star addict, try reducing it to four then to three then two then one until u have ur sanity back and a total control over masturbation
Good luck �

Get yourself a girlfriend

You only masturbate when you've got nothing doing. Find something doing bro. It might help dawg

Protect your senses (what you see, hear and talk about).

More so, always hang around people and avoid private things.


Restrict your exposure to the internet most especially sexual content.


Daily target. Always challenge yourself on daily basis not to masturbate.


Prayers and determination. It takes only you to save yourself from mastubation.

Op you've ever had sex?

ogoloray:
hello everyone...

I am a 26 yr old guy, and i'm not writing this thread in a bid to get any attention, but rather because its actually happening to me, and i have tried my best in so many ways to over-come this nasty addiction that has been eating at me for years....

I started masturbating at the age of 14, a habit that i picked up from a fellow student in boarding school. The habit actually started-off as a fun thing, but as i grew older, it started getting worse, worse in the sense that i moved from jerking off once a day to several times daily.

This has been going on since i was 14, but it never gave me any real concern because i was so young and naive, and also because i enjoyed it, and it never did cost me anything, unlike gambling, or smoking, or alcoholism, until i became 21.

At 21, I started noticing that my addiction was affecting my sexuality in more ways than i can count, it was even interfering with my sleep patterns. Infact the addiction became far more difficult to control, because i now had the internet at my disposal and also an extra addiction to porn which tripled my problem.

I have fasted and prayed, i have even put shame away and discussed it with a pastor, i have also tried out different rehabilitation programmes i found on youtube. But yet, i cannot seem to keep my hand away from my manliness.

I am confused, and in desperate need of help, because i cannot keep living this way.

Will appreciate any advice i can get.

thanks

renew your mind and delete all porn from ya phone
you can do it
dont try to stop immediately
do it
just stop gradually till you marry

YES!!! i have

thank you sir...

i appreciate the concern

Masturbation is generally one habit difficult to stop. it is better you do not start it. even a long hiatus from it is not a guarantee you are done with it. you can only minimize the frequency, but total abstinence takes a whole lot. going by the age you started, i must say that is a very curious and age sexually exciting building hormones are developed. your body has become acclimatized to the hunger and satisfaction it gives you.

i must say 90 percent sure you are an introvert. you do not have much friends and probably do not have the self esteem to talk to girls, your world is made beautiful by by the countless porn and several fetishes on the Internet. you prolly have many.

So first is to Get a girlfriend who is sexually active, let her know your fetishes (just hope it does not involve the extreme though) if, it turns her on too....then you have defeated one stubborn part of the urge. provided she always gives you a dosage of your fetish and turn-ons. get a sexually active girlfriend, believe me, she will help cure it to some extent..it is a segmental process.

secondly, always try to be in a company of people. loneliness most times is the cause of masturbation, you feel the urge more when you are alone. (i am 100 % right on this one, right??). find somethig else you like doing....but believe me it is a hard task .you must be committed.

thirdly....the Internet is a very big challenge to the Masturbator, the urge comes when you check up your usual sex sites and look up those fetish images that turns you on. if you can get a Nokia Torch light phone, better. but i would advise you face it squarely,because trying to avoid the Internet will only build the curiosity and hunger again. do not stop going to those sites , view them as preamble to having sex with your girl, not for masturbation. if you try to stay away from the Internet, well, the kind of hunger and anxiety to see those pictures or videos again will be unpredictable when you finally have a phone that is Internet enabled.

Lastly, do not feel guilt when you go back to it again after some trial, as i said before, it is a very stubborn habit to stop . give your self another challenge and start all over...that will do till you are married and believe me, then you will have almost a complete control over it as long as you got your self a sexually oriented woman who can give it to you anytime...(not these pretenders roaming all over) worst thing that will happen to you is marrying a timid one. who prolly hates sex...but believe me, if you get a wife who knows what's up, your frequency will be greatly reduced.
good luck acting on these tips.

Give up the internet for 6 months or even a year. That way you wouldn't watch porn and you will have a total peach of mind.

Also get really busy.

Rokia2:
Give up the internet for 6 months or even a year. That way you wouldn't watch porn and you will have a total peach of mind.

Also get really busy.

quite a nice tip....but he will definitely run back to it once the Internet comes back to his palms. it is a psychological thing...i have studied the trend and understand the workings behind it. it is pretty difficult avoiding Internet these days remember?? it is now part of us. i bet you cannot advise him to stop coming to Nairaland too...because you cannot view the threads here if you do no have an Internet access.
it is one stubborn habit one cannot fight off completely but gradually,it is segmental, break it down and fight the bits . then you will have a hold over it.
i like your last line....getting really busy is a plus.

Rokia2:
Give up the internet for 6 months or even a year. That way you wouldn't watch porn and you will have a total peach of mind.

Also get really busy.

see hips..

Check Nofap.com.

Slimzjoe:
Lol...you only believe you have a problem because society makes it appear so.

There's nothing wrong in you masturbating. You have the right to explore that aspect of sexuality to the apex. You'll get control over it with time and be able to decide when you jerk off without guilt. Gradually, it won't be a problem to you and die a natural death maybe or you'll realise it's the not the cos of your problems

Everything is wrong with it when one gets "ADDICTED" to it, CAN'T DO WITHOUT IT and CAN'T CONTROL IT.....

kunlesufyan:
Whenever the thought comes, you should try engaging yourself in activties that will take your mind off it. Play games, read books, go out.






Try being around people always and maybe get a babe that wont deny you sex..
Continue praying as well.

Does this make sense to you?.
You want him to be committing fornication and at same time be praying to God for help.

coolh3ad:


Everything is wrong with it when one gets "ADDICTED" to it, CAN'T DO WITHOUT IT and CAN'T CONTROL IT.....

Some people have not experienced it that's why they thinks that it's that easy to do away with it.