RalphJean:


Which yeye Labour?
Labour that can’t say what they want about BreXit.

Tories ALL THE WAY!!

sgtponzihater1:


I say the truth. That's where many of my issues come from. I have told Dentists who they really are, same with nurses. But I shouldn't suffer in real life for what I said on a peer to peer forum.

Away from my troubles, so many good things are going on. Off to Brent cross shopping center after church tomorrow. Watched that it's the oldest shopping complex in the UK

sgtponzihater1:


In Naija rent wasn't an issue for me. Nurses are paid crap, and I didn't need those help. Rent for a year could be paid with a months pay. It's totally different here.

However I am sorry for derailing this lovely thread with my problems. Forgive me sincerely while I look on God for help.

You already see me as a loser and a bad man so I have nothing to proof again.

Thanks for your help.

LagosismyHome:


they say thereis barely enough funds to keep the nhs afloat, so realistically speaking how can the government afford this without raising taxes :free university tuition for our kids, free and quality healthcare (including dental), cost-effective utilities .............impossible, only if UK is oil rich like the middle east of those days

Lexusgs430:



God would never descend to assist you..... Remember, heaven helps those, that help themselves........

Lexusgs430:
One of the major reasons for divorce is finances. Gone are the days when the man slaves like a monkey, pays all the bills, while the wife spends her money on all other issues, apart from the family front........


Couples should write out all expenses and allocate financial roles, to avoid stories that touches the kidney......

If Husband/wife is l/are earning £5000 pcm, while the other person is earning £1500 pcm... They should work out what is what and who is who........

RalphJean:


Lexus430:
Sgtponzihater1 has previously practically ran a series on Nairaland Religion page on that topic.
His contributions on that topic was fantastic!

Aphrodite007:

He who wear a shoe knows where it pinches most. If u are not a situation, you can never understand that very situation. @Aphrodite, this man is here for an advice not for condemnation. Pls trade with care.
Good for her then. They should divorce then she should apply for her own. It’s just 6 months she’s losing, it’s not much. I can’t imagine what she has to go through being married to a man like that.

Man that is meant to be pampering me (pregnant or not) is expecting me to... mschew let me not be angry this night. Not worth it!

Aphrodite007:


Hmm I feel like I should take my words back. Hold on one sec.perfume can actually be irritating to pregnant women. A good man should understand this and be happy to spray it outside.

Cooking for yourself? I don’t understand- is she a good machine? Did they burn your hand? That woman is carrying a child and you still expect her to do all the chores, what is she, your slave?

Taking the bins out? Ogbeni haba! She works o- And you expect her to do all this? Your entitlement reeks! My husband washes the plates at home. I’ve never touched bins in my life. Indian food, he stopped eating it cos I don’t like the smell.

Look at me think she was the problem. You clearly are. You’re a wicked man!

LagosismyHome:


well it obvious both parties dont care for each other ......... Despite been pregnant , if she making for herself , if she really care she will make a pack for him as well . Has nothing to do with Low Mentality

however maybe something happened in the early part of the marriage that made her stop caring and switch off mentally

sgtponzihater1:


Stop judging me. I do these all the time for the past 12weeks. I don't mind doing it. But when it's now my job. She had to even remind me that she's going to work, I should pls throw out the trash later. I can do alot if only I am appreciated. The same lady told me if not her condition, she can never imagine herself eating food that I cooked. Won't thanks for all you have been doing be better.

Anyway I am wicked of paying my rent, and paying council tax, and preparing my food pack to work for the past 12 weeks, and sweeping my house daily and throwing the garbage and washing plate.

We had a 2week cooling period EON has brought bill for that, she agreed to pay power and internet, but EON sent a message to state that we have refused to pay and they'll take measures. On Monday I will call and ask them to put the bill on me so as to save myself. Yet I am a wicked man.

3months in UK all I have sent to all my siblings and parents combined is 200 pounds. I know how much I have seen her send, but i am a wicked man.

Cheers for your support for your follow woman.

Afterthought: Noticed when she was registering for energy, she stylishly added both our names so if she doesn't pay I get a message. Same I got for internet. But I am a very bad man, say another lady.

sgtponzihater1:


So out of ones salary tell me how much clothes will stop one from paying 84 pounds.

Aphrodite007:


Father Lord
I decree and declare, that no man with such a mentality should ever set eyes on my sister, friends or unborn daughters in the Name of Jesus!

I rebuke any man, that thinks with such a low mentality! Holy Ghost fire! Holy Ghost fire!

You that is mean to be making breakfast for her.. God forbid bad thing! Poor woman!

EngrSaks:


Quite frustrating, this country needs two cooperative partners to ease things, especially with your London location...

I will he praying for your family, but please dont give up on her....for a marriage to work sometimes it just needs one willing partner

Do your best to talk to her in a calm environment, you guys need to bring out a calculator and assign responsibilities...

Also start praying together, village people can do wonders o

God be with you bro

sgtponzihater1:


In Naija rent wasn't an issue for me. Nurses are paid crap, and I didn't need those help. Rent for a year could be paid with a months pay. It's totally different here.

However I am sorry for derailing this lovely thread with my problems. Forgive me sincerely while I look on God for help.

You already see me as a loser and a bad man so I have nothing to proof again.

Thanks for your help.

justwise:


Aphrodite007.? It goes both ways! Nobody marries a teddy bear any more, if you don't help or appreciate your husband then get ready to be on your own.

I can't imagine marrying a wife who will not contribute financially here in the U.K even when we both work and earn almost the same?

There is a reason why men generally die before their wives ...

RalphJean:



Wait..... bros.
Calm Down.

In June 2019 you were glad to be relocating to the UK.
Less than 6 months later, it’s has got this bad?

RalphJean:



This marriage was contracted in Nigeria.
And it was out of Love.
Then emigration happened.
And in less than 6 months of moving to the UK, the marriage is this damaged?
Is this a UK thing or the marriage would have crashed anyway?

And based on some previous replies on Nairaland, the marriage is still fresh.
Come on mate...did you bring this woman to the UK to throw her out after just 6 months?

sgtponzihater1:


Calling me a Guyman cannot help me now. I am no more a Guyman. Thing is knowing that I didn't bother her in the past should make her know that things have really changed. I have Locumed almost every single weekend to hold everything together. But yesterday and today I've decided to just rest, before it becomes counter productive.

Life shouldn't be this way.

wonlasewonimi:
Sgtponzihater1 is that all?

Welcome to the club!

Marriage is no bed of roses, go and ask all married they endured so much shiit. If you ask for her side of the stories, she would have bucket loads.

Sit her down, show her how much you earn and agree on a reasonable formula.

Bros man, cook for yourself, if you cannot, go to mamaput buy eforiro, egusi, ilaasepo put in the freezer and do Ebay or poundo on top.

Buy a good throw and put on the sofa and Netflix like no tomorrow. You only have one life...enjoy it dont let anyone give you hypertension.

Let me tell you, things always fall back into place. This is your storming period in this country..it will normalize.

Lexusgs430:



I am yet to learn how my freezer can get me ebay (maybe freezers now are so technologically advanced).........

justwise:


Aphrodite007.? It goes both ways! Nobody marries a teddy bear any more, if you don't help or appreciate your husband then get ready to be on your own.

I can't imagine marrying a wife who will not contribute financially here in the U.K even when we both work and earn almost the same?

There is a reason why men generally die before their wives ...