iice:

Then you fall out of love

iice:

Then you fall out of love

ohasol:

well if i may ask, how do you know is the wrong person

Salvie:

what do you do when u are in love with the wrong person: religious difference, academic divide, ethnic mismatch, just name what makes it wrong,

@madlady. . .no i don't

madlady:

You do not pull any punches. But once again you are correct.

Kill that "love" as quickly as possible. It will save you a lot of pain.

blue_blood:

@Ohasol: if the love is leading no where serious (long term eg marriage) then there is nothing wrong. But if ure considering long term, then there indeed are wrong people to fall in love with

i was, or should i say, am a victim. i fell truly and deeply in love with someone on a different religious divide.

in my heart, i knew it couldnt work. and your guess is as good as mine, i tried "preaching" to the person, but, guess we cant just switch faith cos of love

anyways, we still friends and im in a better and more fulfilling relationship now.

Pweety4me:

Ever fallen in-love?

Salvie:

I thought if life's not fair, you could bleach it, but in this case its pretty difficult.

lallafati:

Well, i guess you just have to be careful who you allow your heart to fall for,  love is important but it is definitely not enough sometimes. I just came out of a 4 year long relationship in which i truly gave my all. But differences such as religion, culture and other things like handling money (his closet was 3 times my own and shop till you drop was more than a hobby of his), a lack of ambition, disagreements on handling social life and other things that revealed themselves with time made us incompatible. I really believed love could patch up the differences and I just had to make concessions. Well, i ended up distancing myself from my family and friends, alone in world in which he was king. Made too many concessions in the name of love,  Conclusion: religion and culture are fundamental in a relationship esp if marriage and kids are in the plans. But also other things such as values that one cherishes. Also in a healthy committed relationship you should be able to be your own person, blossoming and developing into a better individual,  not trying to fit a mold to please the other person, unless the change and the reshaping comes from within you.

Salvie:

Thank you so much Lallafati. This' quite helpful for me