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When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 12:31pm On Dec 09, 2017
You have the right to choose who you want to invite into your life and there is nothing anyone can do about this but nevertheless,it is saddening that many people have lost potential great union simply because they have the habit of blocking people from their world even without getting to know if that person might just be the one to add value to their lives.

I have seen people who got married to people they least expected and they thank GOD for giving those people the chance to prove themselves.You say you want a good partner yet you are very unfriendly,you love keeping a straight face,you don't respond to PM,DM,TM and you hardly share your contact details and even if you do,you are the type that will see a "hello" on Monday and respond on Friday.You say no good guys or no good ladies whilst you create a secluded world comprising of yourself and those you want but ironically,the people you want may not want you and those you blocked out of your life might just be the ones you need.

How can you ever know if a man or woman is good for you without getting to know them? Give people a chance to know you and try to know them on a friendly note and then decide latter if such is good or bad for you.Stop blocking potential great partners from your life...get to know that unassuming lady and give that guy a chance to relate with you cos you never can tell if h/she will be the one to make you fly without wings...

Remember the song of West life
"Everybody's looking for that something
One thing that makes it all complete

You'll find it in the strangest places
Places you never knew it could be
..."

The fact that you are in a serious romance with another does not mean you should shut the door of your world..remember that knowing someone is not just about romance..and better still,you don't have to give everyone your direct number..you can give them your face-book ID,twitter ID,Skype ID,watt-sup only number or E-mail address....but just stop blocking people from your life because you can never know who you don't know.

Don't know if this makes sense.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by ClassCaptain(m): 12:36pm On Dec 09, 2017
Waiting

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 12:37pm On Dec 09, 2017
E no go pass woman matter.

Modified.

So in essence, you're saying people should be open to make friends but did you forget that everyone mustn't be your friend?.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 12:41pm On Dec 09, 2017
kimbraa:
E no go pass woman matter.

Lol! I love women cos they make the world complete.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by AlexCk: 12:50pm On Dec 09, 2017
*chilling*

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 12:53pm On Dec 09, 2017
Carry on
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 1:25pm On Dec 09, 2017
Lets See What You Have
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Joislim(f): 3:42pm On Dec 09, 2017
The post makes sense

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by InfinixMine: 10:49pm On Dec 09, 2017
lemme pitch a tent..
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 12:17am On Dec 10, 2017
It better be good
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 8:42pm On Dec 10, 2017
alexistaiwo:
It better be good
Well..as i always end my write ups..i hope it makes sense..
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 8:47pm On Dec 10, 2017
Toks2008:

Well..as i always end my write ups..i hope it makes sense..and i think lalasticlala should take a look at it and decide.
Hope you know that you are indirectly advocating for friend zoning parole

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 8:49pm On Dec 10, 2017
alexistaiwo:

Hope you know that you are indirectly advocating for friemdzoning parole

I dont know about that but i believe choosing a partner from a list of friends is better.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 8:55pm On Dec 10, 2017
Toks2008:


I dont know about that but i believe choosing a partner from a list of friends is better.
Friendzone is Friendzone.


Don't sugarcoat it.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 9:00pm On Dec 10, 2017
alexistaiwo:

Friendzone is Friendzone.


Don't sugarcoat it.

Una don come shey! give am another title if you like..my points are clear enough.
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 10:26pm On Dec 10, 2017
alexistaiwo:
Friendzone is Friendzone.

Don't sugarcoat it.
grin.
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Vikky014(f): 10:32pm On Dec 10, 2017
Toks2008:


Lol! I love women cos they make the world complete.
interesting. While men make the world incomplete shey

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Tajbol4splend(m): 11:49pm On Dec 10, 2017
I think there is sense in what op posted, I see life as some place where man should opt for the best but before he can get the best, he must be open to options, being open to knowing people makes you know them, not shutting them off, you don't don't know what it's in it for you, you don't know its worth, but I think the origin of we humans' problem is inability to identify what we really need which may sometimes not be what we want, it's the reason we have problems in the relationships we find ourselves in and which gets us confused, which makes many have difficulties getting along with someone

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 9:44pm On Dec 11, 2017
Tajbol4splend:
I think there is sense in what op posted, I see life as some place where man should opt for the best but before he can get the best, he must be open to options, being open to knowing people makes you know them, not shutting them off, you don't don't know what it's in it for you, you don't know its worth, but I think the origin of we humans' problem is inability to identify what we really need which may sometimes not be what we want, it's the reason we have problems in the relationships we find ourselves in and which gets us confused, which makes many have difficulties getting along with someone


Very true...lalasticlala what do you think?
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 9:46pm On Dec 11, 2017
I love the post

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 10:22pm On Dec 11, 2017
Vikky014:
interesting. While men make the world incomplete shey

Men run things

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Vikky014(f): 10:24pm On Dec 11, 2017
Toks2008:

Men run things
Alright. how are you?

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Vikky014(f): 10:24pm On Dec 11, 2017
Toks2008:

Men run things
Alright. how are you?
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 10:26pm On Dec 11, 2017
Vikky014:
Alright. how are you?

I dey kampe

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Vikky014(f): 10:37pm On Dec 11, 2017
Toks2008:

I dey kampe
alright. enjoy.
Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by ogorwyne(f): 9:58am On Dec 12, 2017
It does make sense. Some people are very good at making friends and keeping them while some of us are so bad at it. Some people will just come in the name of friendship and piss you off for life that you just get very conscious of everybody that comes around you.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by TheManofTomorrow(m): 10:07am On Dec 12, 2017
This your post makes sense but it isn't practical in most cases.

I am know what ladies will go through if they completely follow this your advice.
Do you know some guys are playboys, fuckboys and irresponsible?. So what do expect a lady to do when relating with such?. Gullibly follow up with their Convo even tho it doesn't align with yours just because you wanna make friends or choose from a wide list?

My opinion is that a lady/guy should prove himself worthy before requesting for his/her attention or conversation. You can't be compatible with everyone.

Its no big deal not to relate with those who doesn't align with your interest. It's not easy to friendzone so many pple at once.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Archangel15: 10:53am On Dec 12, 2017
What with the colors

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 8:07pm On Dec 14, 2017
TheManofTomorrow:
This your post makes sense but it isn't practical in most cases.

I am know what ladies will go through if they completely follow this your advice.
Do you know some guys are playboys, fuckboys and irresponsible?. So what do expect a lady to do when relating with such?. Gullibly follow up with their Convo even tho it doesn't align with yours just because you wanna make friends or choose from a wide list?

My opinion is that a lady/guy should prove himself worthy before requesting for his/her attention or conversation. You can't be compatible with everyone.

Its no big deal not to relate with those who doesn't align with your interest. It's not easy to friendzone so many pple at once.

On the contrary, the lady or guy should be very tactful in going about it.

Let's say I'm a lady and a guy comes up to me for my contact and I don't really like the guy,I give him my facebook ID, but if I really like him I can give him my direct line.

The bottom line is that I can always have them as friends whilst keeping myself discreet from their wahala because you never can tell.

Btw has lalasticlala seen this?

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Toks2008(m): 8:13pm On Dec 14, 2017
ogorwyne:
It does make sense. Some people are very good at making friends and keeping them while some of us are so bad at it. Some people will just come in the name of friendship and piss you off for life that you just get very conscious of everybody that comes around you.


It's not even about romance alone.

I have this lady friend that hardly reads or responds to any message sent by a certain guy she met while she was married but unfortunately her husband died and it is this guy she has been ignoring that has become her pillar at the moment.

She kept saying "thank GOD I did not ignore him totally o"

How many ladies have ridiculed a guy they met just to realize he is an oga in the company they seek employment in.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by Nobody: 8:24pm On Dec 14, 2017
What you will understand is that some people are friendly while others are not, some people have likeable attitude while others do not.

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Re: When you build a wall around yourself. by TheManofTomorrow(m): 8:48pm On Dec 14, 2017
Toks2008:


On the contrary, the lady or guy should be very tactful in going about it.

Let's say I'm a lady and a guy comes up to me for my contact and I don't really like the guy,I give him my facebook ID, but if I really like him I can give him my direct line.

The bottom line is that I can always have them as friends whilst keeping myself discreet from their wahala because you never can tell.

Btw has lalasticlala seen this?
I laughed when I saw you write "you can always keep them as friends". Do you know the worst thing a guy hates apart from rejection is being friendzoned? No guy will wait for 3month if his intention of dating a lady is not achieved early enuf. It won't be ideal wasting a guy's time. If you think going about keeping friends just because you never can tell if they will be of help you in the future is an excellent idea. That's wrong

Besides, not every lady have the time and energy to keep up with tons of opposite sx while still sticking to one man. It can lead to developing cheating tendencies you know.

One cannot benefit from everybody. Don't go about keeping friends because of that. A person will help you if they think you deserve it, not if you a friends with them.

Friendship requires time and energy. Time and energy that would otherwise used in productive things.

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