DaddyKross:



Lol. I quoted you back because i realised you didn't understand my post. Now, take a chill pill and read that post again. How does it make me Vagina worshiper ? Easy on the drug intake, braah

ubunja:

blocking an entire contribution from another person without even bothering to address his points was just a b!tch move.

ReinaFarine:


Who defined this for you.
It[b] is as dumb as saying the fight against racism is only for the black.[/b].. It is a fight against stereptypic discrimination based of race. The fact that the blacks where the most affected by this doesn't make it a fight just for them.

The fact that women are most affected by sexism doesn't make it theirs alone.

Please read.

Next2Bezee:


It's called FEMinism because it's a rights movement for women. Even the definition you screened says so...a theory or movement that argues that legal and social restrictions on FEMALES be removed...

At least be honest with your definitions. Masculism is the rights movement for men and boys.

Most modern day feminists do not want equal rights and responsibilities between men and women, they want women to be pampered and taken care of (The real feminists of old would be rolling in their graves because of what the movement has become).

I still believe we need feminism in Nigeria, especially in the North...but that's Real Feminism, not this crap going around today.

If you ask me out then it is expected you take care of the bills..if you're earning more than me, it is expected of you to take care of the bills...if i ask you out, it is because i see something in you.....PLEASE! What Rubbish!! No shame at all

Dimples129:


This bull shit doesn't apply in a relationship, or do you need to be told that? How people choose to love is not up for discussion. This is a friendly date.... Love has no rules only solutions.

ReinaFarine:


It is going to be sexist if the teason he's paying for the full date is because he's a MAN.

No... Even if I am a lesbian, you ask me out, before we get to know each other, you pay.

I understand what you're saying...

@What I quoted, feminism encourages both of the sexes to pursue an interest.
In other words, the chyker can be of any gender without being classified as a cheap forward olosho.
In situation where it is the woman that says, can we continue this some other time, she pays for the date.

You declared interest, and until it is certain your feelings are reciprocated, you're goddamn paying for my attention since I didn't ask for yours.

But a time comes like I stated, I crave you as much as you crave me... Paying for a place or dinner of even #3,000,000.00 is worth it if you're considering the reward of hanging out with your
Significant other. And putting a little chirp in their step.

It is not the money. When it becomes a let's get a calculator and divide what you ate or divide until the last kobo, it is more mechanical than passionate...

Devicing a means of showing your SO he/she's appreciated for more than his money without hurting yourself even if it is by taking him to a #300 buka (if that's all you can afford), is what feminism strives to attain.

Thanks OP.

superNOVA1995:
how come feminism doesn't apply here real funny though have always said it that feminism only exist in the internet and not in the real world it's all facade put up by ladies.

Dimples129:


If that's your thoughts, it's yours. I won't argue with you on this. Any excuse to put feminism down, you'll come up with. Life is easy.

DaddyKross:




[s]I don't deal with sissies and alternates. You can kindly go to hell now


Wait a minute, It's you ? Scared of quoting me with your main ? [/s]

Next2Bezee:



Most modern day feminists do not want equal rights and responsibilities between men and women, they want women to be pampered and taken care of (The real feminists of old would be rolling in their graves because of what the movement has become).

I still believe we need feminism in Nigeria, especially in the North...but that's Real Feminism, not this crap going around today.

If you ask me out then it is expected you take care of the bills..if you're earning more than me, it is expected of you to take care of the bills...if i ask you out, it is because i see something in you.....PLEASE! What Rubbish!! No shame at all

Nobodys:
swithrt. you are so filled with wisdom... Please don't even waste your energy in convincing anyone...

lefulefu:
All these one no need long discussion.if u invite and take out a lady its normal for u to pay for the treat...though if she wants to contribute she's free to contribute.always sew ur coat according to ur size by taking her to a place u can afford.its not compulsory u must take her to a very expensive eatery.there are affordable, nice and neat fast food eateries around if u must carry her to one.

shaybebaby:
Reina has said it all, no wonder op has gone to bed. Probably hoping to dream of a suitable reply. Too bad there isn't.

truthsayer009:


lefulefu, It's like you guys are getting it Wrong. Nobody says Guys should not pay for their dates OR cater for their Families financially as a Man should do. I live in Nigeria & I basically pay whatsoever is needed to be paid.

But under the laws of equality, things are different. It is paramount that we all understand what equality entails. That is my point.

but this is what I personally experienced with about 3 ladies i went out with in Central Europe, Same thing when i visited Mauritius. They did it on their own accord. I didn't even ask her to split the bill because I'm a Nigerian (nothing concern me with that na).

As a matter of Fact, in Mauritius a Girl had a long argument with me because I payed her Cinemas tickets in bagatelle. She claims I am thinking she is a prostitute. I was shocked. I had to explain that in Nigerian, things are not done that way.

ReinaFarine:


Sugar, if that's what you say, then I'm both a feminist and a masculinist. I'm neither striving for female or male supremacy. The fact I concentrate on is the Equal right for BOTH of the sexes...

And please, dear, push out the prejudice. Read calmly not as an argumentative statement but as an informative one.

I said: If you ask ME out on the first date, you pay for it. Male, female, relationship wise, business wise, as long as you're the one reaching out to me, then you pay for it.

I said: If you're ewrning more than me in a relationship, especially when the percentage difference is about 250% and above, AND you suggest the date venue that is higher than my price range, since we are already in a relationship where I can't keep asking you to go for my standard all the time, It doesn't have to be 50-50 considering, my income and the fact that you suggested that venue. I never said it is expected you pay the bill. I added, when i suggest venues, I can pay 100% of the bill because i suggested it looking at my pocket.

I won't ask out a dude just because he looks bangable. I either saw him in his element and his persona, comportment and intellect os apealing to me. When it is a physical thing, it is called hook up. Not a date.

I might be mistaken, that's why i ask you out for a you and I time. If your views and goals resonate with mine, or it is different in a healthy competitive way, then we can progress to a relationship if you feel thesame way.

When i approach feminism, i pictute two things.
If I am in the same position as this person, having the same influence, character and wordly possession as so and so, how will I want to be treated by well, someone like this version of me.

Two, If I were a lesbian, how will I handle my partner or want to be handled by my partner.

I keep repeating if an action is accepted or rejected by anybody or the society solely on the basis of Gender, it is sexist.

Please, note that, it is not a generalisation of feminism. This is one of the most silly aspect of the while movement, but Nigerian guys tend to capitalise on this aspect to make a charade of the feminist and his/her opinions.

Feminism must come to stay in every region in Nigeria. Although the North has a long way to go especially in educating the girl child, giving her a voice in the decisions relating to societal building, Saying no to proxy-consensual marriage involving the Female Minor and other complicated matters tied up in their religious and traditional beliefs, Every other region has a part of their culture that demeans the woman to be nothing more than a breeding tool and probably a good house keeper.

This discussion are not the point of this thread. The OP is focusing on Dates. And that is why every opinion of mine tends towards what it was created for. I don't make it an habit of derailing or changing subjects to suit my personal ideas.

Thank you.

Next2Bezee:


Hi

optional1:
he who call for date should take care of the bills...